Bride to be
I have always believed Marriage to be a union of two souls who are bound by the sacred thread of love and only love. And unless they love each other the union can never be complete. So you can see why I was completely taken aback when my cousin got engaged to this guy her parents had selected for her. Though Back from where I come, arranged marriages are common yet nevertheless I was curious as to how can you be engaged to be married to some one you hardly know. I, for one can never settle for anything less than love.
Being judgmental(unfortunately) I was quick to assume that my cousin Sarah was coaxed into it. I assumed that she was all excited and elicit just for the heck of it. But as I met her after a few days of her engagement, I noticed something about her had changed ..something that I couldn't quite put my fingers on. There was this new glow to her that made her already beautiful face look even more prettier (Touch-wood!). When I probed her a little I discovered my future brother in law to be wasn't a complete stranger after all. They were getting to know each other before they could take that big step of taking vows that will bind them forever. And it was quite evident from her glowing face that she was falling for this man real deep and was loving each moment of it. The look on her face when she spoke about him, the words she used, the way she caressed his name, the twinkle in her eyes and the way she blushed when teased about him were all telling me a different story than what I had assumed so indignantly. His name seems to be the only word on her lips these days. His thoughts the only thing on her mind. Her impending wedding and a pool of dreams for her new life could be easily seen in her wide shy eyes.
I can't believe I'm saying this but this arranged union has love in it. Maybe she and so many others like her are open to arranged marriage not because they are forced into it but because they believe in it. Maybe my cousin Sarah is in this situation not because her parents want her to be but because she herself wants to be.
I was wrong to be presumptuous about something i din't quite understand and so are others who think my way. Who are we to judge and make assumptions when we ain't even going through it? Honestly which girl or guy of this century can be forced into something they don't wanna do? No matter where we come from or how orthodox the society we live in still is, I don't think anyone can force such a huge decision as marriage on us. Some of us maybe scared to face the unknown, scared of what might happen, scared of thinking what if it fails but why don't we just take the step and conquer our fears? Why don't we try and find out? Why not believe in the saying If anything has to go wrong it will so why worry about it? If someone or something is meant to be, it will surely happen no matter how much we avoid it . Life is too short to give up on things because of our fears and prejudices.
As for the lovely bride to be and so many others who are taking this step Kudos to you! Believe in yourself for you are stronger than most of us. With your strength and ability to love, You'll make this journey beautiful.
Best wishes to You Sarah di :))))
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