Boundaries and Blessings
Hugs to All who Enter
Welcome one and all to another stop at the Fireside. Today is a great day to have a fire slowly burning, some soft music playing in the background, good friends and of course Quigley bouncing from one person to the next.
Help yourself to some coffee, tea and hot chocolate. There are some peanut butter cookies and even some brownie squares ready for the taking. Introduce yourself if you are new here and we welcome you to settle in where ever you like. Cuddle in close everyone as we are chilly tonight.
Thank you in advance for leaving a blessing in my home and hopefully you will leave with one or something to ponder over the next while... above all else please know that you are dearly loved.
Open and Free Or Cluttered
Have you noticed the past several years just how busy we are getting with our lives? So busy we have all but lost the ability to relax, sit back and just watch the day go by. When was the last time you lay down on the cool grass, and watched the clouds float overhead. When you captured the marvel at the many different shapes. Instead, we are running here and there doing all sorts of necessary things leaving us with little time for those who really matter in our lives.
Many of us bring our work home with us. Just those last few touchups to make the presentation just right. Tweak that report just a little more. Lets face it you can do it at home where is is far quieter than the office. Come on now admit it we have all done the same. You do because you are dedicated because you are a kind, caring person who wants to achieve some incredible things in your career. That is all fine and dandy but what are you giving up to perform your little tweaks.
Just stop and think a moment on that thought. "What are you giving up? When was the last time you let your children crawl all over you in their attempts wrestle you to the floor? When was the last you quietly sat and cuddled with your spouse, held her hand and told her you love her. When was the last time you sat as a family and had a meal together and talked about life long after the meal was over. "What are you giving up?
I used to live in a large city, here in Alberta. Notorious for its horrific vehicle crashes. Mostly due to excessive speed and driving without care or caution. The city was Calgary where a major corridor road runs north and south and feeder roads exit and enter all along its length. The speed limit is posted at 60 miles per hour. Be prepared when you enter this as it is a race track, be sure and be awake. If you drive the posted speed, you will need to look at the window because there is fear you are standing still. The rest of the traffic is moving far faster than you. The sad part of it is the three lanes of traffic come to a grinding halt when there is an accident. It is generally bad with vehicles scattered across all the lanes.
Such Love Given
A Good Teacher
I know many of you know whom Quigley is, if not well meet Quigley. She is a great teacher of what life should be like. You see she earns her place believe it or not. She is all over her assigned task and loves what she does.
Some may think she is crazy running from one visitor to the next offering each some of her unique loving, but really is she? If you pay attention to Quigley, she has nothing but love and just wants to be sure and give it out to as many as she can while you are here.
People have accused me of not spending as much time with her because she is lonely. "Wrong" she is all but hermetically attached to me. I can not go anywhere without having her with a toy in her mouth and ready for action. Now admittedly she would argue with you and tell you she is hard done by and has no friends and never gets attention. Trust me she is a liar. Don't let those big brown eyes fool you.
The point I am making here is what can we learn from this little dog, and I am sure pets in your homes. They live for our attention and return we have faithfulness and never-ending, unconditional love. When we loose them we grieve as they are just like a member of the family and or a loved one.
A little pat on the head for your pet may be enough, but family and people require more. At times our undivided attention. I read an interesting article the other day, and a survey had been taken asking how many meals a day do you eat together as a family in North America. The statistics certainly shocked me at an average of four meals a week with everyone present. That was an amazing wake up call.
A Short Distance From Here
Lets face it we are under pressure to make a living. There are many expenses we are obligated to pay each month. Our work is demanding, and it takes its toll on people. We are called to perform at maximum capacity at all times.
A good example how many people carry a company cell phone? Likely most people do depending on the type of work they do. The cell is considered an interracial part of your business day, right. But how many companies are insisting you take it with you at all times in case you are needed. These kinds of phones I would classify as free overtime phones. They cost pennies for businesses to buy in comparison to having to actually pay someone overtime. I used to carry one, and it was regularly ringing or beeping announcing another email, another must answer. I became chained to the silly thing 24-7. They rob us of our time better spent with family.
The sad part is they are considered today as part of the overall package. It is a trend today that your time is no longer your own time as you are on the edge in case you are summoned. We are so plugged into this instant world we live in we have unplugged ourselves from what really counts. When was the last time you walked through a riverbed like this one in the photo. A place where you sat with your back to a tree and soaked in the sounds of peace and quiet.
We are just so predictable, these past few weeks I have been busy. I have found myself in waiting rooms, and I love to watch people. They come in, check into the reception desk and sit down. The first thing that we see happens is out pops the phone. We have lost the ability to communicate with people around us. I saw a neat posting on Facebook the other day. It was a photo of a sign in a coffee bar right at the doorway. "We are very sorry, but we do not have Wi-Fi, so you will have to talk to each other." Now I really love a sign such as that one. It is amazing what you can learn from people if you take the time to ask and listen.
Can we Change
I believe we can change if we so choose. Consider first, time you spend doing the must do's each day. What is it you can change in your daily life so be able to spend more time with people.
When I pass these accident scenes along the major roadways, and you know there has been a fatality I ponder the idea of how did that person leave their loved ones this morning. What was the last thing they spoke to their spouse or children or where they too busy running out the talking on the phone. What a shame to have such as a final memory for those you have left behind.
If you take nothing else away from my chattering, well consider the idea of how you can better love those who care about you. Once you become a statistic, it is far to late to wish you had. It may be time for all of us to step back, take inventory of how we spend our time and determine where we need to set some boundaries....
© Rolly A. Chabot