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Geeky girl and proud!

Updated on May 9, 2013

Recently, being a geek has become a fad. Since comic book movies have had increasing success over the past few decades (especially now, with the advanced CGI technologies that studios use), the world of geek has started to go mainstream. The Big Bang Theory has done a lot to bring some “chic” into “geek”. Being a geek is now officially cool.

Because of this, we have a lot of “fake” geeks out there. Those that wear The Flash on their shirt to imitate Sheldon Cooper, but they have no concept of what it truly means to be a geek. Their homes look like any other non-geek home. They can’t answer a single question that any geek can answer. They don't understand the funadamental differences between Star Wars and Star Trek. Not only that, they couldn’t tell you the real name of The Flash or what his personality is like. They may even think that The Flash is the same person as Flash Gordon, a crime that should be punishable by public flogging at San Diego Comic Con.

While we have “fake” geeks of both genders, and while it’s flattering that for at least a few moments people actually want to be like us, it’s still extremely hard to be a girl who is also geek. One may think that it is getting easier for us, but it is only getting harder. Let me explain in two easy steps.

#1: Girly girls still rule the world

That’s right. Girly girls still rule the world. With each passing year, this becomes more and more true. The introduction of the modern wave of reality television has taught society that the more fake the body is and the more the fake parts are covered with high-dollar wear, the better off you are. Even to go to the grocery store in sweats is an ordeal for these types of girls. The “sweats” are really expensive designer outdoor wear to make it appear one is dressed down. And have you ever noticed that those dressed-down girls have a ton of makeup on and they’ve done their hair perfectly to look messy?

Commercials and television shows make us believe that the guy can look however he wants, and there will still be a beautiful, skinny girl with long hair standing next to him. Even the geeky guys get those girls. The Big Bang Theory shows the flighty blonde Penny hooking up with über-geek Leonard. Which leads us to point number two…

Amy Farrah Fowler with Penny


#2: Inaccurate portrayal of geeky girls

In The Big Bang Theory, Penny is the main female character, in all her long blonde, cleavage-revealing glory. There are a couple geeky girls in the show, namely Amy Farrah Fowler, the love interest for Sheldon. The way that Amy is portrayed is insulting to all truly geeky girls. Amy tritely wears oversized horned-rimmed glasses, mismatched clothing and speaks robotically. In fact her whole personality is robotic, as if she has never been exposed to the outside world. It’s like she takes geeky steroids every morning with her Cheerios. Worse yet, she is strangely infatuated with Penny’s character, constantly making references to how beautiful and wonderful Penny other words, the type of girl us lowly geeky girls can only aspire to be someday.

To show the non-geeky girl as beautiful and the geeky girl as over-the-top geek is terrible way to portray a truly geeky girl. Yes we may be a bit socially awkward at times, and we don’t have a wardrobe choice that one would find on the runway, but most of us are nothing like Amy Farrah Fowler. What makes this stereotype even worse is when a girly girl tries to pretend to be a geeky girl. They buy a form-fitting Batman shirt because they think Christian Bale is oh-so-cute and wear it in public as a fashion accessory.

What it means to be a geeky girl

First and foremost, being a geek is not a fad. It is not a fashion statement. It is not the route to being cool. And we're certainly not a punchline on a primetime television show. Being a geek is summed up in that first word: being. You’re either a geek or you’re not. You can fight your geeky nature, but it will creep back up through the cracks. You can try and pretend you’re a geek, but you will be exposed as a fraud.

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One also must remember that there are different types of geeks. One may be a neurobiologist and the next may be a hard-core gamer. There’s no rule book for geeks stating that you must play D&D every day, dress in cosplay at every con, have encyclopedic knowledge of every comic ever created, be a hard-core gamer and work for NASA all at the same time. Geeks, like everyone else, tend to have a specialty. Some may even have a little knowledge of everything while not truly specializing in anything. The recent reality show King of the Nerds highlighted this part of our culture of which most people were previously unaware.

Just as we all have our own specialties (or broad knowledge), we don’t all dress the same. There may be geeks that don’t know how to color coordinate and there may be geeks who are very fashionable. Geeks may also not exhibit behavior that is considered to be “geeky” at all times. I may have a normal conversation with you about a totally non-geeky topic and you will have no idea that I stayed up until three in the morning playing video games the night before. I don’t have to talk video game or comic book all day long to still be a geek.

Geeky girl and proud!

The stereotypes that are perpetrated on geeky girls are difficult ones to overcome. We are told that we need to either look like a supermodel at all times or we’re lumped into the category of Amy Farrah Fowler. In the end, geeky girls should realize that we’re above stereotypes and societal pushing and shoving by the “popular” girls.

There is a movie out there where a character says, “Mutant and proud.” For us, though we need to change it a bit. “Geeky girl and proud.” And if you know which character says that line and what movie they say it in…and then tell me which character said it second, all about every character in the movie and debate if they were accurately portrayed, you may just be a geeky girl after all, worthy of entrance into our secret club.


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    • Angie Martin profile imageAUTHOR

      Angie Martin 

      5 years ago from Frazier Park, California

      The Red Hood is just plain awesome - have fun with that! I'm sure my hubby will figure something out...I don't want to be the only one of us dressed :)

    • rabbit75 profile image


      5 years ago

      The Red Hood (new version), which I'll be cosplaying next month at Stockton Con the beginning of next month. Totally looking forward to it!

      I'm sure your hubby will think of something to go as. If you're buying costumes, be careful. Some look really good in pictures online, but once you get them you'll be like...WTH? I've had that happen with every single comic book related costume I've bought.

      The Red Hood costume I ended up having to piece together, which really wasn't hard. I didn't like a lot of the quality to the various elements of the costume I bought and decided to just buy regular black cargo pants and real drop leg gun holsters. The only part of the costume I'm using is the black jumpsuit that came with it lol.

      But, Claire Redfield shouldn't be a problem. Female costumes are usually made a lot better than guy costumes for some odd reason. If the hubby can piece together an outfit for the character he wants to cosplay, he may be happier with the quality.

    • Angie Martin profile imageAUTHOR

      Angie Martin 

      5 years ago from Frazier Park, California

      You know what, I will just do it! There is always the concern that the elitists will be upset, but you're right that we shouldn't care.

      With my red hair and absolute love of Resident Evil, there is only one person for me to be: Claire Redfield. My hubby has considered dressing as Wesker, but he shaves his head so he couldn't pull off the no-hair Wesker. He's still trying to decide what he wants to go as, but I'll make him dress up as well.

      What have you dressed up (or are thinking of dressing up as)?

    • rabbit75 profile image


      5 years ago

      As someone who is recently getting into cosplay, I say just do it: Buy your costume and go and have fun. Ignore the haters (there will always be those anywhere you go).

      If you're going to cosplay just to have fun it shouldn't matter anyway. I'm not there to please other cosplayers. Not there to win any contest or to gain exposure for anything. I'm just there to celebrate my love for comics with other comic fans.

      Go to both next year and have the hubby or boyfriend dress up also. If you can get other friends to cosplay it will be better as well. Trust me, it's a whole different experience at a comic con when you cosplay at least one day out of the event. It's also very fun and addicting.

      Who are you thinking of dressing up as next year?

    • Angie Martin profile imageAUTHOR

      Angie Martin 

      5 years ago from Frazier Park, California

      Awesome comments! I completely agree. I really was struck by your comments about cosplay. I have yet to do cosplay, but I have planned to do so for either Comikaze this year or Wondercon next year. My problem is I don't know how to sew, so I'd be in the same boat as the others that have to buy my costume. To me it doesn't matter. Last time I checked, superheroes weren't sitting around with a sewing machine. Well, except Peter Parker, but that's a different story.

      I agree that there are some elitist cosplayers out there and it's ridiculous. As a community of like-minded people, we already struggle against the masses to be accepted as we are - comic geeks, gamers, computer nerds, etc. Why should we have to struggle against our own as well? I've seen some amazing handmade costumes and some amazing store-bought costumes. It doesn't matter much to me, as long as they are paying tribute to their favorite character. Part of the wonder of cons is people watching and seeing all the amazing costumes. It should remain that way without elitism. (Great job on the question, too, lol!)

    • rabbit75 profile image


      5 years ago

      I find the whole "Geek" term strange, especially "comic geek". When I was growing up, I've never been called that. If you were a geek, you were just called geek, nerd, dork, or even more unflattering terms like loser. It was never considered cool to be a geek to the majority of the masses during my childhood.

      Only until a few years ago did I ever really hear the term "comic geek", but it was said like it was some sort of secret code name for some secret club or something. "Oh, you're cool. You're a comic geek like us." Something to that effect.

      I agree that the recent popularity of "geekiness" is it's the cool thing to be now, and you're right...being a geek isn't a fad. It's just basically a way of life or having mad skills or a passion at a subject that most people don't understand nor want to.

      And you're right...the media, like they do with all things...greatly stereotype what a geek should look like...they all must have big rimmed glasses and all talk overly intelligent, use big words, and have horrible fashion sense with their pants pulled up past their belly button. Just like jocks are all dumb bullies and rockers are all dumb, drug addicts.

      I really don't have a "Geek" test or anything to determine a true geek from a fake geek. I could care less really. I just do what I love doing and don't care what anyone really thinks about it. If what I have a passion for is deemed "geeky" by most, so be it.

      What I have noticed is some elitist attitudes of some cosplayers, like if you don't make your own costumes you shouldn't cosplay. I'm just like since when did dressing up as your favorite superhero or movie character have to do with your sowing abilities? I just think it's cool that you dressed up as your favorite character and showing love for that character. I could care less if you made the costume or bought it as long as it looks cool and you're having fun.

      The movie is X-Men: First Class and the character is Mystique who said that line, but then again, I'm not a girl lol. Interesting read. I really enjoyed reading it! Keep up the great work!

    • Theater girl profile image


      5 years ago from New Jersey

      Great read and perspective! From a girl who knows the (many) differences btwn Star Wars and Star Trek!


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