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It has been some time since I have stopped in and added any content, several have asked why and requested I should continue writing articles. Subject matter can and will change according to what happens to be on my mind that particular day.
Allow me to take the time to welcome you to what I call the "Fireside." It has become a landing place of where I hope you can find some rest and some solitude from the day traffic we have around us, traffic of a maze of roads, people and noise we have come to know as life.
For all intense and purposes I think it fair it is what we all do when we write would you not agree. Our daily lives vary from day to day. The past we know about, what has taken place already has gone and what we are experiencing right now is life we place into words. The inner most feeling as we put words to text is the moment we live in. I think we owe it to ourselves and all those we have in our lives and what the future have in store, do we have a plan, a way to construct a bigger picture. Let's all toss out the anchor and slow things down a little and ponder over what is and what is not so important.
Gather around, nice and close, and help yourself to the refreshments available. Hopefully, you can find something to your taste. Cookies are the snack of choice today, so please cuddle in close. Please if you find something that touches you, bless us all with a comment... once again welcome and know that you are dearly loved at the Fireside.
When Life Stops
Let's touch on the subject today which will change all of us. It is something that becomes very personal and when it happens it will effect many people around us. We hate to talk about it let alone think of it, but as the years have passed I have been a part of it many times, and there is one common thread which is left behind, when we lose a loved one or hear of a terrible loss.
The common thread is a full range of emotions, loss, sadness, fear, anxiety. In some cases anger at not understanding why but I will let you put your own thoughts in the place provided. What is you're feeling at death or loss of someone you love, _____."
No matter what the emotion we will all feel a sadness, and maybe we gain a different prospective of our own inner being at grasping what it may mean to us when it becomes our turn. It is inevitable, we begin the journey of death from the moment we are born. It is something we will all face at the designated time we have been allotted.
Small in Staure
On May 19th, my Mom passed away after a long struggle with a combination of complications. It started with being hospitalized on Mother's Day. She had reached the incredible age of 93, very accomplished in all aspects she took on in life.
Her given name was Marie Delphine, to her friends and many acquaintances she became affectionately known as "Tiny." To us as a family she became known as Mom. Married for 63 years before Dad died in 2005. From that day till the last days she had been given she missed her soulmate and husband, yet maintained her endurance to remain Mom to many, even though the last few years were taken from her through dementia. Her smile was always there, her soft touch always ready to all who came into her world.
I was requested to do the Eulogy for Mom as I had been for my Dad. Both were hard to accomplish, how do you complete a collection of life highlights into a short 15 minutes of words. In both cases, I can attest to the fact it was an honour and a privilege for me to have such a task bestowed upon me. We as a family were certainly blessed to have parents who were parents of faith and lived their lives sharing their love openly and affectionately. Not only towards each other but to all who they came in contact with.
More importantly doing their eulogies gave me a new perspective of life and just how precious it is to have life. The last breath I just breathed, the heart that is still beating within me are all wonderful moments we share. We can all enjoy the beauty we see in all directions, but most of all the love I glean from others and the love I can offer to others are the most important assets we can have in life. The greatest gift we have is love, and I treasure it.
Mom's accomplishments in life were many, far too many to list here, but I will draw a brief road map if I may. Born and raised in a faith based home. She was the 10th child of a family of 16 children. Married in 1921. She had and raised 4 children. She lived and was witness to the depression years, watched her new husband go off to war. Lived and enjoyed 30 years of retirement. This is to list just a few of course.
Mom was always artistically inclined and in 1980, she took on the challenge to become a painter. Her first works we thought as a family was incredible. If you look behind Mom in her picture, you can see small portions of some of her work.
She always had a certain amount of guilt about copying other artists such as Greg Olsen, but I accredit it to higher learning from the Masters. She always made certain her work was properly identified as a copy. Below I have placed two photos. One is of Olsen's work, and the other is Moms to give you a comparison of her talents.
Crafts of all sorts were always being worked on. In her final years of work she was an Occupational Therapist at a major hospital, her job was to give long term patients something to occupy their time with. Most times it would be simply sitting and visiting while instructing.
Greg Olsen Original
Dropping the Anchor means taking the time to stop and evaluate what and how we are living today. The questions may vary as to where you find yourself, but they all return to the same point in the end. How are we living, spending our time and or what message are we conveying to those around us. Are they of love, hate, anger, bitterness, etc.
We hear daily of the tragedy of death and its ripple effect it has on others. Think of the husband driving to work to earn a living for his family, a loving mother baking for her family. The selfish act of another causing great hardship for many because of a stupid and senseless act of terrorism. How did each of these people spend their last moments?
Life is a gift when you think of it. Each moment a slice in time as brief as a passing breeze. Take a moment to think of the husband as he drives to work and in that split second in time he is caught up in an accident that claims his life. How did he leave home that morning, what were his last words he spoke to his wife and family. What were his final thoughts as he drew his last breath.
Take a moment and visualize this, you have passed away, and you are witness to looking down over your own funeral service. What would people say about you, the life you lived, the love you shared, the passions you had. What if people were to speak the absolute truth about you, would the words be ones of praise or would they be things of another kind.
Many questions come to mind when you are called to do a eulogy for another. You begin to think of your own mortality, the years you have lived. I think it important we all sit back and think of the lives we are living, what impact are we having on one another, what our last moments will be like, will we be ready. Often over the years I have lived on the edge, tempting fate and I am certainly blessed to be here today. Would I have been ready then to part ways with the world, would I have been better prepared than today. No matter where we find ourselves in our journey consider this. We become wiser as each day passes, hopefully through our mistakes we have become better people.
If you are living in the anger and bitterness of the past, then it will surely be your present and should you not change it will be your future. It is you and only you who can change the way you are. The world we live in is very unforgiving, but we can change it so easily by how we view it.
Allow us all to take a few moments and seriously think of this thing we call death. Are we afraid of the unknown, I have come to a place of peace in my faith knowing there is something far greater than what we have here. I chose a long while ago to forgive, to live in the moment and be the best I can be. Of course there are flaws, we all have them, but we can and will change if we are willing to admit them.
I do hope you have a day filled with many blessings and the greatest of all being love. Thank you for stopping and spending time at the Fireside... please know and understand that you are truly loved and valued... attached are the customary hugs I willingly pass to all who receive them.
Take Time and Pause
What will be memories people have of your life
- 0% Kind, Caring and compassionate
- 0% Somewhat kind and caring.
- 0% Accomplished
- 0% Good listener
- 0% Failed to listen and change
This poll is now closed to voting.