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Am I Beautiful? Just Say Yes

Updated on March 31, 2017
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Degreed as an engineer, turned to Buddhism to find peace, studied psychology to dissect the mind, and studio trained in Tango.


“The absolute unattainability of her beauty made me sad; I knew that stretching my lusting hands to her was as senseless as trying to scoop sunset with a garbage bin.” (Victor Pelevin “Chapaev and Void”)



Women are attracted to power, men to beauty. Why?


Usually, when I start writing an article, there is something that moves me, inspires me, infuriates me, there is a spark. But this question was such a generalization that it seemed not worth writing about. Yet, I started writing “Am I Beautiful?” only to discover that I cannot move further than the title. Three months later…


“Women are attracted to power, men to beauty. Why?”


Both sexes are equally attracted to power and beauty. Only our attraction to power is much stronger than our attraction to beauty. Or rather our need for security and safety is more fundamental than our need for aesthetics. Beauty is a luxury, an expensive courtesan.


Given a choice we always go for the combination of power and beauty. However, choices are limited, and the law of survival dictates to go for security first. Once all our needs are met we can satisfy our aesthetic needs. Rich men can “afford” having young “beautiful” (arguably) women. Rich women can afford having “young handsome studs”. Or is it the intelligence of young men that pulls women in? Could be, could be. Life is a comedy. Or a farce?



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All men are garbage


“All men are garbage!” A woman was having a fit. At the same time she wanted a man. A doctor, a lawyer, or someone who had power and money. In fact, she did not really want a man as such, she wanted the money, and a man came as a side effect. I thought she contradicted herself, but she did not. If you look at the pyramid of needs, security comes even before love and sense of belonging


Security? Mmm… Does Security bring more money than Police Force? (Yes, think for a second.) Shall I look for money source in Security or Police?


I am guilty as charged. I want everything – security, love, and my freedom. Don’t point your finger at me. No, it does not matter which one. Stop and look at the pyramid. We all want the same.


However, the poor woman had nothing to attract that kind of money. She was neither beautiful nor intelligent enough.


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Am I beautiful?

That was the initial pull – to write on the topic that I am so uncomfortable with.


I am not comfortable with the question “Am I beautiful?” I am not comfortable with the compliment “You are so beautiful!” Why? It’s time to decide once and for all, whether I am beautiful or not.


My first impulse was to write something humorous. But the more I joke about it, the more I realize that something is wrong. Something is bothering me. Whom do I try to entertain? Myself? But to be serious about the subject … it feels like sheer idiocy. You see I am already losing my balance.


The outward beauty is nothing but a shell, beautiful, but a shell, yes, it has to be taken care of, it has to be polished, but it is only a shell.


Nothing, nothing, nothing. Shiny nothing, if shiny.


"In technical terms,

beauty is the interpretation that arises in the consciousness of the patient. As they say – in the eye of the beholder." Victor Pelevin
beauty is the interpretation that arises in the consciousness of the patient. As they say – in the eye of the beholder." Victor Pelevin | Source

What is beauty?


”Anyone who wishes to understand the nature of beauty should first of all ask himself: where is it located? Can we say that it is somewhere inside the woman who is considered beautiful? Can we say, for instance, that there is beauty in the features of her face? Or in her figure?


Science tells us that the brain receives a flow of information from the sense organs, in this case from the eyes, and without the interpretations imposed by the visual cortex, this is simply a chaotic sequence of coloured dots, digitized into nerve impulses by the visual tract. Any fool can understand that there is not beauty in that, so it doesn’t find its way into a man through his eyes. In technical terms, beauty is the interpretation that arises in the consciousness of the patient. As they say – in the eye of the beholder.


Beauty does not belong to a woman and it is not her specific quality – it is just that at a certain time of life her face reflects beauty, as a windowpane reflects the sun that is hidden behind the roofs of the houses. And so we cannot say that a woman’s beauty fades with time – it is simply that the sun moves on and the windows of other houses begin to reflect it. But we know that the sun is not in the windowpanes that we look at. It is in us.


What is the sun? I’m sorry, but that’s another mystery, and today I was only planning to reveal one. And in any case, from the point of view of practical magic, the nature of the sun is absolutely irrelevant. What matters are the manipulations that we perform with its light…” (Victor Pelevin “The Sacred Book of Werewolf”)


Everyone is “a light unto himself”. How do you manipulate your light?



"They Say About Me" (Not Good Things!) with English Subtitles


Once I was given a chance to glimpse through someone else’s eyes. One of my … took me to the one of the famous museums in Moscow to show me a painting of a woman that either looked just like me or reminded him of me. When I saw the painting, I fled. The horror! The horror! What an ugly creature! That is how he saw me? Now I wish I stayed and had a better look. Now my curiosity outweighs my vanity. Did I run away from my own reflection?


Manipulations. We create reality. We perceive. Beauty is subjective, because it is subject to change.


Yes, it is time to change the subject. If men are attracted to me, does it mean that I am beautiful? If they tell me “You are so beautiful!” is that even true? Do they manipulate their light or mine?


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Do you consider yourself beautiful?

“Beauty is unbearable, drives us to despair, offering us for a minute the glimpse of an eternity that we should like to stretch out over the whole of time.” Albert Camus (French Novelist, Essayist and Playwright, 1957 Nobel Prize for Literature, 1913-1960)


I can be unbearable and drive people to despair, only when I am a pain in certain areas and nobody would want to stretch that time longer than necessary. That is the power of pain. I can be beastly. Can I be beautiful?


I never considered myself beautiful. There are too many mirrors to remain deluded. Then there is “the enemy” – cameras and camcorders. It is a good thing I don’t see myself. When I was young, my mother made sure I would not fall in love with myself and drown. I did not. Instead I developed insecurity and an inferiority complex. In short, I was a normal child. I wish I was beautiful. But I was. Then. Now, when she tells me “You are so beautiful!” I cringe inside because I think she overcompensates. In other words, she lies.


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To be beautiful and consider yourself beautiful is not the same thing. There was an incident that opened my eyes and I saw for the first time the manipulations that others perform with their lights. They were as deluded as I was.


There was a psychological test that had about 25 – 30 questions related to dating/sexual experiences. I had none. I was only sixteen at the time. The result was a definition of your personality type but limited to a word or two with no further description. Something like “Drama Queen” or “Normal Woman” or “Bitch”. Some types were funny, but some of them were not really flattering.


The first question was “Do you consider yourself beautiful?”


I said “No”. So did my best friend. The results were strange. It seemed to describe my friend, but it completely failed to pinpoint me. It was around my birthday. On our November break, our whole class went to Tallinn, Estonia. I took the questionnaire with me for entertainment. While we were on a train (it took one night to go from Moscow to Tallinn), all girls from our class, all twenty-four of them took the test. Of course, I don’t remember the results. However, there was one thing I would never forget, – every girl answered the first question “Do you consider yourself beautiful?” with a resounding “Yes”. There was no hesitation, no doubt – “Yes!”


“What the hell? If she and she are beautiful, then I must be …. There is not even a word for it”. Then I tweaked my answers and I got the result “Still Waters Run Deep”. With such description I could live.


I did not change my opinion about my unearthly beauty, but I changed my answer from “no” to “yes” to get a better label. But I realized that I was judging and ranking. Beautiful, good-looking, so so, ugly …


There was one girl and she was probably ten at the time when she said she was third in beauty in her class. I laughed. Who were the judges? By what criteria? As funny as it is or as ridiculous as it is all these beauty pageants are the same thing. There is even the expression “The first Beauty”. Miss Universe…


That title I took without asking. Madame Universe. Not for my beauty, for my love for the universe and my open-mindedness. I don’t have to be the first, the second, the last. I love the universe unconditionally.

Still Waters Run Deep


Later I did a personality test – the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. It was done properly, by a professional, and the result was – INTJ “Competence + Independence = Perfection”. I did not question it then.


However, many years later, I bought a book “Do What You Are” by Paul D. Tieger & Barbara Barron-Tieger. I had to tweak my personality type to get the results that would resemble me. So, I changed “TJ” part into “FP” and I got INFP – “Still Waters Run Deep”. Of course, there were no questions about beauty.


“Do you consider yourself beautiful?” “No, I consider myself lost and I don’t enjoy the feeling.” What amazed me was “Still Waters Run Deep” part – I considered it to be my perfect label.


Despite the fact that I did not want to part with such title, the personality type still did not feel right. I always considered myself to be an introvert. Only to be told that I was quite the opposite. So, I changed the first parameter as well. From I(ntrovert) to E(xtravert). I got ENFP – “Anything’s Possible”. Anything? I guess in those waters … deep waters… lives a beast.


“ENFPs are full of enthusiasm and new ideas. Optimistic, spontaneous, creative, and confident, they have original minds and a strong sense of the possible. For an ENFP, life is an exciting drama.”


This part about an exciting drama I don’t like. Maybe it is still not me. Why do I feel that I have to tweak the results all the time? Maybe it is my creativity: take a test creatively, temper with the results until you get what you want.


Anything is possible? Anything? I want beauty and power, freedom, self-actualization … Where is that seven-petal magic flower? Make a wish! Quickly! Bistro!



Beauty... is the shadow of God on the universe. ~Gabriela Mistral, Desolacíon


Then I am definitely not beautiful. I am no one’s shadow. I think. Am I?

Repeat the question. I think. Do I?


When I am searching for my own beauty (or chasing my beauty like a cat chasing its own tail) – I am looking for the meaning, for who I am. Where is my center?


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You have such beautiful eyes!

He was my co-worker and used to tell me compliments all the time. It made me uncomfortable, even more so because I was attracted to him. Don’t blame me, it’s chemistry.


We were not even alone when he said:


- You have such beautiful eyes!

- It’s irrelevant!!!


I snapped. I was so embarrassed. Why do I have such little faith in myself? If it is so irrelevant, why not accept compliments without resorting to being rude or pathetic?

It just does not happen. The question is still open. The name of the beast is not beauty, it is insecurity.


“What a beautiful girl!”

A girl? I am forty. Not so many people call me a girl, but it is not the age, but the beauty that makes me jump. I like hearing it, but I cannot handle it. I start saying that it is an overstatement and other inanities. It is some banal banter… pathetic…

I know that I should condition myself into three different REHEARSED answers.


- You are so beautiful!

- Thank you. (Acceptance)

- I know. (Dismissal).

- Go jump in the lake. (I don’t know what you want from me, but somehow I think it is something indecent, therefore – go to Hell).


I rehearsed it with a friend of mine.


- You are beautiful.

- Thank you. I know. Go jump in the lake.


You see, somehow it still did not work. Not yet.


It reminds me of me, so pensive...

Do you notice handsome men?
Do you notice handsome men? | Source

"Do you notice handsome men?"


That was another question from that questionnaire. It is ridiculous. No, I am blind. Of course, I do, there are not too many around.


Anecdote:


“A she-monkey is sitting on a river-bank. A he-crocodile is swimming past and wants to tease her. He thinks to himself, I would ask her whether or not she is married.


If she says “no”, I’ll say “of course, who would marry such an ugly creature?”

If she says “yes”, I’ll say “Good Lord, who could have married such an ugly creature?!”


So he swims past and asks the monkey:


- Monkey, monkey, are you married?

- Jesus, who can I possibly marry, when there are only crocodiles swimming around here?”


Everything is relative. In the eye of the beholder. Crocodiles are not handsome enough for monkeys no matter how powerful, monkeys are not attractive enough for crocodiles.


That is chemistry

Do men consider themselves handsome or beautiful?


One of my friends, an interesting character, said – “I am beautiful”. Not handsome. Beautiful. For a man to say that, it was striking and memorable. Is he beautiful? He is for me.


If I am not mistaken, power is studied in physics. Attraction in chemistry.


Men and women are attracted to people for whom they have strong chemistry. My beautiful friend was complaining that all women wanted an ideal man. He should be tall enough, had all his hair. Now he is forty, too (listen to the music of those words – forty, too – 42), so it is problematic for many men. There were other criteria, but I forgot the details. My friend did not fit into that ideal image, but I love him dearly.


Then he said "What is chemistry anyway? Why do all women want men to be chemists?" Yes, men should be chemists. Both chemistry and physistry should be right.


1) Define what kind of power you want.

2) Then go buy the love potion.


"Oxytocin is, in a way, the "master chemical" of social connection, and as close as anything we know to the love potions popular in romantic folk tales." ("Loneliness" by John T. Cacioppo & William Patrick)


And you can go marry that crocodile or a monkey. Funny, isn’t it, light is a subject in physics, but to manipulate it you need chemicals.


Women prefer beautiful, handsome, muscular, STRONG men. Are we talking about physical characteristics? Or chemical? Are we attracted to power? Either sex?


"Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power." — Oscar Wilde


What sex is he talking about? The weaker or the stronger?


Do we even know what we want?


"The goals we pursue are always veiled. A girl who longs for marriage longs for something she knows nothing about. The boy who hankers after fame has no idea what fame is. The thing that gives our every move its meaning is always totally unknown to us."

— Milan Kundera (The Unbearable Lightness of Being)

But isn’t everything about power? We want more, there is never enough power. Power corrupts, but we want to be at least our own masters. Dependence creates unhappiness. Power creates unhappiness, too, but it takes time to realize that.


Focus.


Power, beauty. Power versus beauty. Beauty and the Beast. Beauty is the Beast. I just noticed that in Russian the word "beast" comes from the word "wonder". No wonder.


In the eye of the beholder. I did not realize how many times people told me how they saw me.


“You are striking and intimidating.” (Beauty or the Beast? The Beast).


“You look like a very strong person, “my way or highway”. (Beauty or the Beast? The Beast).


When I asked to guess my sign, there is this repeating pattern “Leo – the Queen of the World.” No, not quite… But lionesses are more beautiful than scorpions. Urgh… (Beauty or the Beast? The Beast).


God, I must be powerful.


Don’t despair. I can share the wisdom, I have the manual – “48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene. Get some education and you will end up being intimidating and unemployed just like me. It comes with the territory.



Do I notice powerful men? Where? I am not swimming in their waters. I might, but there are no powerful men around me. Just garbage (I am kidding.) For them I am a monkey on a river bank.

Anecdote:

“A she-monkey is sitting on a river-bank and washing a banana peel. A he-crocodile is swimming past.


- Monkey, monkey, what are you doing?

- Give me ten dollars, I will tell you.

He gives her ten dollars.

- I am washing a banana peel.

- ??? What a fool!!!

- I may be a fool, but every day I have at least ten dollars.”


I need something like that – a way to make money.


“Be a light unto yourself”


“What you think of yourself is much more important than what others think of you.” Seneca


Then I am beautiful and powerful. I might be pain in the ass, but I am real.



“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.


“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real, you don’t mind being hurt.”


“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It does not happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.” (“The Velveteen Rabbit” by Margery Willliams)


To become beautiful is to become yourself. Find your balance, your center. Start living the life you want. Others will tell you what is beautiful, as if they know. They know shit.


In the eye of the beholder?

© 2011 kallini2010

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      kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Dear Teresa:

      What did you mean by "there is a true "I" amidst my "E"?

      I am not quite sure myself that I expressed myself clearly yesterday. What I meant was when my energy gets low, seeing people face to face is always helpful. Well, most of the time. I recharge my batteries on human contact.

      It's like - you can do so many things online, but you are not eating online, the food still has to get into the mouth somehow... and energy is the same.

      There is no lack of depth in the online relationships - even though they come with a lot of time spent typing... but certain things are lacking...

      And I was just "dying" yesterday - my "battery" was so low.... I ended up taking a pill and going to bed to have ten hour sleep.

      That is my reality - the pill is good for mood stabilization, it knocks me out for a good sleep and it takes ten hours to wear off. So, I reserved it for this week-end, so I can get to do things that are have to be done.

      I did not mean (I did not want to say) that I do not value my online relationships - I do value ALL relationships - after all, my TRUE drive is AFFILIATION, not ACHIEVEMENT. I am a relationship person.

      So, next time, if I don't make perfect sense, you will know, either I am simply tired, low on battery, drowned in words... or something...

      Que dolor!

      Que dolor! Now you know, that Dolores means a lot to me. Always one pain or another...

      I took it from a song from my youth:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedd...

      Ha-ha-ha!

      Have a nice day!

      Svetlana

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Svetlana,

      Sometimes I get more joy than possible from strangers, patients, students...just to connect and make a difference.

      It is absolutely different from the joy I feel interacting with people virtually... Although I see about the same depth as above for the most part.

      Then there is the expression..."take my family ...puleeze."

      I am most happy with myself and my dog...there is a true "I" amidst my "E".

      I understand you as much as I need to. You make sense to me.

      Love, Teresa

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      kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Teresa:

      I agree, it is not how you look, it is how you feel.

      I smile often and I think I always mean it, that is why people know that I am genuine.

      Right now, I don't feel so great about myself, so it shows.

      Even now that I am writing this comment, I don't smile, so maybe, I'd better stop.

      There is a simple truth - I get energy from other people - so I feel better when I am with people, especially with people that I like. So, internet is not a substitution for me - I love face to face. Not even a telephone...

      I'd better find a way to get my mood into a better ... (thinking...no, still a blank...)

      I am sorry, I make no sense. I don't know where my BEAUTIFUL mind is.

      Hugs,

      Svetlana

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      How do I manipulate my light?

      Through the years, I have found that a smile is cheaper than make-up

      and seems to have the same effect.

      I tend to smile when I really mean it,

      although sometimes I do it to get through a shaky situation. I have had

      years when I could not laugh, smile or even pretend to fake...and no

      matter what anyone said, I felt ugly, unhappy and depressed.

      So today I have more of a need to embrace my laughter and joy in silly

      things. And, funny, no matter what anyone says, good or bad, I feel

      beautiful.

      I have manipulated my light and more importantly my outlook/

      perspective. It works and feels right for me.

      I think The Velveteen Rabbit was perfect to include in this thought-

      provoking and well penned essay. Voted UP and all...

      Hugs, Teresa

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, angied83, for your comment. I am not a big fan of oversimplification which you would have noticed had you read the article. It's no big deal who is attracted to what and why.

      I have stated my opinion on attraction to beauty and power in the first few paragraphs:

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      Both sexes are equally attracted to power and beauty. Only our attraction to power is much stronger than our attraction to beauty. Or rather our need for security and safety is more fundamental than our need for aesthetics. Beauty is a luxury, an expensive courtesan.

      Given a choice we always go for the combination of power and beauty. However, choices are limited, and the law of survival dictates to go for security first. Once all our needs are met we can satisfy our aesthetic needs. Rich men can “afford” having young “beautiful” (arguably) women. Rich women can afford having “young handsome studs”. Or is it the intelligence of young men that pulls women in? Could be, could be. Life is a comedy. Or a farce?

      ========

      Life is a farce when readers don't read, writers don't think and people are indifferent to most important things in life. But I, in my present mood, look at it philosophically.

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      Women are attracted to power, men to beauty. Why?

      -- Women like to feel secure. Powerful men allows them to feel secure.

      -- Men like to collect 'trophies'. Beautiful women are trophies they can show off to their friends.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Yes, Brittany, I agree. Sometimes we feel better and more beautiful, sometimes we feel shitty and less beautiful, even though our friends and family have a rather fixed image of us and they accept and love us for who we are.

      Sometimes we are our own harshest critics. Beauty is not a simple subject, some people are blessed with good looks, some people are not, some people work hard to look beautiful and attractive, some people let themselves go. We cannot be attractive to everyone, but in the end, it is the balance that we achieve

      between our looks, self-confidence and and self-acceptance.

      Liking and loving yourself, being yourself is a must, but it is hard. You have to work at it.

      Then beauty becomes a matter of

      Shall I dress up more or less?

      Shall I use more or less make-up and what for?

      Shall I exercise and be fit and feel and be healthy; therefore, more beautiful?

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      Brittany 5 years ago

      Yes We all do want to be called Beautiful and i am 16 and some days i feel so luckly for how i look and who i am and other days i dont feel Beautiful and all of my friends and family say i am but i always tell them that they have to say that because they are my family or my friends and i guess it dont matter who thinks or says your Beautiful long as God and you know you are Beautiful is all that matters.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Gregorious, for your comment. I agree with your thoughts, but I think the laws of attraction became more complicated with time.

      Power is an equal aphrodisiac for both men and women. Not all men have power or enough power to attract "the prettiest and most fertile" female. Maybe even fertility is a double-edged sword - the fewer children you have the wealthier you are.

      But the question "Am I Beautiful?" is eternal - we all want to look beautiful, to be liked, to be loved, to be attractive, don't we?

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      Gregorious 5 years ago

      "Women are attracted to power, men to beauty. Why?" The answer is evolution.

      Men and women have different reproductive strategies (all this is happening on a subconscious level).

      Women invest much more in reproduction than men. When they are pregnant and taking care of children, they require a stable environment. They look for a man who can provide that.

      Men like young women, because they are attracted to fertile women. The physical beauty in a woman is a sum of properties that characterize fertility (smooth skin, breasts, fertile hips, etc.). When women beautify themselves they try to emphasize these properties (make up, high heels, cleavage).

      Here is an evolutionary fact: Men are pigs and women are gold diggers. It may seem a little harsh and stereotypical, but whether we like it or not that's the underlying reality.

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      louromano 5 years ago

      Great hub ! I like your wrote.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Pams Portal & picadilly,

      Thank you both for such great evaluation of my work.

      I am really touched and flattered.

      I hope you will continue having a refreshing and fulfilling journey on HP both as readers and as writers.

      Good luck,

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      @xstatic:

      Thank you for your comment. I agree, the ability to see and appreciate beauty comes with age. I am somewhere in the middle, so shall I expect the world to become more and more beautiful with each passing day, week, year? While I will be becoming less and less... Just a thought.

      @zzron:

      Funny, I totally forgot about "all men are garbage". Great statement, a good ice-breaker ... but once written, then forgotten. I am not an author of such a sweeping generalization and I have never believed it.

      Yes, I have not met you. I have met only so many or rather so few men. I cannot go through all of them. Maybe it should be the topic for yet another article. I guess half of the population would jump out of their pants!!! and with all the zeal they are capable of, they (both men and women) will try to prove me wrong.

      The statement is only a provocation...

      Thank you for reading my article.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, AnnaCia, for your comment. I think half of the credit for this piece should go to the readers, to their imagination - what they see in my writing.

      Sometimes even I get surprised. Honestly, more often than not comments surprise me.

      Did I write that?

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      Priscill Anne Alvik 5 years ago from Schaumburg, IL

      Your thoughts are profound to begin with, the manner in which they blossom and unveil themselves is magical....your words dance with the energy of the Universe. Brilliant!

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      Pams Portal 5 years ago

      A very refreshing, insightful and creative vision into "life". You have a gift of weaving words into a fabric which drapes over one's soul, caressing those tender and private moments. At the same time, you cleverly dress up and embellish those emotions and thoughts -- the ones we do not wish to openly display -- and unabashedly reveal them for all to gaze upon with approval. Very inspiring and skillful indeed!

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      zzron 5 years ago from Houston, TX.

      Yes you are very beautiful. Not all men are garbage, you haven't met me yet! Great topic.

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      Jim Higgins 5 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      An excellent article on an age old question. I am as a much older man these days, able to see, to witness beauty in my old conventional sense, but also to see beauty in thoughts, in actions, in smiles, in poems. There seems to be so much more beauty now...

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      AnnaCia 5 years ago

      A very powerful article. With your magnificent way of writing you are able to take your readers to a huge range of feelings and thoughts about women and "beauty" and the way the definitions is twisted through the media, culture, views, opinions. But where am I standing as a beautiful human being or a woman is my own creation. Thanks

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, torourke, for your comment.

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      torourke 5 years ago from Arlington, VA

      Yahoo has a trending story about this right now, parents need to be ultra aware of their kids or teens with low self asteem. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, dont count on shallow people, or those who hide behind a screen name to put down others!

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      @ChrisWritesHubs:

      Thank you.

      @transcriptioncity:

      No, it did not take me that long. I spend more time on my other articles.

      Thank you for reading.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, landscapeartist, for your comment.

      I liked your words:

      "It is innocence, purity of heart and soul. We all have that inside of us. We only need to find it and set it free."

      I agree wholeheartedly.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Sonya L Morley, for your comment.

      Maybe that was the only goal - I don't really remember much - I did not plan to provoke thoughts, and to me it was a way of partying with most of them.

      That is the effect my own writing has on me - once written, then forgotten.

      I don't think much about "Am I Beautiful?" anymore, but I am still uncomfortable with compliments.

      Maybe I should write on the subject now, a year later since the article was published.

      But then... I have to think about it. Maybe I will.

      Thank you again for reading.

      And, yes, be the light unto yourself.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Yes, birdslover, I agree there are more factors at play than just beauty and power.

      I am attracted to someone with a sense of humour.

      I find that trait irresistible.

      I have met a person who made me laugh and I had the best possible first date spanning almost half a day...

      but in the end

      he was neither beautiful (so, not ...., that it was a turn off for me, something I could not overlook) nor powerful...

      the package was not there. And in the end, it was not funny at all. But it is just me, what do I know?

      I only share my stories.

      I am neither beautiful, nor powerful, a sense of humour is sometimes here, sometimes not.

      Finding the Love of your Life is not simple or maybe I just don't know the secret.

      And the joke is all on me.

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      transcriptioncity 5 years ago from London

      Good hub, must have taken you a while to write!

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Aspiring. Your words are very encouraging. We are all just human, make mistakes, go as far as we can or as far as we want. Sometimes, beauty is not the biggest problem.

      Thank you again. I wish you luck in writing and in life.

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      ChrisWritesHubs 5 years ago

      Yes!

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      Roberta McIlroy 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I agree that beauty is only skin deep. Real beauty is on the inside. It's how you truly feel about yourself and mixed in with how you see others. It's how you treat people.

      I have endlessly stood in front of a mirror and asked myself the same question

      Am I beautiful?

      How can we truly define beauty?

      It is innocence, purity of heart and soul. We all have that inside of us. We only need to find it and set it free.

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      Sonya L Morley 5 years ago from Edinburgh

      I agree that everyone "is a light unto himself". We are all moths to the flame of each other's light, to the ones who shine. Some days it is easy to crank up the dimmer switch, other days not so much. What a great, thought-provoking article, I like your style.

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      birdslover 5 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Women not just attracted to power, many times I have seen beauty goes to a guy having good sense of humor and he is a fun to be with.

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      Aspiring 5 years ago

      Thank you. That's all I needed to hear. Holding back because of doubts. That's done. I am who I am. I wish I could give others this attitude. It looks like you're doing a pretty good job. Even if you're not so sure of it yourself, you're inspiring others sometimes without even meaning to. Keep going. Fly. You CAN do it. People believe in you.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Dear Aspiring:

      Thank you for your comment, I can hardly do it justice. I am not sure I change peoples' lives - I can barely change mine.

      The way I feel is always different, sometimes I feel that looks are not all that important, then I look in a mirror and realize, they are.

      So, this battle never ended for me, but I am happy to hear that we all go through the same in life and sharing might be one way of lightening our burdens.

      At the moment I do not feel beautiful at all.

      But other things are pressing so beauty can and will wait.

      But your response is beautiful, deep, please keep going with the same spirit.

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      Aspiring 5 years ago

      This was so inpirational. I went from believing I was ugly as a child and hoping that when I grew up it would get better, to suddenly believing that I myself was beautiful. Then I became very conceited, and then I started to actually hate myself. I couldn't stand the sight of me. I realize now that while my looks aren't ugly, they are beautiful to the people that matter. And if they aren't beautiful to me, how can I expect anyone else to think they are? I know now that beauty comes at a price, and not everyone is willing to pay it. You're hub is amazing. Really awe-inspiring. I hope that you never give up writing like this, because you really are changing peoples' lives for the better. I hope that you realize this. I know that I am really young (14) but I understand a lot for my age. Don't brush these compliments off because I'm young. They matter...and so do you. Believe you're beautiful, even if you don't right now. Make it a point to tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful and point out the good things about yourself. The rest doesn't matter. Our time on Earth is limited, make it the best that you can while you're here.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Mala Srivastava, for your comment. Beautiful? Maybe, but not my best.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Nordy. I am so amazingly amazing that I at a loss what to do with all my originality.

      So far, my friends encourage me to write, so time permitting, I will be ...

      You are welcome to read anything. I love those pieces when my dancing meets my writing or articles that really do not make too much sense. As you said - anything normal is way to boring.

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      Mala Srivastava 5 years ago from India

      very beautiful hub. Voted up.

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      Nordy 5 years ago from Canada

      I absolutely adore this hub! You are a BEAUTIFUL writer, and I love your originality. I am so looking forward to reading more from you.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Mary Stuart, for your comment. I think the security or lack thereof is the challenge most people in our society have to face. I don't think there are easy answers. At least I am not aware of them.

      We can hope and grow. I wish you the best. Thank you again for reading my article.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Tara_in_NE, for such an interesting comment.

      Beauty is beautiful, amazing, tantalizing and desirable, yet while we pursue it we often forget what it is that we are after.

      There is no definition of beauty, sometimes we are chasing an ideal that is changing as we go. We are changing as we go as well, others do, too.

      It is by achieving our elusive goals or by not achieving them, we realize that those goals never even had a potential (not even remotely) to make us happy.

      Those who are born beautiful often end up being rather unhappy because they take their looks for granted.

      I would say it is a trend, not necessarily a rule.

      When I wrote the article, I was simply interested in looking in my "own" mirror, I did not expect to hit a nerve. But I did. This is the only article that got such reaction.

      Beauty alone is not enough,

      but we still very much want it.

      At any age.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Washington

      Very, very interesting Hub. I agree, security is my higher need. I try to be self-sufficient but sometimes my need for security pushes me toward a relationship. It would be nice to find both the security and the man in one positive package.

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      Tara_in_NE 5 years ago

      Took out an old scrapbook out of my attic last week. Looked at one picture in particular: a young woman about twenty or so at a barbecue. It was me, and it was taken by my Dad. I see a pretty, petite girl with waist length light auburn hair and a few freckles on her face.

      Twenty or so years ago, I would have scoffed at such a sympathetic narration of my looks. Nah, too fat (even though I wasn't even a hundred pounds). Too ugly (NOT an Anna Paquin or Aishwarya Rai look-alike). Breasts aren't big enough. Height not that of Gisele's (you know, the model wife of a famous NFL Quarterback).

      Ah, yeah. The days of designer jeans. Purging your food to keep your weight down. The Chanel makeup. The ruler straight hair. The Prada heels. The diet pills. All in the name of conforming.

      It was my stepmother, oddly enough, who brought me to my senses. I remember she told me once, right before I graduated college, "mark my words, Tara. In the future, beauty alone will no longer cut it. You will have to have more than that to offer." By that she meant to a man. To an employer. To my family. To my friends. TO THE WORLD.

      Took me awhile, but I finally realized, she was right.

      Today, in my mid forties, the outer me and the inner me are on the best of terms. I see that old picture and smile now. And when I look in the mirror today I see a pretty passable duck, even if it's not a clone of Angelina Jolie. (Ok, so I cheated Father Time a little bit, thanks to Botox and Juvederm).

      I'm okay with who I am because they'll always be better and they'll always be worse.

      Great hub. Thanks for posting it.

      T.J.H.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you you, inf, for your comment.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, natori1. Beauty seems to be a universal concern, that it why this article got so much attention. I have written many more, but none of them equals this "beauty" in popularity.

      Thank you for your comment and I am glad you liked my work.

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      natori1 5 years ago from Michigan

      “The outward beauty is nothing but a shell, beautiful, but a shell, yes, it has to be taken care of, it has to be polished, but it is only a shell.” I felt like this when I cut all my hair off. It doesn’t matter what’s on the outside-it’s the inside. I love reading and coming across this hub didn’t prove short. I’m actually going too re-read again :)

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, kittyjj and mikeydcarroll67, for reading and your comments.

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      mikeydcarroll67 5 years ago

      Great hub! Very very informative!

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      Ann Leung 5 years ago from San Jose, California

      Very interesting hub! I don't care much about what people say about my look. But I do pay attention to what people have to say what kind of a person I am.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Shell-Belle, for your comment.

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      Shell-Belle 5 years ago from Mesa

      What an insightful and inspiring article. Thank you for sharing! Gave me some things to think about.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      @LotusFlowerBomb

      and

      @cunn26:

      Thank you, ladies, for your comments. I appreciate you reading my article.

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      cunn26 5 years ago from Georgia

      Interesting hub, I enjoyed reading it! :-)

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      LotusFlowerBomb 5 years ago from Conneticut

      OMG! soooo love'd it.. awesome insight

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, savvydating, for your comment.

      I agree, both beauty and power are created inside. The lasting ones.

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      savvydating 5 years ago

      Power and Beauty. Consider hunters and gatherers, masculine and feminine. It is a way to promote the species. Once we develop a strong self worth, we create power and beauty inside - the kind that lasts as we age.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, jainismus, for your comment.

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 5 years ago from Pune, India

      @kallini2010,

      You have written a very thoughtful and MUST READ Hub. Thank you.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, carolinemd21, for your comment.

      Beauty is a tough subject - for women, beauty (sex) is a leverage to get what they want. What do they want? Money and Power, Security.

      Maybe for men, too, - there are plenty of men who sell "their youth and beauty" - being models and more.

      I do not want to be or sound judgmental.

      Yes, I would prefer all of us to be Beautiful - Inside & Outside, but

      we are not,

      yet, it is a constant struggle and it is constant work. And I cannot say for myself that I always win.

      Maybe I am not trying hard enough.

      As one of my "advisors/mentors" put it - I am conflicted on too many issues.

      Well, conflicted or not, I am writing to find the Balance and I am writing to find the Answers.

      Jan. 18, 2012,

      12:02 pm

      Toronto, Ontario, Canada

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      Caroline Marie 5 years ago from Close to Heaven

      This is a wonderful hub. I really love and admire the way you write. I will be going through some more hubs of yours. I personally hate the stigmatism of beauty. When you are young you have to constantly work on it. I was scared that I would lose the men I loved in relationships once I started to age and lose my beauty. It was horrible. I think that beauty is too focused on in society. Too bad we can't all just be as beautiful as we are on the inside and never age. Voted up. Love the pictures.

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      Camo Girl!! 5 years ago

      I dont know i just did it!!

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, inf.

      ===============

      Thank you, iammisspedia:

      the best thing is to be aware, to write and to think. Eventually, you will be happy with yourself - you have nobody else - so take good care of your body and soul.

      I am sure you are beautiful.

      Thank you for reading.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, heart4theword, for your comment.

      I so agree with your words that what is inside make us glow on the outside:

      "Grandparents were just so beautiful of heart:) What they felt in the inside, reflected on the outside...giving their face a glow:)"

      One reader asked me and I felt it was condescending (maybe it was not):

      "So, have you decided? Are you beautiful?"

      Yes, I have decided. I am not. I don't feel beauty on the inside and that is the reason why I look so unhappy on my pictures.

      Maybe one day...

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, MissFunkadelic, for reading and leaving a comment.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Camo Girl!!! ---

      If you feel beautiful, you are.

      I could not figure out why you write this way, though - why do you capitalize every word?

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you,

      NiaLee

      Travisbeach

      Terrektwo

      and

      Kaiharriss

      for your comments.

      I appreciate that you read my article.

      Thank you.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, lilmissmontana, for your comment.

      You have a very good point - I hated when I was asked: "Am I attractive? Am I handsome?"

      I just could not say "YES", I gave an long explanation and I said "If you ask a question like that, expect and be ready for an honest opinion. Or don't ask."

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Fenn, for your comment.

      We do have insecurities, that is true. Getting over them is a challenge, but maybe it will teach each of us to accept others and ourselves.

      Everything is here for a reason. At least that is my understanding.

      I am so glad I began writing - reading is not enough - writing was responsible for my transformation. There is no comparison to what I was and where I was a year ago.

      If you have an insecurity - face it.

      "Am I beautiful?"

      No, and that only means

      Time to make a change.

      NOW.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, ytsenoh, for your comment. I am so sorry, it takes me forever to get through all my comments, but this

      BEAUTIFUL article became a...

      it got me thinking again and again and again...

      yes, we are OVERPOWERED by the idea of beauty that is so superficial -

      I turned on TV yesterday and I saw a fragment of "Bachelor"

      and all I was - appalled by these women looking almost the same running and competing over one guy on a show...

      I felt "This is a nightmare - this is so ugly."

      Yes, they are beautiful on the outside but they seem so empty on the inside. If I was a bachelor - I would never choose any of them.

      My idea of punishment:

      send them all to a writing camp with no mirrors.

      I guess - there is some cruel streak in me - let them figure out who they are and what they want without constantly admiring themselves...

      Maybe I am simply thinking aloud...

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, noturningback, for your comment.

      Yes, I agree - we are like flowers... we can be beautiful or not.

      It is not an easy subject...

      I do believe in that we can become MORE beautiful in different ways - physically, mentally, psychologically and spiritually...

      The true flower is a SOUL, maybe that is what called Inner Beauty, but it is hard to see...

      I am beginning to think that I should continue writing about beauty.

      The very least I could do - I can collect all the comments and see now for the 1st time -

      this ocean of feedback, this enormous ocean of responses.

      It makes me think...

      Thank you again for thought-provoking comment.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      My, my, my... my dear htodd...

      Yes, why not... I AM BEAUTIFUL. Why not?

      I am also VERY SMART AND ATTENTIVE.

      I paid attention to you, every time you leave me a comment, you have no idea what the article is all about.

      How do I know it?

      The time interval between your comments is ONE bloody minute. There is no way you can read my 42-kilometer articles in one minute.

      Another give away - you left me a comment on this article - a few weeks prior - the same master status

      "Great Read!!!!"

      It is so GREAT, you came the second time.

      I just cannot believe it.

      The degree of your dishonesty and lack of professionalism.

      Why am i writing it? I am totally and completely safe - if anybody reads my comment -

      IT WON'T BE YOU.

      So long,

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      iammisspedia 5 years ago from Philippines

      At 22, I seemed to dwell too much on the same inquiry.. "am I beautiful?". Wanting to peel off my insecure skin, but still stuck in the image of myself in the mirror.

      This is such an enlightening hub, truly got me thinking..

      Thanks! :)

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      Camo Girl!! 5 years ago

      Thank you MissFunkadelic!!!

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      heart4theword 5 years ago from hub

      Creative Hub:) I know for me, I feel not so beautiful...judging from the perspective of my husbands view. Wrong I guess, in comparing myself to when we first were married. Knowing the media focus is on beauty and age contributes to the worlds view...that lessens the beauty of old people. Have to say my Grandparents were just so beautiful of heart:) What they felt in the inside, reflected on the outside...giving their face a glow:) They attributed their joy, to knowing Jesus and God the Father who created them:)

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      MissFunkadelic 5 years ago from Ireland

      This is a great hub! Very insitfull and true the way you write is beautiful keep up the good work!

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      Camo Girl!!! 5 years ago

      I Always Ask Myslef If I Am BEAUTIFUL But All Of My Family And Friends Say That I am But I Always Say You Have To Say That Because You Are My Mom Or My Dad And I Am 17 A I Guess I Am BEAUTIFUL I Always Get The Guys But I Know Looks Are Not All That!!!

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      Candle Hour 5 years ago from North America

      very interesting article, I will have to check some of your others. Remeber beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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      travisbeach 5 years ago

      This was a great hub. Very thought-provoking.

      https://hubpages.com/money/lovebythenumbers...

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      NiaLee 5 years ago from BIG APPLE

      Tita sings it all, beautiful we are, we must feel it and be it...others opinion is just their opinion.

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      Erin Nichols 5 years ago from Montana

      I am in love with this Hub. It is a ver uncomfortable topic. Mainly for women, but I believe that men have equally uncomfortable feeling when it comes to this subject, especially when it involves women. Women constatnly ask men if they look beautiful. Most men, regardless of thier actual opinion say yes. But from my understanding of men, which is to no great extent, men hate it when they are asked about a woman's beauty.

      Men have such a differnt way of expressing what is "beautiful or sexy" in a woman. Women don't want to hear what lovely big breasts they have. We want to hear that our hair looks nice and our makeup is pretty and our clothes fit nicely.

      I think this Hub is perfect for both gender's and a good way to become comfortable expressing and conversing about beauty. I am so thankful that I stumbled apon this. Thank you for writing and sharing somthing so deep and meaningful!

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      Fenn 5 years ago

      Congratulations on a wonderful and inspiring article! I think you do a great job of shedding a new light on the enigmatic topic of beauty. Also, I completely agree that the beast in all of us is our insecurities; they can inhibit us in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences, continue to write!

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      Cathy 5 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

      Applause, applause, kallini2010! What an absolutely thought provoking and meaningful presentation reflecting the subject of "beautiful." With the constant changing of technology which in turn raises the effects and influence of the media, I have wondered for the past 20 years or so how young minds are influenced with "expectations" to meet the criteria of beauty. I always promote the personal belief that real beauty is based on characteristics, attributes, and behavior. Definitely will want to read your hub more than once. Thank you. Big thumbs up on your efforts with this subject.

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      noturningback 5 years ago from Edgewater, MD. USA

      I believe what I find most beautiful is how people are made, each of us unique. Like flowers, we all have our own colors, scents and other attributes.

      Certain traits I find more beautiful than others. Compassion and those who possess this gift are to me of the most beautiful sort. Skin deep beauty only works on my sense of animal attraction (lust) not that this is bad on its own or perhaps I would not be here lol.

      Thank you for your hub which I believe showers us all with the beauty of compassion. You are beautiful kallini.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Frierva,

      what exactly do you mean by

      articles like that?

      Could you be more specific?

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, maxravi, for your comment.

      If I keep writing, will you keep reading?

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Sanxuary, for your comment.

      "the next World is more important then the test that I am being forced to take now." -

      you are being forced?

      do you think life is a test?

      Most people treat it like a game - winners, losers...

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      htodd 5 years ago from United States

      yes ,why not you are beautiful :)

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      Frierva 5 years ago

      A wonderful and inspiring Hub Kallini2010. I was worried when I first joined Hubpages that articles like this would not be very popular. But I have some similar Hubs and I feel more confident about them after reading yours. Thank you so much for sharing your profound thoughts. Continue to write!

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      Ravi Singh 5 years ago from India

      What a beautiful composition.I learned a lot with this hub.voted up and keep writing.

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      Sanxuary 5 years ago

      There are so many other things that hold value far beyond beauty. Most important to me is salvation and spiritual maturity, the next World is more important then the test that I am being forced to take now. A healthy body and life style promises you more beauty later in your life and a higher quality of life. A beautiful mind that builds a sanctuary within ourselves and seeks to build it with someone else and creates one everywhere it goes holds the greatest promise. It does so because no matter how ugly our World is it has the power to endure and remain beautiful forever.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, MizBejabbers.

      I think you can write precisely that. What you observe. You'll be surprised. Try it.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, kelleyward, for your comment.

      Yes, indeed, if every little "sun" (as in every reader) took the beauty of this hub further with them and created a reflection - it would be a lot of BEAUTY SUNSHINE on HubPages.

      Maybe they (readers) have taken it further - but I got no further feedback. The Buck stopped here for me. Maybe the job should be mine?

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      MizBejabbers 5 years ago

      Thank you, Kallini, you are so poetic. You describe beauty in such a lovely way that I cannot. I can only decribe what I observe.

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      Profoundly moving and carefully deep hub on beauty. I loved the concept of beauty being a place in time where the face, the youth, the glow is reflected so long and then the sun moves on. Great hub!

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Martie, darling, mi amor, tesora mia!

      You are absolutely right! Please - I have been BEGGING for more than six months - comments are the best part

      YES, PLEASE, instead of a long comment - SPREAD THE LIGHT

      do your own article.

      I cannot do the job - it is too time-consuming.

      Even for me to handle comments ... all my comments... I left comments on 459 hubs (in only 12 months). These comments are / is a gold mine.

      I said - all of them , some of them - can make a few books...

      Anyway - back to laundry and the dishes...

      The Sleeping Beauty is busy with housework and teaching Daniel important lessons. I am test driving my Own Private School "Turbulence S".

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      One more comment in here and we can use this as a ladder for me to climb all the way up to you.

      Svetlana, this is a brilliant hub about beauty and valuation of own beauty. I agree wholeheartedly with all your ‘thoughts’. I wanted to read all the comments, but it will take me the entire night.

      Just the following -

      True: “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

      The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams is one of my favorites.

      I can go on and share some personal experience with you, but it will be a too long comment. Maybe I should do it in a hub linked to this one.

      Again: Absolutely brilliant!

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, Cloud Explorer, for reading and leaving a comment.

      Surely, I am not that great a writer yet. It is the topic that everybody takes so close to heart... the rest of my articles are just as good.

      Beauty is a sensitive issue. We are not comfortable with our looks, and they deteriorate with time. We need beauty industry, but a different one - the one that would make us feel good about ourselves.

      I think.

      Thank you again.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, carinsurance7, for reading and leaving a comment.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, MizBejabbers, for your comment.

      I cannot speak for how things should be.

      Or rather I have already spoken.

      I am in no way perfect - there are no pictures of me in this article, but later I opened up and began using my own.

      Imperfections and all.

      Your relationship with beauty...

      maybe it deserves an article, too?

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, RealHousewife, for your comment.

      We are fascinated with beauty for a reason. Beauty is fascinating. You don't have to be a model, you can be a role model and take advantage of this gift - your looks.

      Your personality gives your features the light and as they say - the secret is all in the lighting.

      Your life is yours - live it the way you want, the way you can. Beauty is a gift, but also a trial - it brings with it good and bad, it can make you weaker or stronger.

      Everything is up to you.

      I hope you will make the best of it. Good luck,

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, JosieLee, for your kind words.

      To be a writer is easy. Just be yourself.

      If you want to be a writer you will do it, if not, then you will find something more fulfilling.

      Writing is only a tool. Like language. I was not creating art, melodies...

      I was simply thinking aloud.

      Good luck with your writing. Write with your soul. The rest is only a skill.