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FORGIVENESS ****WHY SHOULD I ?
I have had a hard time between forgiving and also forgetting. Can both be done completely? Well first I guess we need to think them both out.
Forgiveness to begin with is difficult, for kids and adults. There are many things which can get in the way..like hurt,anger,pride, injustice and resentment.
It frees us from being stuck in a past moment and old feelings. Forgiveness makes good soul sense.
It seems that it begins with truely forgiving..letting whom -ever, know you make mistakes and are trying to do the right thing to make amends. Like saying you are sorry, you didn't mean to hurt their feelings, or cuss at them, or be-little them. Forgiveness is a personal thing.
It is important to teach our children the importance of this. You can't make a child sorry for their actions by insisting they say "I'm sorry". You need to make them think about what they have done and how it would feel if , say, someone hit them, or tore their favorite book.in other words to walk in their shoes for a while.
It could be the other child is having a hard time dealing with a problem at home, a divorce, a fight their parents had, it could be anything. Explain to forgive is a sign of strength not weakness. Self control and forgiveness take a lot of inner strength.
Teaching our children empathy for others is a good foundation for forgiveness.
It doesn't come naturally, and I feel we can't get far without appealing for divine help. Teach your child how to prayer for their enemies and love them.
Urge your child to clear up misunderstandings through communication rather then bad mouthing, or carrying a grudge.
As we grow older we realize how fast life goes by and to forgive is a good thing..you will have a heavy heart until you can forgive for sure. G-Ma :o)