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Dale Carnegie How To Win Friends And Influence People: Drastically Change your life

Updated on March 14, 2012

If you haven't bought this book yet, Buy it, Now ! Stop reading, get it!!! I can not rate this book highly enough. If you are stuck in a rut and know things need to change, this book is where you start. It is not about manipulation or obtaining fake friendships, this book will make you a better person, mother, father, brother, sister, friend, boss, colleague and will catapolt your success in to the stratosphere. The end result of this book will be a more confident happier you, you will socialise more, become more attractive and ultimately enjoy your home life, love your job and earn more money. Can a book really do this? Yes, this one can. Is there monumental effort on your part to get to this? For once, no! Carnegie conducted college courses on public speaking, creative writing. The great Warren Buffett attended one of these very courses and displays his diploma in his office. What more of an endorsment can you get from one of the world richest self made millionaires. Buffett takes pride in his Carnegie Diploma and from reading the book you sure know Buffett deploys the principles, everyone loves working for him and he has an infectious nature about him.

I have known about this book for years but I didn't like the title, this was a clever marketing tactic though and years later, I kicked myself for only buying it now. My first self help, personal development book I bought, which was long before I even knew what personal development was, was a book called How to make anyone like you (Yes just as bizarre title for a book) I bought this when I was about 18 years old. This book opened me up to a whole new way of thinking and presenting myself. I still have it and I must give it another read.

The book is so easy to read, you'll find yourself shooting through the chapters, gaining a new skill as you go. It has dramatically changed in the way I deal with people and situations already. I had knowledge of rapport, before this book but this book has taken me to higher levels. I am amazed at how complete this book is considering it's age and how times have drastically changed of the past 100 years. It's like it was written in the future. I would certainly have taken Carnegie's course just like Buffet, If was being taught today. If you're fellow Hubber internet marketers that have always said that it's all in the detail in their reviews that makes them convert so well and this is one of the things that shines through in this book when dealing with people, it's all about the details. Rememberingsomeone's name, knowing more about the other person, listening more to someone else rather than talking about yourself. So by giving the other person more, rather than taking for yourself an incredible thing happens and you receive what you want in floods.

There are scores of real stories that Carnegie collated over that years that prove each of his points, this makes the book even more interesting to read, you're not learning theories you're learning exactly what to do and what really works in real life situations. I'm pretty sure Simon Cowell has read this book or at least his dad has because I remember watching an documentary on Simon Cowelland they were asking how he got to where he was, going from jobless and broke to being the biggest celebrity on UK television and he said he remember's the most valuable lesson his dad taught him and that was, pretend everybody has written on their forehead, "make me feel important". Cowell senior is a very clever man.

If you think that when you buy this book you're going to become a professional brown noser, you'd be so wrong. Brown nosing won't get you anywhere, it might get people to a point but it won't be sustained, people will resent them and wise people will see through them. This book has nothing to do with false compliments and empty praise. Sincerity is the crux of the book. There are many chapters and each one of them will teach you a new skill straight away. My favourite is on arguing. I have taken a interest recently on how to when arguments because arguments ( imnot talking about aggressive one's ) come up everyday. I've wanted to learn how to get my point across rather than get in to the heat of the moment and come away thinking I should of said this and I should of said that,. Carnegie nips this topic in the bud, You avoid arguments at all costs!!! He then explains how to deal with these situations. You don't back down to every objection thrown at you, it's cleverer than that.

The great thing with personal development books is that they often refer to another or there will be something you've learnt from another book that enhances what the current book is explaining. Just by watching the the video above you'll get an endorsement from once world richest man, and testimonials from business' he's bought where the employees show their admiration for their boss. This video also shows Warren Buffett's personal favourite book that taught him how to invest, The intelligent investor. This is the next book on my list to read. One of the chapters in How to win friends and influence people explains that it's important to remember peoples name so that when you bump in to them again you can address them by name, everybody loves hearing their name and how does it make you feel when you bump in to someone hardly know and yet they know your name? great right? This technique refers me back to another book I'm currently reading which is Derren Brown's Trick of the mind. He really goes in to detail on how to remember things which is a great life skill, whether it's remembering someones name which help build rapport or remembering the books you read when you're studying.

As I've mentioned in my other book reviews I have never found it easy to read. I can not read fiction, my mind constantly wanders is wasn't until my 20's when I discovered personal development books that I could read something that got my full attention. This book is the best book I have ever read, I have highlighted, sentences, phrases, references to other books, chapters. There's so much good in this. I do love wealth books and this book isn't about accumulating wealth as such, yet it will make me more money than plenty of the great wealth books ever written because it teaches you about what really does make the world go round, us, people.


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    • JP993 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from England

      Wow i didn't know the course was still going. I have listened to How to stop worrying on youtube I should get the book really and go through with a highlighter.

      Thanks for the comment Casimiro

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      6 years ago

      You can still take the course. I did several years ago and one thing it did was to remove 90% of the fear of public speaking (the other 10% adds to your energy as a speaker). I now have an audio version of the book, which is wonderful to listen to. There is another great book by Dale Carnegie called How To Stop Worrying ... that is also a gem.

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      Melanie Chisnall 

      7 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

      I read this book a few years ago and it is one of the best books I've ever read! That man knows what he's talking about - glad to find so many other people that enjoyed his book :)

    • JP993 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from England

      It will definitely be worth the re read : )

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      Jaye Denman 

      7 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Okay...Thanks to your exuberance, I must search and find my own copy of that little book (among the thousands of other books I own) that I haven't read for about 30 years. I won my copy for giving a presentation during a business seminar, read it once and no doubt still have it...somewhere. It may have influenced me at the time, but it's been so long ago I can't remember Carnegie's teachings.

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      7 years ago

      I have it! Great book!!!

    • JP993 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from England

      Donnaisabella, I love how you came across this book, ever thought some things are meant to be? It reminds how I came across my copy of "The Secret". This is an amazing book as you rightly say. Im happy that you have already read it.

      PegCole17, This really is a life changing book isn't it? I just got a new job and I know that this book helped me to get it. I hope your re read helps you even more!

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      Peg Cole 

      7 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      Fantastic book with timeless advice. I read this one a few years back and it changed my life in so many ways for the better. After all this time I can still remember particular parts that stuck with me. You've inspired me to dust it off and take another look.

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      Isabella Mukanda 

      7 years ago from Fort Myers

      In a tiny little office, wrapped in old yellowing newspaper I found this book well guarded and stashed away by a janitor. When I opened it, I wondered what it was all about since its pages were yellowing from age. I schemed through just to see what it was all about. I realized a while later that I had discovered a diamond. I borrowed the book, and since I seemed to love it so much, the janitor told me I could buy it. I would have paid any amount to have that book, in fact I paid him 25% more than he asked for. That book came to me at a time when I needed to hear what it had to say and changed my life and circumstances in ways that I still thank God for today. Eventually, I bought more books by Dale Carnegie and shared them with other people. His story continues to inspire me today. Thanks for the review, I hope others find the book just as useful.


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