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Updated on February 21, 2008

I have had a hard time between forgiving and also forgetting. Can both be done completely? Well first I guess we need to think them both out.

Forgiveness to begin with is difficult, for kids and adults. There are many things which can get in the hurt,anger,pride, injustice and resentment.

It frees us from being stuck in a past moment and old feelings. Forgiveness makes good soul sense.

It seems that it begins with truely forgiving..letting whom -ever, know you make mistakes and are trying to do the right thing to make amends. Like saying you are sorry, you didn't mean to hurt their feelings, or cuss at them, or be-little them. Forgiveness is a personal thing.

It is important to teach our children the importance of this. You can't make a child sorry for their actions by insisting they say "I'm sorry". You need to make them think about what they have done and how it would feel if , say, someone hit them, or tore their favorite other words to walk in their shoes for a while.

It could be the other child is having a hard time dealing with a problem at home, a divorce, a fight their parents had, it could be anything. Explain to forgive is a sign of strength not weakness. Self control and forgiveness take a lot of inner strength.

Teaching our children empathy for others is a good foundation for forgiveness.

It doesn't come naturally, and I feel we can't get far without appealing for divine help. Teach your child how to prayer for their enemies and love them.

Urge your child to clear up misunderstandings through communication rather then bad mouthing, or carrying a grudge.

As we grow older we realize how fast life goes by and to forgive is a good will have a heavy heart until you can forgive for sure. G-Ma :o)


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      Merle Ann Johnson 10 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Thank You Isabella Long time no see...been moving my mom again. G-Ma :o) hugs

      And teeray : but of course that is so true. Just about the same process but on an adult level. Don't let it get away from you and speak up when you need to. I am not the one to ask though..cause I am so guilty of either forgiving and not forgetting. or forgetting and not forgiving. I think we all get stubborn as we grow up without being taught how and when to forgive. It is never too late to try . G-Ma :o) hugs

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      teeray 10 years ago from Canada

      Thanks for the grat hub, G-Ma - now how to we deal with ADULTS who won't forgive? Sometimes it's the adults who are more stubborn than the kids!

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      Isabella Snow 10 years ago

      Great hub, G-Ma!