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Backing Up the Bus While Moving Forward ... Rolly A. Chabot

Updated on September 5, 2014
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Welcome

Good morning to all from sunny Alberta, great looking day and the grass needs cutting. I have parked the mower at the front door so if anyone feels the need... well I would be obliged to pass along an extra cookie... with a heart of gratitude of course.

Let's sit back a little this morning and think of the words, "If I could do things differently I would.... ?

Gather around and sit a spell and reflect on how that may have changed your life... more importantly would have changed who you are today. Welcome, make yourself at home and know that you are dearly loved... hugs included of course.

Change is Good

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Caught Up

Have you ever been caught up in a lifestyle or a situation that change is a must, where you are so very uncertain where it will lead you feel like this guy in the picture running out of options. I think most of us have at one point or time in our lives. Each of us I would say have had varying degrees of situations that have cost us something.

Change can be brought on for many reasons, financial, emotional, addictions, relational... and the list goes on and on. We second guess ourselves all the time. Our lives are what has moulded us into who we are and what we have become. Then comes the question... "Did I do the right thing at the time, could I have done things differently?

If you had, would it have changed the course of your life or where you are today. I read an interesting quote the other day for us all to ponder. "If you allow the past to become your present, then you have already determined your future." A powerful concept is it not.

Life's Maze

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Finding the Way

At times life can be complicated, so many rabbit trails look better than the one we are on. We can look back and question ourselves of the what if's and yet would we be where we are today if we had followed them.

My life has been filled with change, there have been as many downfalls as I care to keep a score card on. Some have been very nasty, others bearable, some downright embarrassing and yet there has always been tomorrow. We are a people who are strong and resilient if we choose to be. The human body, mind and emotions are powerful drivers.

Years back I would have to wait for the Visa bill to come to find out where I had been while I was lost in addictions. Would I change those days, certainly as they were completely lost. Would finding them again change me, yes I suppose it would. Do I regret some of those days, I sure do and yet the blessing that comes now is knowing I awoke this morning still in one piece. I am healthy and alive, which came into question many times after the things I have done, let alone the wrecks I have left in my wake.

If there is something good that has come from all the wrong paths I have taken I have gained some wisdom along the way and know I will never go down that road again. Nothing and or no one could make me do what I inhaled, swallowed or injected. Nothing would be gained and all would be lost if that happened. The addict of any kind can and will tell you the same. Whatever the addiction it may start small and become a horrible habit faster than you realize. It ran my life 38 years ago, today my life is run by something far different and love the fact I can love openly on honestly with each person I met.

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Change

Real change begins in the heart and generally takes place after we have had a life altering occurrence. How we change rest entirely in our own hands. Choose to be bitter and resentful and it is the way you will live. Choose to be positive and look at the future with hope and caring for those you love, you will be much happier. Accepting the love of others with open arms and you are blessed indeed.

I so love being around people who have a good attitude and face circumstances as they come in the same manner. If we choose to live under another persons anger, well we just never really get to live to the fullest do we. Unhealthy relationships can and will change who are really called to be. Step clear of them and simply love from a distance, in time hopefully they realize their anger is holding back their full potential.

Change is hard, sometimes it seems unbearable, yet after we begin to accept it and live it the obstacle grows smaller and becomes a distant memory. Once cleared from our hearts and minds we become better people.

As a Pastor I have had opportunity to talk to families during and after the passing of a loved one. They have shared painful regrets they never forgave the deceased or the deceased has passed and left issues unresolved. Truly heartbreaking stories that can cause great pain to the survivors for years to come, they end up living on quilt and shame. Is it that important to withhold love over some silly squabble.

I often look back, sometimes I can wave the flag of victory and today I can say openly and honestly. "The road I have travelled in the past has brought me to the place I have come today." I am so grateful for all those who invested into me over the many years. The debt can never be repaid to them but I certainly can invest in others...

© Rolly A, Chabot 2014

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Deborah... thanks for the visit and as always we welcome you at the Fireside... Accepting where we are in life is an important part of growth, often it is a renewal of the mind...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Aviannovice... alway a pleasure to have you join us at the Fireside. We do have to accept change if we are going to grow...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Deborah Demander 2 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      Life is all about the experiences. They bring us where we are today.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      Namaste.

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      Deb Hirt 2 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      I like your attitude. Change comes as a result of needing to do so, nothing less. If we want to survive we do it because we must. Great topic, and nice to see you down to the bare bones. You have my respect.

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Billrrrr... welcome to the Fireside and I do hope you drop in often and say hello. "Four Strong Winds" has always been a favourite and Ian and Sylvia are amazing artists. I have met them both on a few occasions and both are very down to earth. Sadly they divorced several years ago but have both gone on to successful careers.

      Hugs and Blessings from Alberta

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Susan... you are so right and I think many carry pain that is unnecessary, thus their future and past are hard to separate...

      Hugs from Alberta

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi aerospacefan... first and foremost welcome to the Fireside, thank you for stopping by and adding to our family here. Glad you have joined us and please do make yourself at home...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Nell... I agreed with you fully, especially with forgiving yourself. Of all the people to do so with, yourself is the hardest... Glad to know we all have a future and are able to step into it with a little hard earned wisdom...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Eric... thank you as always for following along. Life can not be learned from a teaching. It is through living it we learn, learning is the source of our wisdom...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Bravewarrior...

      Your comment has touched me deeply as you have shared from your heart what once was and is gone. Addictions of any kind can only lead to damage of ourselves and all those around us.

      I have had the privilege and honour over the years to read and hear of many success stories , here at HP and the many other sites we frequent. Each is a victory, each has changed lives... thank you for sharing with us...

      Much love and respect from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 2 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Bill... always good to share a cup with you, fresh brewed, hot and a comfort for us all. You are right, we can all invest in each other with a kind word, a gesture or in person a hug.... thanks for stopping and sharing... great way to start my day as well...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Bill Russo 2 years ago from Cape Cod

      Wonderful job on this. Whenever I hear Alberta, I am reminded of perhaps the greatest Canadian song of all time, Ian Tyson's "Four Strong Winds". Recorded back in the 1960s with his wife Sylvia, it was a monster hit in Canada and a moderate hit in the States. If you have not heard it, you might enjoy it. In eight bars, Ian pretty much concurs with what you say. The song is a story of endings and beginnings. Of hope and resignation. Of change and finding a new way.

      I am a New Englander and was fortunate to live in the Boston area when they played nearby at the Newport Folk Festival in 1963, They were far better than Bob Dylan who was nearly booed off the stage, and on a par with Joan Baez and Pete Seeger.

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      Susan Zutautas 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      All I try to do is to look forward these days. I lived in the past for way too many years.

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      John M 2 years ago from Chicago

      Hi, Rolly,

      Great job and thank you for sharing. I have been following your Wolf Series too!

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      Hi Rolly, yes sometimes we look back too often, and forget to look forward, I know I have made many mistakes and still feel the sting, but we should always forgive ourselves and go forward, have a wonderful weekend, nell

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      Shauna L Bowling 2 years ago from Central Florida

      Rolly, I so appreciate you sharing this with us. I was addicted to cocaine many years ago. I was also addicted to relationships that could lead nowhere but down the wrong road. I have since kicked both habits.

      Would I do things differently if given the chance? Probably not. The only way I was able to learn what was best for me was to realize that the choices I made were not conducive to my dreams. Perhaps those experiences forced me to look at myself and see that I had dreams; life wasn't a one-day-at-a-time-free-for-all.

      I'm a stronger person today for recognizing the holes that I dug for myself and crawled out of through admittance and determination. Now, I just say "no" to any situation that does not keep me on the path of contentment.

      Excellent post, Rolly. What a beautiful way to end the week! Thank you for your reflection and the self-reflection that came of it.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Excellent view point and a great reminder that only by living this life do we get to where we are today.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You certainly can invest in others...as we all can...and should. What a great way to begin my day, sitting by the fire with an old friend. Thank you for your friendship.

      hugs from Oly

      bill