Are You Better Then Me?
And So It Goes......
I decided to write on this very festive holiday. After an amazing morning with my two very happy children, i started to think about how many people may have had a hard time this holiday season. I know for a fact that many of my friends had a hard year. It may be at different levels, it may be someone famous, it may be your next door neighbor. Some people will never let you know and some people are at ease with the change. Not many are though. I don't know many people that will be truthful about their circumstances. Sad really cause just imagine how much little things can help. Even if you could do something to help a family and make their holiday better cause of the love you share. Just little things can make a huge difference.
The reason why I decided to write this is because the class situation in Britain has sort of become an issue in my home lately. It is very strange to understand this way of thinking. I experienced it quite a bit when I lived in the UK for a year from 2007-2008. I spent a lot of time in the nicest places, my kids were in the "best schools," and and I frequented some of the hottest spots there. Many years ago I partied in Liverpool and ofcourse enjoyed the history there. Especially when it came to The Beatles. I was in awe like any American would be who loves music. Liverpool is not considered a very nice place. It is in the North, but I never noticed it. Afterall I grew up in very humble beginnings in Hollywood before my father ever moved me to one of the nicest places in Los Angeles to live. I eventually bought my own house there too, but felt that it had become a very shallow place and I refused to raise my children there. And so I moved them to a small town where they can be kids and not have to remember celebrities names for conversation or pretend that they are someone they are not. I'm not bitter about it, I just grew up there and it is a very hard place to grow up in especially if you are a young women. I would not recommend raising children in Los Angeles. This is just my opinion. Everyone has one.
Since I am in the music business, I have many friends and relations from different parts of Europe. I deal with a lot of different people in Britain. Some musicians and close relations I know come from the North or various other parts in England. I guess it would be like either living in downtown Los Angeles or Malibu. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. The point I'm bringing here is this.
What Makes You better then Me? Infact, what makes you better then anyone?
When I was a child, my father was pretty well known but he never rubbed anything in anyones face. He was always kind to everyone from all walks of life. He helped people and saved many people from financial ruin. He came from a really poor background and was a self made man and eventually wrote many hit songs and he raised me after my mother died at a young age. He never had a flashy car and he designed and built his home in a very affluent neighborhood eventually. But he did it his own humble way and eventually he was very happy with what he had achieved. He said that the best part of writing such beautiful songs is that he will know when he leaves this earth that the songs will never be forgotten. Like he had left his stamp and love on future generations. Beautiful really.
My point is it is great if you have a lot of money, nice cars and big homes, but do you do anything for others? Do you spend your day only thinking of yourself? If you don't then I have NO interest in you as a person. Nomatter how rich or famous you are. Nomatter where you come from or how privileged your background was? As far as I'm concerned, you are a waste of space.
In America, people seem to compete with materialistic objects, but I never felt the prejudice that I felt when I was in England. I was living in the South in Sussex and I'm very close to someone who grew up in the "old school boys tie" club. His social views on people from the North are very cruel. I mention the Beatles but it does not seem to change the pitiful parts of the conversation and the many insults about people he does not know. It's as if anyone who lives far from Sussex or London is worthless. Sad really. It's like me saying, I will never hang out with anyone in Los Angeles unless they come from Beverly Hills, Malibu or Santa Barbara. Really?
This makes me wonder in this new economy how everyone is coping? I know many people who have lost millions of dollars and can now no longer afford to eat. I know people who haven't found work in years and have had to reach out because they have no choice. I'm not even sure where they all came from? Different part of LA or "out of state?" Who the hell cares!!!!!!!! Some of these people only frequented situations with well off people with big houses and expensive cars. Or they hung with people in the entertainment business who could further their expensive lives. I wonder how they are turning down invites now? I wonder how they are dealing with such change and saving face with people who value nothing but themselves and what they have?
I will end this article with a few points and words of wisdom. Atleast I hope that my words do something here. Afterall that is why I write! Remember "what goes up, must come down." The point is NEVER go up to where you think you are too good for everyone. Reach out and help others. Take some extra time away from your iphone and make a difference in someones life. And then if you ever DO FALL, you will know deep down in your heart that you made a difference. I don't know about you, but isn't that what life is about? Your neighbor with the big beautiful house next door? Have you seen them around? Well they may be in a crisis. Take some flowers or homemade cake next door. Can you love someone? Can you find it in yourself? DO something!