"Are You A Personal Caterer Of The Heart"

Caterers normally provide food or entertainment for someone or indulge the wishes of another person. I became a personal caterer when I got married to my husband at eighteen. Since I'm from a religious background. I believed when you marry, it's was for keeps, but that was unfortunate for me. Since everyone you marry might not necessarily be the husband or the wife that God has for you. I was then and now a person that love to please her mate and since he was my first, I wanted everything to be perfect and I wanted to make him happy. Sometimes, when we go out our way trying to make someone else happy, we sometimes forget about ourselves in the process. We do have to except the fact that we can't make some people happy no matter what we do. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. I tried to do things that I thought would make him happy or at least content.

I catered to his every desire and whim, not knowing that I was digging myself further in a hole. I didn't have any experience in the relationship department. I only had my parents as role models and they seemed to be happy with each other My situation was totally different because I had a butt for a husband. I was married to my husband ten years and that was because I was trying to make my marriage work. I finally excepted the fact that it was over. When he had two outside children on me and misused and abused me. So, I left with a broken heart. I think I learned a lot in my ten years of catering to my husband. Now, I know that doing personal catering to your husband or wife, man or woman is not a good thing.Unless you're blessed with a very caring man or women that will appreciate you and your efforts. A relationship is suppose to be a two way deal, where both parties get something back and not just special perks for one person.

Although, When I was doing my personal catering, I truly enjoyed it, but if the people don't appreciate the goodness you're giving them form the bottom of your heart. It's a useless service to render. Personal catering is just like your regular catering services you do a good service and get paid a good fee for services rendered. The only difference between the two is in personal catering...your fees are emotional feedback of love, gratitude, and appreciation from the person you're catering too. I had to learn that just because you trying to make things better for someone you love. It doesn't mean that they will appreciate you or your effort. Some people think you suppose to do these things. They don't have enough sense to realize that these are fringe benefits. The down side of being a personal catering is you're giving your love, your body and soul to a person that treat you like their personal possession and they owns you. In being a personal caterer, your feelings will be hurt over and over again until you put a stop to your pain.

If a person is getting good treatment for you. He or she isn't going to stop you from giving them good service, what fool would? We have to learn that enough is enough and move forward with your life. Personal caterers have to learn how to make their ownselves happy and content. Since our man or women want always oblige us. When a personal caterers has given their all and nothing is returned back to him or her. Then we feel a lost of self worth and most of all misunderstood, misused and abused. I have learned that giving to much of yourself to the wrong person is a detriment to us. Especially, if we're giving to takers or losers. If you're involved in a relationship where you're giving everything and taking care of everything. It's time to catch another bus, because this one is on empty. Since he's or she is on empty,what on earth can he or she give you except heartache and pain.

I know there are men and women that are in the same type of relationships and if this is the case the same advice apply to you. If we spend all our lives tied to a loser or a user, there's no room for the right person to come into our lives. We have to clean up our house and that means getting rid of your handicaps, and finding the person that's going to work with you to achieve happiness and contentment for the both of you. if we're involved in a relationship where the person is all about me and I. They're all about self and what you can do for them so it's time to hurry up and free your self from the emotional leech. That's sucking the life out of you. We all can do bad by ourselves and we don't need any help to starve to death. So, if you're in a personal caterer of the heart business, it's time to find yourself another lucrative business profession. Close down your personal catering business because you can't find the right customers and your business is going out of business.

Wouldn't it be nice to meet someone real that can cater to you for a change and give you some of the benefits and treats that you have been giving out for so long. We have to remember that through God all things are possible .. only if you believe it within your heart.

Benny Faye Douglass