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And still we wonder why our children don't respect us

Updated on January 23, 2015
Why don't you love me?
Why don't you love me?

We have them, then push them away

We do not have time for them afterwards

We treat them like pets, not children

And still we wonder


I see children each day walking

No coats, shivering from the cold

Their cheeks red and chapped

And still we wonder


A smile from a teacher at school

Leads to a smile in return

They are getting something they do not at home

And still we wonder


We wonder why they are angry

Why they are not behaving at home

Why they turn to others for what they do not have

Do not wonder


When I hear a father refer to his children

As his @#%$& children when he drops them off

At a school where they receive love and attention

Do not wonder


When I see a child running down a street

In raw temperatures, with no coat

Chilled and shivering with damp and cold

Do not wonder


When I see Grandparents caring for grandchildren

Because the parents are in jail, or nowhere to be found

Because they want to have their own lives

Do not wonder


We are raising a generation of children

Who receive little or no love at home

Who are crying out for attention, good or bad

We need to wonder Why?

Why we are where we are?

What did we do to cause this?

These children are reacting to us and our feelings

In the only way they know how.

Why do you not love me? they ask.

Why do you not care if I am hungry, or cold

If I am loved or happy

If I live or die

Why?

Ask yourself Why, not the children.

It is you who care not, not they.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Mr. Archer, people who treat their children like this have no business having children. They are our most precious gifts from God. Just think about how amazing it is that two people can create another human being and it grows inside the mother's womb. How miraculous is that?

      I tell my son each and every day I love him. And he has no problem telling me he loves me - no matter who's around to overhear! He's almost 21 and I will never let a day go by without letting him know how loved he is. I'm proud of the young man he has become and I tell him so frequently.

      Love makes the world go 'round. If you can' be a part of love, then jump ship BEFORE you affect someone else's life!

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      When the "gentleman" drove up to me last week and asked where to take his children to drop them off because he had never dropped his f*cking children off at school before, it took a second for me to close my mouth and answer. On top of that, these children, small children, were inside the car which had the windows up and cigarette smoke like a cloud inside. People who are parents like that make me sick.

      My wife and I tell each of our children we love them countless times every day, hugging and kissing on them like they were infants. Our kids range from 21 years old down to 9, and both boys and girls better expect it when we leave, or they do. It's just part of us.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Amen! We all thrive on love, no matter how old we get. Expressing it should be SOP rather than the exception.

      I have this little thing I do when my son and I are fortunate enough to not be passing ships in the night (he puts in hellacious hours!). When we're on the couch watching TV together, I squeeze his knee 3 times and he says, "I love you, too Mom!".

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      That's great!

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      TDM 4 years ago from Welcome to my beautiful world, where magic is no longer a myth.

      i liked what you said, and its so very true. i voted up for ya. and can't wait to see what else you have to say. :)

      I. White

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      LongTimeMother 4 years ago from Australia

      Voted up. It's a vote to say 'I care!' about all those kids.

      Thank you.

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      B A Tobin 4 years ago from Connnecticut

      Very emotional poem. Terrible tragedy of facts about many children.

      Oddly the poem itself is beautiful in that it is striking the heart. Thank you!

      We can only pray and volunteer.

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      Isaac, thank you for the vote up. Let me know what you think of any other works of mine.

      LongTimeMother, I knew you'd understand and say that. I care! That is exactly right. We all should care.

      barbat79, we must continue to pray for those children in these situations.

      I received an email from another hubber (comments weren't working. Imagine that) who said the only thing that they were concerned with in my writing this poem was really my use of the F word. They were positive about my writing it was just that word. I related that I hate that word and all of its derivitives, but when a father uses it to describe his own children I am forced to use it in this context to show how little he thought of them. Amazing one can care so little for their own flesh and blood.

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      B A Tobin 4 years ago from Connnecticut

      Yes indeed! I have seen this and shudder inside and have felt helpless...not my place to interfere. That is why I began volunteering...

      God Bless you and Please God Bless these children.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. It has long made me angry that people who really would care have no children but those who do have them make the children suffer.

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      Thank you Gypsy. I appreciate your kind words. I agree, there are many who deserve, yet do not have, and many who do not deserve yet have. We here on Earth cannot know the reasoning, but I trust there is a reason. You take care.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      Mr. Archer - bravo!

      I love a 'freedom fighter'...a justice fighter - and this certainly qualifies as that - not to mention beautiful, flowing poetry!

      ya don't have to be poor to feel like this..

      I had a very close girlfriend who had 3 children - had TONS of 'family' money - had a 'family island' - where her mother would take her 3 children for weekends...

      and yet - she had no problem at christmas or summer holidays to say right in front of them: "I can't f***ing WAIT for school to start again!"

      as if it were nothin'..

      if you'd have seen those kids faces - you'd have agreed it wasn't nothing..(altho - you probably don't have to see their faces to know)

      Excellent message - i will do my part in spreading it around..

      voting and sharing forward..

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Oh God, this is so true. I have seen this happen. It is so heartbreaking, yet no one seems to care or understand or they do not want to understand. Voting this up and awesome. Sharing this. Hopefully it will create some awareness. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Some people really should not be allowed to have children and even ones not starved or neglected in one way are in others. Many are bought instead of loved. I know children who never knew a normal life, never went to school, never kept normal hours and no one cares what they do. So when they grow up to be criminals, then what?

      Great write. ^

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      Sooner28 4 years ago

      Great hub! Voted up and sharing.

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      B A Tobin 4 years ago from Connnecticut

      Yes! voted up!

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 4 years ago from Norfolk

      The truly shocking thing about your writing is , that this is happening the world over. I walk in the streets of England and hear fathers, mothers and children using the 'F' on each other and it is as if the word is just another word. I think parents should pass some sort of proficiency test before they are allowed to bring children into this world. The parents should also be able to cope with the financial pressures of having children without resorting to the State to finance endless numbers of children. I thought from the writing that you were writing this in the UK - checked and discovered that you were not. It kind of shocked me just a little that it is happening all over the world. We are breeding a lost generation of children who did not ask to be born. They only ask to be loved and cared for. The problem is, even if some parents are good and kind, their children don't always respect them either. What the answer is, I truly do not know. Great poem, voted up.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Mr Archer,

      Gosh, I had all I could do not to cry! You ask why? It is unfortunate that only the people who truly care ask that question. The ones who are guilty of the neglect and abuse don't ask why. I wish your words were placed at their feet in the morning. I wish we could shake them and ask them if they realize what they are doing, the damage they are causing! I am so touched to see another care the way that you do! This was beautiful!

      Voted up and beautiful!

      Cat

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      Leslie, thank you so very much. I do not understand people like this. I love my children, and want nothing more than for them to get a good solid education, both in book learning and real life lessons. They may not always believe that, because I tend to keep on them about those life lessons. Momma takes care of the book learning (she has two degrees, and will not accept failure there). I think they think I am on them too much, but it is only because I care; because I see how unfair the world is and desire nothing more than they be prepared for it. Their Mother, they understand: school is vital. But life lessons do not appear to be as important to them. Someday, they will realize...

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      Livingsta, Jackie, Josh, Sally, cantuhearmescream thank each of you for taking the time to stop by and read and comment. I truly appreciate your thoughts and shares of this subject. We vitally need to help those who need it, and in my eyes, this group requires it. Sally, you turned a phrase there that stuck with me: a Lost Generation. How apt; how true. We now have a generation of children who are lost to affection, love, guidance, and we have the gall to ask why? Why they act this way, why they are angry, why don't they care more? We need to ask these parents those questions. Thanks to each of you from the bottom of my heart.

      Barbat, it thrills me to see you continuing to follow this hub and its comments. That says you care deeply about this subject. Bless you.

      And heartfelt Blessings to each of you out there.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Mr Archer,

      When these parents don't bother to ponder why, but instead think "Who cares?", what do we do then? This is what scares me; times have changed and family doesn't have the same definition it once did. You can't stop people from making families so how do we get them to appreciate them?

      Cat

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      I wish I had an answer to that question. All we can do at present is continue to make ourselves heard, both in print and in person. It will be uncomfortable but the time has come where we will have to say something to those who speak and act this way in public. Thanks for caring so deeply.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Mr Archer,

      I guess you're right. It's awfully hard to stand by and watch this happen. I don't understand how anyone could not be 100% compassionate toward children... they are about the only thing left that is truly innocent. Thank you for caring!

      Cat

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      atheistchick 4 years ago from Hangin' in my room

      I'm studying to become a Pre-K teacher!...this poem has moved me. I try not to be judgmental of parents however I cannot appreciate parents who do NOTHING for their children. Are not attentive or do not care about raising their own offspring. I have been taught that every parent wants their children to succeed in life, that they always care about their kids. It's simply not true! This poem proves t me that it isn't true. That is so saddening to me.. I will love those children I teach but the love needs to begin at home.... I will have relationships with the family but to have those relationships so they can be partners with me in their child's education they need to love their children.......... and I am rambling on and on... sorry!

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      Twilight Lawns 4 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

      So very much from the heart, my friend. Thank you, sometimes we don't see what is all around us.

      I had forgotten to look. It is chilling to be reminded.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      This is sad but oh so true and is happening around us, unfortunately. God bless the children and you for writing this important hub.

      Up+++ and sharing.

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      Jamie Lee Hamann 4 years ago from Reno NV

      Thank you for this glimpse into a truth that makes me angry also. I am going to give my children an extra hug and kiss when I get home from work.. Jamie

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      Shannon 4 years ago from Texas

      Oh, dear. This one is a tear jerker. One thinks one has seen and heard it all regarding children, but I've seen drugs dealt in front of a child and had a little boy tell me all about how his mama slammed his head into a wall. It's all so very sad.

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