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5 Reasons Why You Don't Have Friends

Updated on February 19, 2017

We all see people coming and going with their either little or big social circle. They're sharing interests. They're sharing conquests. They're sharing contacts and ideas for improvement. They're friends and happy to be so.

A lot of people wonder why they don't have this with people. They wonder why they don't have a circle of friends. I'll let you know the most important traits that can keep you from having friends. Chances are, one of these traits is the reason why you don't have friends.


1 ~ Self-Centered

You may have no ability to see nor understand anyone else's plights because you only think about yourself. You can't think outside yourself at all.

This means that right at this very moment you're wondering about whether this applies to you and not reading what I'm writing. You may say in various ways, "you have problems, no, I have problems."

My point is people, especially your friends, don't want to hear about you all the time. But the biggest point I'm making is, people don't want to hear you shun their issues. People don't want you to ignore their problems and only talk about your own. They expect you to listen to their issues and point of view too.

When they give you understanding and comforting council with your problems they expect the same from you.


2 ~ Bummer

You're walking bad news. There's always some reason for you to elaborate on your pain and be pitied or comforted. You have to be the tear-jerker, the cry baby, the one bringing down the happy atmosphere. Bad news doesn't make up your life but it's all you talk about.

Some people even pretend to be in bad shape, meaning all these bad things are happening to them. In reality they have more good days than bad. While you may run into things that are unpleasant you aren't in the worst position. Some people don't have a job, that's very bad. You have a job and aren't getting paid what you want; that's not that bad.


3 ~ Shady

You're may be one way with one person and another way with another. You may have friends already but can't keep them because of your split personality. You're not an honest person with an honest attitude. You make people feel like they should be careful about what they say around you.

You're the run and tell it person that always has to create an atmosphere. You got to create a conversation, and if you need to throw out a secret, you just do it. You really don't like your friends but you pretend you do. Sometimes you say one thing then say another and most of you don't realize it when you do. Lies about what you really feel is a shady relationship not a friendship.


4 ~ Troublemaker

You may be the cliché person who says what's on their mind. This usually makes a friends or two want to slap you. You end up with more hatred than love from people you know. People would find it hard to stay around you, or just hang around you just to see what happens to you your whole life. You have to see one friend fighting with another. Then you have to have your friends fighting with you.

Your whole relationship with others is complete trouble and issues. People will just get sick and tired of being careful about what they say around you. Which leads to confrontations and angry opinions. This also leads to you losing friends, being assaulted by them, or just having a bad reputation as the troublemaker. You'll lose friends and won't gain any.

5 ~ No Effort

Last, this is the most important thing. Not making an effort to make and keep any friends. You don't try to socialize. You don't try to keep up with people that you have socialized with. You go out and avoid others most of the time. The people you meet and briefly converse with, you easily forget. Other people come up to you and try to start a conversation, but you run them away with your attitude. This is either your pride or your shyness. Either way, it's your lack of effort that prevents you from having any friends.


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    • SonQuioey10 profile image

      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      TFR @lorlie6. Glad you liked it and laughed, music to my eyes. Thanks!

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      Laurel Rogers 5 years ago from Bishop, Ca

      "You're walking bad news." Love that line! You know, SQ10, I found this Hub really informative as well as very funny.

      Keep it up!


    • SonQuioey10 profile image

      Toni Northern 5 years ago from Williamston NC

      TFR @Miller2232. Just a friendly info page for people who don't know.

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      Sinclair Miller III 5 years ago from Florida

      Outstanding points you have made.


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