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Boundaries and Blessings

Updated on September 23, 2013

Hugs to All who Enter



Welcome one and all to another stop at the Fireside. Today is a great day to have a fire slowly burning, some soft music playing in the background, good friends and of course Quigley bouncing from one person to the next.

Help yourself to some coffee, tea and hot chocolate. There are some peanut butter cookies and even some brownie squares ready for the taking. Introduce yourself if you are new here and we welcome you to settle in where ever you like. Cuddle in close everyone as we are chilly tonight.

Thank you in advance for leaving a blessing in my home and hopefully you will leave with one or something to ponder over the next while... above all else please know that you are dearly loved.

Open and Free Or Cluttered



Have you noticed the past several years just how busy we are getting with our lives? So busy we have all but lost the ability to relax, sit back and just watch the day go by. When was the last time you lay down on the cool grass, and watched the clouds float overhead. When you captured the marvel at the many different shapes. Instead, we are running here and there doing all sorts of necessary things leaving us with little time for those who really matter in our lives.

Many of us bring our work home with us. Just those last few touchups to make the presentation just right. Tweak that report just a little more. Lets face it you can do it at home where is is far quieter than the office. Come on now admit it we have all done the same. You do because you are dedicated because you are a kind, caring person who wants to achieve some incredible things in your career. That is all fine and dandy but what are you giving up to perform your little tweaks.

Just stop and think a moment on that thought. "What are you giving up? When was the last time you let your children crawl all over you in their attempts wrestle you to the floor? When was the last you quietly sat and cuddled with your spouse, held her hand and told her you love her. When was the last time you sat as a family and had a meal together and talked about life long after the meal was over. "What are you giving up?

I used to live in a large city, here in Alberta. Notorious for its horrific vehicle crashes. Mostly due to excessive speed and driving without care or caution. The city was Calgary where a major corridor road runs north and south and feeder roads exit and enter all along its length. The speed limit is posted at 60 miles per hour. Be prepared when you enter this as it is a race track, be sure and be awake. If you drive the posted speed, you will need to look at the window because there is fear you are standing still. The rest of the traffic is moving far faster than you. The sad part of it is the three lanes of traffic come to a grinding halt when there is an accident. It is generally bad with vehicles scattered across all the lanes.

Such Love Given


A Good Teacher

I know many of you know whom Quigley is, if not well meet Quigley. She is a great teacher of what life should be like. You see she earns her place believe it or not. She is all over her assigned task and loves what she does.

Some may think she is crazy running from one visitor to the next offering each some of her unique loving, but really is she? If you pay attention to Quigley, she has nothing but love and just wants to be sure and give it out to as many as she can while you are here.

People have accused me of not spending as much time with her because she is lonely. "Wrong" she is all but hermetically attached to me. I can not go anywhere without having her with a toy in her mouth and ready for action. Now admittedly she would argue with you and tell you she is hard done by and has no friends and never gets attention. Trust me she is a liar. Don't let those big brown eyes fool you.

The point I am making here is what can we learn from this little dog, and I am sure pets in your homes. They live for our attention and return we have faithfulness and never-ending, unconditional love. When we loose them we grieve as they are just like a member of the family and or a loved one.

A little pat on the head for your pet may be enough, but family and people require more. At times our undivided attention. I read an interesting article the other day, and a survey had been taken asking how many meals a day do you eat together as a family in North America. The statistics certainly shocked me at an average of four meals a week with everyone present. That was an amazing wake up call.

A Short Distance From Here


High Pressure

Lets face it we are under pressure to make a living. There are many expenses we are obligated to pay each month. Our work is demanding, and it takes its toll on people. We are called to perform at maximum capacity at all times.

A good example how many people carry a company cell phone? Likely most people do depending on the type of work they do. The cell is considered an interracial part of your business day, right. But how many companies are insisting you take it with you at all times in case you are needed. These kinds of phones I would classify as free overtime phones. They cost pennies for businesses to buy in comparison to having to actually pay someone overtime. I used to carry one, and it was regularly ringing or beeping announcing another email, another must answer. I became chained to the silly thing 24-7. They rob us of our time better spent with family.

The sad part is they are considered today as part of the overall package. It is a trend today that your time is no longer your own time as you are on the edge in case you are summoned. We are so plugged into this instant world we live in we have unplugged ourselves from what really counts. When was the last time you walked through a riverbed like this one in the photo. A place where you sat with your back to a tree and soaked in the sounds of peace and quiet.

We are just so predictable, these past few weeks I have been busy. I have found myself in waiting rooms, and I love to watch people. They come in, check into the reception desk and sit down. The first thing that we see happens is out pops the phone. We have lost the ability to communicate with people around us. I saw a neat posting on Facebook the other day. It was a photo of a sign in a coffee bar right at the doorway. "We are very sorry, but we do not have Wi-Fi, so you will have to talk to each other." Now I really love a sign such as that one. It is amazing what you can learn from people if you take the time to ask and listen.

Have Fun


Can we Change

I believe we can change if we so choose. Consider first, time you spend doing the must do's each day. What is it you can change in your daily life so be able to spend more time with people.

When I pass these accident scenes along the major roadways, and you know there has been a fatality I ponder the idea of how did that person leave their loved ones this morning. What was the last thing they spoke to their spouse or children or where they too busy running out the talking on the phone. What a shame to have such as a final memory for those you have left behind.

If you take nothing else away from my chattering, well consider the idea of how you can better love those who care about you. Once you become a statistic, it is far to late to wish you had. It may be time for all of us to step back, take inventory of how we spend our time and determine where we need to set some boundaries....

© Rolly A. Chabot


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    • Faith Reaper profile image

      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Rolly,

      So glad you are back here on HP! Yes, we had a lovely weekend with the grands up and just let all else go! Bless their hearts, they never want to leave. I think the downfall of the family is when they started to not eat dinner together or at least have one meal each day together.

      I cherish each minute with them, for I know they will be grown so fast, just as my children were a blink of an eye. Oh, yes, we can all learn from our precious pets...that unconditional love no doubt!

      Up and more

      Hugs and much love to you and yours from southern USA,

      Faith Reaper

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Blossom... so good to see you again and catch up. Like you I retired a few years ago and it did not take long I was serving on anything and everything. Last year I cut a slice through it all and now serve where I feel the call to serve. Sounds like you are thinking along the same lines and that makes me happy. Time to enjoy some of the things you enjoy...

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Seafarer Mama.... the key is too finding the balance that is healthy in anything we do. Sounds to me like you certainly have, when chores and life's pleasures are sacrificed well then I think there is a serious problem...

      Hugs and Blessings to you

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi aviannovice... that we do. The interesting part of saying no is much easier than getting in over our heads... Thanks for the visit.

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Eddy... so glad you were able to find your way here and read this page of ramblings. We are all under a great deal of pressure with our lives today and it is imperative we find the time for what is really important...

      Hugs and Many Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Leslie... smiles for the funny... so glad I was able to make you laugh and yes even bring a tear... the truth of a person is they can do both and to me those are the people I love the most... thank you my friend...

      Hugs and Love from Alberta

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Billy... Good on you my friend... proud of you and all your accomplishments. I just passed over into my 39th year and it has been a journey.

      The last position I held brought me to near burnout. It was not until I started to see the signs and the temptations did I simply walk away and begin the new career. It is totally up to ourselves to set the pace we work at and secretly I must admit I love it. Retired yes but refired into something new...

      Hugs Bro and keep up the good work...

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Jackie... meal time in any culture is a time when we come together on common ground. It is a celebration of values, morals, teaching and love. Hopefully in there is a time of laughter and joy.

      Mealtime is not a time to set up TV tables in front of the TV but a time to simply sit and visit.

      Awesome to see you again my friend...Hugs and Blessing

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Vocalcoach .... wonderful to have you back and you are so right it is time to look again at what is important...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Lifegate... so blessed to see you here and to be able to catch up again. It has been sometime since I wrote here on HP and glad that you have found me. Not certain why you are not being notified. Trusting all is well with you and your dear wife... yes time to slow things down a little in this fast paced world we live in.

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi bravewarrior... Thanks for stopping and I do agree with you there. I find the days gpo by so quickly being busy with the gadgets. Funny thing is you give me a Fly Rod and a river and I can be as happy as a clam...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 4 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      An interesting hub. Taking time off to 'smell the roses' is really important. Make the most of it; it's also time to catch up and think. I retired several years ago and now I'm thinking it's time to retire again - from all the things I volunteer in! There's no time to catch up with friends and enjoy them. Your hub is a good reminder.

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      Karen A Szklany 4 years ago from New England

      So heartwarming to read this hub today, Rolly.

      So true, that we need to put limits on how much time we spend online. I often take days offline. Home-schooling my daughter means that I must be there to interact with her, to help her gather what she needs together for her learning. and that is where much of my joy lies. My online life is meant to support my offline life, but not take it amazing how many people are on 24/7. I love taking time offline to enjoy my gardens, take walks, even play. ~:0)

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      You are so right, Rolly. Sometimes, we just have to say, "no."

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Carol... funny I was just thinking the other day about this thing called retirement. I have offers to join this, get involved in that and I have failed to bite on anything yet in the 2 1/2 years since I took the golden watch.

      Not quiet ready yet to join in with much of anything as I seem to find plenty to do right here at home with writing and staying ahead with emails each day. Then there is the to-do lists I make that are never ending lol.

      I did break the mould the first year and started to bowl with the seniors, had fun but before long I was travelling and bowling all over the place so well it just sort of fell by the wayside.

      Yes we have been spoiled with all this techie stuff and it has been a blessing but there is still nothing like stopping at the post office and chatting with everyone to play catch up...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Oh how your words ring true. It is time to sit up and take stock. Prioritising for some has become a part of yesteryear therefore hubs such as this one are priceless. Voted up and shared onto my FB page A Brand New Dawn.

      Enjoy your day.


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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      yep..i'm the one who pushed funny! Cause - even in your vast and deep wisdom - you ARE! i laughed out loud several times, but also got tears in my eyes once as well.

      Awesome piece of writing here Rolly. When i saw it's length i went - oh my god, i've so much to do!'

      i didn't notice - has time passed?

      sharing and caring..

      and hey - i've had my motorcycle and need not speed anymore!


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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hey buddy! Sorry I haven't been around lately....too busy. LOL

      The high pressure life was one I knew all about until seven years my days are so much better and life again has some color to it. I know you understand that well.

      love from Oly


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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Good to see you Rolly. I would be surprised if families even eat together four times a week. Seems families need to be having a holiday or get together to sit down together. Great inspiring write as always, friend. Hope Canada is treating you well. Hugs and votes.

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      Audrey Hunt 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Living a simple life, loving one's family and being grateful for a dog like Quigley - nothing more is needed. Thanks!

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      William Kovacic 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Hi Rolly,


      Not sure what's been happening, but I haven't been getting notification of your hubs. Glad I found this one, and glad to see you here again. Thanks for some thoughts that we all need to consider. Business as usual can be too busy at times, and we need to take a look at where we're going and where we've been. Hopefully I'll continue to get my notifications. Thanks for sharing this one.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Rolly, this world has become chained to gadgets and climbing the corporate ladder. As you say, that leaves little time for what is really important in life. I agree - it's time to take a step back and re-evaluate our priorities. Live each day as if it's the first and the last.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Life has gotten tougher and easier in the past years. More conveniences that allow us freedom..Cell phones.. no payphones. If we get stuck somewhere we can call for help. We can order stuff online and so on. However there is a personal element that has left us and we have tow ork to create bonds and caringness with friends and family. People divorce, move away on a daily basis. Years ago no one went somewhere to retire they stayed in their homes and had many of the same neighbors. You can be as frantically busy retired as working...filling the days with sometimes meaningless activities..And just think someday these will be the good old days.