A kind of Destiny
She was a strict fateful of the Seventh Day Adventist who lived her life by the particular moral law ...LOVE YOUR LORD.
I was born into a traditional Catholic faith and there is this strong family guide about marrying people from other faiths,all my in-laws are catholic so it was seen as an act of rebellion and an insult to the family should one intend to marry outside our christian faith.
"She was a strict fateful of the Seventh Day Adventist who lived her life by the particular moral law ...LOVE YOUR LORD."
There was another problem apart from our different religious belief.I am an African and she is an European so naturally we both are of different race and it is not common for a black guy of my kind to marry outside my race.
Marrying a white lady to many African culture oriented family was considered an imbalance marriage but to me,i was ready to even loose my family fortune the moment i saw her.It was a defying moment and my heart kept beating faster than ever.
There was something special about this girl and my soul was already in love with her.It was love at first sight and within me,i knew that i will be in love with her forever but approaching her was one other problem because i lost the courage to walk up to her.
I later summoned courage and went into the cafe,sitting beside her was like a gift from God though she was friendly but she seems the tough type and her strong religious belief was one thing she held to great esteem and cannot trend for anything else.
"Yet our race remained a bigger barrier."
She was an open minded lady and her NO to my proposal was a propelling force to get to know more of her.We parted that day but i later got to know every bit of her through a friend.
She turned me down on every occasion and i almost gave up after four months because there was multiple problems between us but the genuine i saw in her built a strong desire in me to do anything to win her.
I didn't know what was going on inside me as thoughts of her took control of me so one day,i decided to attend the Seventh Day Adventist church.Perhaps i have screwed up and worsened matters because she wasn't happy when she saw me in the church.
My desire to know everything about her made me got involve with the church act ivies and i never missed any service though she believed that i was only attending the church simply to win her but that was not the case any more because i was coming closer to the real meaning of love.
I understood the real essence of loving someone and what the Bible said about agape love,though my family were not supportive of my attending the Seventh day but when you are in love,it is just you and your heart.
Five months of devotion and involvement in almost all the church activities was evident that it was not all about her anymore so like the saying goes "With the machete in the other hand".
She realized that i have lost total desire about her and was eager to know Christ more.It seems funny but it is the truth. She approached me after service that fateful day and told me that she was ready to date me but that was not my desire any more,i was conformed and wanted to know if she had a true feeling so i turned her down.
I have been reading this particular book written by Adam Quan (How to date a white woman) but as fate may have it,we both decided to commit everything into the hands of God but the more i prayed for direction the more i found ways into her heart,she was as bright as the stars above and her smile was the purest i have ever seen.
We became very much attached to each other and our different race was no longer a prejudice nor is our religious backgrounds.Not only are we happily married as of this writing but we are blessed with three sons.
"How i would have missed the most beautiful woman in the world "
Now,having her as a friend and wife,i sometimes imagine what a good woman i would have lost in the name of race and religious difference. To me, love,i mean agape love has nothing to do with religion,race or class.
"True love is something of the heart and a kind of destiny."