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An Open Letter: Dearest Papa

Updated on October 23, 2012
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!   On my baptism day, papa with my godfather, uncle Joe carrying me.
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! On my baptism day, papa with my godfather, uncle Joe carrying me. | Source
I can't find pictures of just the two of us together, but I know I am your girl. In Photo: Papa with my brother Mark, me, and lola (grandma)
I can't find pictures of just the two of us together, but I know I am your girl. In Photo: Papa with my brother Mark, me, and lola (grandma) | Source

"You Are My Sunshine" by Jimmy Wakely, the very first song my pa sung to me and learned it from him.

An Open Letter: "Dearest Papa"

"We are oceans apart, far and wide. Papa, I miss you so. There are times in my sleep that I think of you and it soaks my pillow. I will always be a papa's girl." ♥


Dearest Papa,

Thank you for bringing me into this world and bringing in my two brothers and little sister. You introduced me first on how to say a prayer, to pray each night before bed and if at times I was too tired from play and homework, you checked on me to make sure I did the sign of the cross.

You had taught me the first few favourite songs of your time and helped me memorize them line by line. I get out of tune and we both laugh hard and sing again until I made it right. I still remember the songs by heart and until to this day I sing aloud for my girls to hear- “You Are My Sunshine”, “Love Me Tender” and “Mr. Sandman”. Luckily, your granddaughters are not telling me, “Mom, enough already!” because they are actually learning the songs from hearing me singing them. And then, there were more songs that I enjoyed singing with you while you had shared to me your “song hits” a book full of old songs. I also remember “Candida”, “Feelings”, “Yesterday”, “The Love Story”, “Sweet Caroline”, “Killing Me Softly” and “Delilah”! You had also revealed to me that “Sweet Caroline” was the song you used to sing to mama and that “Moon River” became both your theme song.

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Papa's autographed photo to my ma.
Papa's autographed photo to my ma. | Source

My pa sings "Sweet Caroline" to my ma, Carolina

On Papa's Chickens and Dancing on Sundays

Going back when I was two, you held my hand and led me down beneath our house to watch you feed the chickens during sunrise. You handed me a couple of the fluffy yellow chicks to play while mama hen was out of sight. “Where did she go?” I asked. “Looking for worms perhaps.” you replied. “But why, when you feed her every morning?” I was looking down at you while you were pouring some feeds into the hens’ feed holders when suddenly out of nowhere the white fat mother hen came squawking and flapping straight at me. I stood there stunned, shocked and shaking. I even could still vision her terrified face and my face must have been equally terrified as her. From that time on, I had stopped playing with chicks and getting horrified with chickens. It developed into phobia!

"Papa, I love you!"

I cherish the times we danced on the floor. But you had to pull me on one hand and guided me to Boogie! I was laughing hysterically at the same time pulling away from you screaming, “I don’t want to dance. I don’t want to dance.” You never gave up on me but continued to sway to the rock and roll, playing loud enough that could make our neighbours across our house boogie while cooking. The chunky stereo cassette tapes and Goldies LP albums played one by one on Sundays and made me dance. I had fun dancing the cha-cha, salsa, waltz, but too shy to boogie for I have to slide underneath you, hahah. You had also tried teaching me rumba and came up with your version “Rumba, ang Japon na tumba; na-igo sa boomba sa America.” I exclaimed, “What? That’s not how it is!” You almost had fooled me there, papa!

We both danced in barrio fiestas (at least twice); one, dancing to the cha-cha and another time, I got picked out for "flower dance". I felt proud to be your dance partner and all eyes were at us. I went home with my feet looking like I was wearing socks, but it was all from dust. The fiesta dancing ground was a former farm lot and it did not matter for I was out there dancing with my pa. The flood lights were blinding, huge loudspeakers sounded like heavy thunder, and the crossed triangular flags of red, yellow and blue waved above head.


Me, Mark, Myles and Missy
Me, Mark, Myles and Missy | Source

On Papa's Discipline and Punishment to Mold Us

"Papa, you were very strict and thank you for that!"


You had taught the four of us good table manners- to give thanks to God for the food on the table, no reading of newspaper at the table while eating; no crumbs should fall off the plate and no fighting. Indeed, fighting happened a few times at the table with my brother. We were seated right across each other. When he threw rice at my face, like a catapult, I flicked my fork with food and hit him back, yeah! Then, you came around grabbed both our arms, pulling us to get up from our chairs and with your deep voice you said, “Stand up!” We angered you for we did not respect God’s graces for supper. You gave me and my brother some really good spanking with your belt. Mark got spanked first while I was quick enough to run to my room and put on some extra double shorts for padding. When it was my turn for the whipping, I will not deny it, with the padding of two shorts underneath; I was still scared and swirled around underneath your arm and around you, shielding my butt with my palm. It did not hurt that much and I pretended that it did. I got you there too, papa. I got you fooled!

You sternly scolded us, “No dinner for you both. Go to the altar and kneel and only get up when I tell you so.” I think I remember one incident that we both could had rested our knees on a few grain of raw rice. That could have been hard. And kneeling in front of the Virgin Mary will make us good you hoped, but we continued to fight and made faces, sticking our tongues out. “Face the walls!” you commanded and that stopped our face-fight until the time we were able to get up. Your strict discipline and punishments to straighten us were effective. We do not regret any of it papa, just see how we are now. We are thankful for our proper up-bringing.


One of papa's beautiful creation.  He makes them gigantic that could be visible far down the road.
One of papa's beautiful creation. He makes them gigantic that could be visible far down the road. | Source
Pa made this miniature replica of the Magellan's Cross shrine.   Learn about the Magellan's Cross at http://theparadoxicleyline.blogspot.ca/2010/03/magellans-cross-shrine.html
Pa made this miniature replica of the Magellan's Cross shrine. Learn about the Magellan's Cross at http://theparadoxicleyline.blogspot.ca/2010/03/magellans-cross-shrine.html | Source

On Pa at Play & Homework, Respect & Love

My one unforgettable time with you was solving thousands of jigsaw puzzle pieces on our cool tiled floor. We lay on the floor eager to finish the puzzle like there is no tomorrow. That was such great fun and you were really smart at it.

"I miss those days when you gave us each a bunny to raise and love, and how you fooled me, my brothers and sister with all your magic tricks."

Papa, thank you for your help and support in my major school projects. Your enthusiasm and creativity for sure had my class teacher graded you instead. You drove me tirelessly to find the most unusual trees from both ends (north and south of Cebu) to be able to come up with an “A” for my photography project too. I had wonderful adventure drives with you. And it indeed garnered "A+" for both you and me, haha!

Remember the time I started to shy away from giving you a kiss as we crossed paths on the road? I was off to school and you were driving home. You would stop the car, roll down the window and call for me to give papa a kiss. I shyly hesitated because I was conscious that neighbours could see me kiss you on the cheek. That was really stupid of me and why do we ever shy away like this as we grow up? I know my growing girls wants to avoid kissing their dad in public too or them getting kisses. I know I will always be a papa’s girl. I got some lessons from you that day after school. A lesson that taught me never to be ashamed of my parents, no matter where, no matter what; give them some respect.


I enjoyed every family trip to Bantayan Island for the Holy Week. Waking up at 4 a.m. and drive a long way north of Cebu was so refreshing witnessing the sun rising!
I enjoyed every family trip to Bantayan Island for the Holy Week. Waking up at 4 a.m. and drive a long way north of Cebu was so refreshing witnessing the sun rising! | Source
Family and relatives on board the "katig" pump-boat to Bantayan Island.
Family and relatives on board the "katig" pump-boat to Bantayan Island. | Source

On Papa's Guidance in My Growing Up to Becoming a Teen and Reaching Motherhood

"A father's pocket always has room for a little kindness. Pa gave me whatever was left in his wallet when I needed it."

As I was budding and receiving suitors, you have carefully and lovingly watched over me from them. Constantly, you reminded me to be modest and break up with a boy who does not follow the "golden rule" after courtship, also forcing me to take my little sister as chaperone to Sunday mass dates with my boyfriend. You shared your infatuations over mama during your university years whistling from your floor to get her attention.

One time, I made a big lie to you and went out with my friends together with our blind dates. I thought, my being honest does not make me be with my friends, so then, I tried lying. And with the lie I made, I felt, “Yes! Success!” That overnight beach party had my heart ceaselessly in a rhythmic “guilt” tempo.

There were times when I got stubborn and received slapping for yelling disrespectfully at you. Oh my, a slap felt like my lips were kissed by a cockroach! It felt like marshmallow, haha! You would lead me to my room and talk to me heart-to-heart. You shared sentimentally about your childhood and how lolo (grandpa) had disciplined you and your brothers in very strict Spanish ways. You would be in tears and I would be sobbing harder. The talk is closed with a kiss on the cheek, and then it made you and me feel better. You would say, “Give papa a kiss.” And you would not leave until we mended up.

"I learned half of the cooking lessons from you. I love your garlic fried rice, especially. And oh, the coffee-egg-in-my-rice, that was from you too!"

We learned to eat vegetables from you. As you used to say, “Just try it. You’ll never know until you’ve tried it.” The ugliest tasting vegetable I had when I was young is now one of my best veggie, the bitter melon! And thank you pa for teaching me how to drive. I wish I have your white beetle here in Canada.

Reaching womanhood brought me to bravely come home and open up to you one weekend. I was too frightened to approach you and how to start it. But you got the hint because I was constantly behind you; a fatherly instinct perhaps and hinted to me that you’ve noticed my appetite had changed and I was craving for your guavas! I hugged you tight, so tight that my tears were streaming down your neck. You whispered that it is alright, that I am of the right age, with a stable job and hold a man who is loved by the family and will be an ideal husband. Then you said it will make you so happy to have a grandchild. We did not spare mama the news, so we went back into the house and woke her from her nap. You are a dotting grandfather and dearly close to your first granddaughter and to all your grandchildren. As your eldest daughter and taking away your first grandchild who then was three years old was the greatest heartache leaving you and mama behind. We were both very close to you.

♥ "Papa, you are very dear to me. I love you. Happy Father’s Day!" ♥


Pa's caring letter to my brother.
Pa's caring letter to my brother. | Source

To Our Dear Myles

Ma sent me this letter and attached a note saying: "This letter is self-expanatory. It is written by your papa because he was not able to sleep since Myles was still outside and enters the house at 2:00 a.m. He gets angry when your pa speaks to him about it, so your pa wrote him a letter, hoping that he would read it."

I am transferring the letter here word for word the way my pa wrote it; to share and show to the young ones an example of how our parents get worried for us. I feel the same way as a mother of two. So here goes...

To our dear Myles,


Being one member of the family who have a good moral character, dignity and respectable by some of our neighbors, please be advised that if possible, we your father & mother who cares do not want you to stay late in the evening outside the house. Please be at home before 11:00 pm. We all know that some of our neighbors and others living in a distance are in the influence of drugs & liquor. Staying late at night might involved you or become witness to any incidents that may happen. And these can be avoided if you are inside the house early.


Your Papa and Mama are becoming older & older and days will come we will be depending on you. These past days we are talking about you while watching t.v. and you were outside. We both have the same feeling. We are worried and sometimes have a sleepless night thinking that you were still outside. We are very sorry to say, that we cannot talk to you directly due to circumstances beyond our control, so your loving Papa & Mama have decided to write this, hoping that our also beloved son will find himself a peaceful mind and obey his parents.


We love you,

Papa & Mama

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An Open Letter to My Ma on Mother's Day: http://coffeegginmyrice.hubpages.com/hub/An-Open-Letter-Dearest-Mama-On-Mothers-Day

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      KrystalD 2 years ago from Los Angeles

      So beautiful. I just wrote an open letter to my father for fathers day and came across yours. This is truly rich and you captured so much of your relationship and culture. Really amazing. I think you have a memoir in you. ❤️

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      shara63, I am delighted to see you stopped by and leaving me a comment. My father is precious to me and I am far away from him. I have to cross oceans and skies to get to him. Thank you shara!

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      Farhat 4 years ago from Delhi

      amazing hub, a rich tribute to your dad... the precious memories of all that makes the child-father relation beautifully pious & immortal .....thankyou for sharing them over here!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Oh wow, I also appreciate sincere comments like this, epigramman. I am glad that this hub about my pa is successful to touch anyone (not a mean thing) but everyone's comments here including sharing a brief story of your family touches my heart too. I am very appreciative and happy of your kind words. Please say meowww, I mean hellowww to your two furry bestfriends especially to Little Miss Tiffy!

      Take care and be good at work. Have a great evening!

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ...well hello my esteemed colleague and fellow Canadian - this is such a moving and touching hub hymn, if you will, and definitely an awesome tribute to your father - and I should know - because my dad was my best friend (although he was older - he was 40 when I was born) and my mum was my best friend too and they both made me the man that I am today - unfortunately my dad passed away back in 1992 and my mum in 2004 leaving me without a family but I have two cats who are my best friends and my mum's cat Little Miss Tiffy who is now 17 and a confirmed diva is the one in my picture here - I am living in the family cottage here at lake erie (which was built in 1956) and I live 100 feet away from the lake and yes I see some beautiful daybreaks and sunrises over the lake and at night in the west sky too - obviously you sound and take pictures in your hubs like a seasoned photographer.

      Sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time 5:19pm and having my cup of green tea before going to work

      p.s. - and yes although this hub was a labor of love for you and a tribute to your father - it also speaks volumes about his loving supportive and dedicated daughter - you!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you so much for a beautiful compliment! For sure your daughter will or have many fond memories of you. Take care!

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      Jim Higgins 5 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      What a delightfully touching Hub. It is a tribute to a father that any dad would love to hear. I hope that my daughter has as many fond memories as you list here.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      I am honoured as well for your visit here, Vinaya! It is really a great feeling and I am smiling widely here to see your comment on this hub. You are such an awesome writer and all I can do is follow you!

      p.s. It is a delight to know that your father has still treasured and cherished your letters from your boyhood!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      I feel so much delighted to read this. This hub reminds me my childhood. I wrote a lot of letters when I was in a boarding school. My father has still treasured some of my letters.

      PS: Thanks for reading my interview with Maria and some of my hubs. You honor me with your wonderful comments.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hi picklesandrufus! Thanks so much for your visit to my hub. Take care and have a nice day!

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      picklesandrufus 5 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      A really touching hub. It was so nice of you to share your fond memories.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      BeyondMax, your happy expression to this hub is well received! You just gave me a wide smile too and more smiles! There is nothing more in this world whom we owe our life to: God and our parents! Our childhood home is like a castle where only the parents rule! :)

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hi Redberry Sky! Your profile name alone makes me SMILE! "Moon River" indeed is a beautiful song. I sing it many times when it pops into my head and brings back memories with my pa each time. It is nice to know that it is also your pa's special song for your mom.

      My ma mailed that "Letter to Myles" to me in hopes that I will give advice to my brother as well to ease worries for our parents. Perhaps he had read it and put it aside. I'm glad ma took it back and showed it to me for I have cherished it all these years. If Myles wants it back, I'll give it to him but he better keep it, haha. Letters from our parents are so special. Their letters to my children too are in safe keeping until my girls are ready to keep them forever and then I'll hand them over.

      I'm happy that you've shared about "Moon River" as your pa's special song too. How beautiful are the songs of the past! They're golden! Thank you for your warm thoughts!

      Love, T

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      BeyondMax 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      So heartfelt, touching story, wow! A fascinating journey through the letters, so amazing! made me smile wide and feel warmth and happiness inside!

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      Redberry Sky 5 years ago

      So beautiful. You made me cry a little when I got to the part about 'Moon River' - that used to be my own father's special song that he would sing to my mother sometimes. The letter to Myles is fantastic! It feels warm and wonderful that you share these lovely things with us :)

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you Nell! I'm glad that this letter made you smile!

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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      This had me smiling all the way through, what a wonderful dad you have. He will love this tribute, and I think its so lovely, nell

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Oh sis, my little sis! Really, you cried? I had tears too while writing and finishing this and all the time I was by myself to pour out my feelings without any interruption. Good that you still remember how I had bribed you with an ice cream cone and hot salted peanuts, lol! What other bribes did you get from me? Refresh, hahaha!

      Thank you for being with papa and mama for I am so far away. Thank you for everything that you put your heart, sweat, worries, laughter and time into to be with them, accompany them and looking after them, even giving them advice. Huh, it is now our turn to watch them too, remind them and to advice them to stick with the doctor's rules. Parents as they grow older become stubborn as we were younger. Soon, we will become like them...that is where we are heading. My little nieces keep them entertained as well giving them the high spirits to appreciate the little girls. I know pa and ma are very proud of the girls' achievements! You are a wonderful mama, yourself. I love you and miss you so much! I owe you the same. Always, Badids (heheh)

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      Miswa 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      As your sister, I know how everything goes in the house. I'm even your sidekick and accomplice in several of your escapades and bribe me with treats as long as I never breathe a word to Papa.

      Honestly, I am not into cheesy stuff but your hub made me cry and love and appreciate Papa (and Mama) even more. I'm glad that I'm still living with Mama and Papa to take care of them.

      You are one talented writer and I'm so proud of you!!!

      Love you!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you so much, Debbie!

      "Parents" what are we to become without them? For a long time, I owe them their time and affection and I hope to be able to give back "more" for them, as it is "the time" my parents need me.

      Have a blessed day too! ~Tess

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Ohhh I love this.. it sounds like you have some great parents.. Blessings to you

      Debbie

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Yes, he is terrific, Gypsy Rose! I wish that he would find time to check this hub out about him. Thank you so much for your kind wishes for my family and pa too! I would like the same wish for you. I wish the greatest fathers in your family a Happy Father's Day! Love lots, Tess :)

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. You have one terrific dad. Love the pics. He must be so proud of you and so happy for this terrific tribute. God bless your whole family and hope you and your dad and everyone else a great Father's Day.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hi shampa sadhya! Thank you for your gracious thoughts! And a heartfelt thanks for loving it and voting up!

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      Shampa Sadhya 5 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Your tribute reflects the contribution of your father in your life. The way you paid your tribute is very significant and why not when father shaped your life. That was his great contribution and in return your tribute full of love must have made his Father's Day very special. Loved it. Voted up and beautiful!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you for your kind words, ishwaryaa22! Yes, I am close to my pa. Happy Father's Day!

      Thank you for your votes and sharing this hub! It is sweetly appreciated! Love ya! :)

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      A befitting tribute to your father! I see that both of you shared a good father-daughter relationship. I enjoyed reading your engaging story filled with warm memories with your father. You are truly Daddy's girl. Even I am Daddy's girl. Happy Father's day!

      Thanks for SHARING. Beautiful, Awesome & Interesting. Voted up & Socially Shared.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hello myownlife! I hope my sister will share this hub to him. He is still in the Philippines. You are absolutely right that strict discipline is for us and to see us grow to become good children and that would make our pa and ma proud!

      Thank you for your nice comment! Cheers to you too!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Thank you for dropping by, hscchemistry! It didn't take me time to think back my childhood bonding and growing up with my pa. It was just hard to shorten the hub :) Again, thanks for your kind words too!

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      myownlife 5 years ago from london

      Awesome memories and greatest tribute to the dad who always does and think for the best of children, though he is strict it's for us. Great job. Cheers

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      hscchemistry 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      Amazing letters - thanks for taking the time to share with us what great experiences you've been through, and also how you've identified with many of those youthful issues that tend to have which actually turn out to be great character developers in the end. Thanks for sharing!

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      Hi Cris! I regret though that I don't have enough photographs being with my pa while growing up. You see, we were not that inclined with photography, hahaha unlike these days, our kids are equipped with camera phones and digital cameras! All is by memory to me. At age 2, I guess everything seem vivid.

      Thanks for finding this hub first! Big smiles! Happy Dad's Day to The Man in your life!

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      This is awesome! I wish I was able to keep my dad's notes and letters to me. They all perished when mother nature wreaked havoc in our hometown and I couldn't save anything. This is impressive. Nicely penned!