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Close Friends Are Life's Treasure

Updated on September 9, 2018
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What is friendship?

Friendship is different things to different people. To me a friendship involves trust, communication, understanding, loyalty, support, empathy, and intimacy. A true friend is someone you can trust, tell secrets to knowing they will take those secrets to the death, relax and be yourself with, and know so well that their faults are no longer thought of as faults just as idiosyncrasies.

So how do you build a friendship such as this? You begin by sharing a bit of yourself. A private thought or feeling will do. If the person what to be a friend they will share back. If they don't, move on, there are many, many people out there that would love to be your friend. Make sure you pay attention when the other person is sharing. You need to be there not only physically but you need to make contact, and focus on what the person is saying.

As you become closer you will find there is more talking and sharing. Remember whatever you two discuss needs to stay between the two of you. This is the way you build up trust. You cannot have a friendship without being able to trust the other person to keep your secrets. The base of friendship is trust and loyalty.

Keep in mind that a friendship does not happen overnight. Not the true, lasting, lifelong type of friendship. It takes time to build the intimacy, trust, loyalty, and special communication that makes up this special type of friendship. I have heard that to build a true lasting friendship it takes at the very least three years. It seems to me that's pretty accurate.

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true friendship | Source

How do I know this?

I have a friend, let's call her Peggy, that I have been friends with for more years than I want to admit. We were inseparable, and our children formed strong bonds of friendship that have also lasted through all these years. Anyway, she and I both were going through divorces and I ended up moving a few hundred miles away. Because of everything going on in both of our lives we lost touch.

To lose this friendship, or, as I like to think of it, misplace this friendship was a terrible shame. For many years we were each others support system. No matter what was happening we both knew the other would be there for the other. I can't tell you how hard it is to lose or misplace a friendship like this.

A couple of years go by, I get married, she moves out of the area, and we no longer know where each other is. Along comes Facebook. Facebook is a wonderful thing. It helps you become reaquainted with friends and relatives that you haven't seen or heard from in years. For us, in the beginning, it really didn't help. The last names were not the same and it's hard to find someone when you don't know their new last name. It was our children that found each other and untimately led us to each other. Both of us were overjoyed. We wrote back and forth, sent phone numbers and ended up on the phone for hours. It was like there was no passage of time between the last conversation and this one 17 years later. I am happy to say this is most definitely a lifetime friendship. If you can pick up the phone and speak to someone after a period of time such as 17 years and talk as though you just talked to them yesterday, this is a true friendship.

This is a type of friendship I wish for everyone. To have a friend that you can instintively trust, one that will always be there, someone who understands you and that you understand, well, that's a little slice of heaven.

Friendship isn’t a big thing — it’s a million little things.

— Unknown
Friendship, friendship it's the perfect blend-ship.
Friendship, friendship it's the perfect blend-ship. | Source

Several studies have shown that, at least between chimpanzees, baboons, horses, hyenas, elephants, bats and dolphins, animals can form friendships for life with individuals that aren’t from their species

Different Types of Friendships

Throughout our lives we all end up having many types of friends, some good, some bad. As we grow we learn how to tell the difference between. We also learn how to distinguish between a good and a bad type of friendships.

One of the types of friendships is one where you don't see often but still connect when you do. It a friend who will stick with you through thick and thin and be there when you need them even if you have not spoken in a few years. The kind of friendship I have with Peggy.

There is the type of friend that is fun and always ready for an adventure. They are the easy come, easy go. One day they are there , the next they disappear never to be hear from again.

There is the type of friend that always wants something from you., a little favor here and there. The minute you want or need something, poof, they disappear.

There is the friend that you are not real close to but you know that you can tell them anything and it will remain with them. They are also the friend that always seems to have great advice.

There is also the friend that needs to be in the limelight at all times. They crave the attention and have to be the center of everyone's attention. Their problems and delights are way more important than everyone else's.

Last but not least, their is the true friend. The one who is always there through the good and the bad. The one who you can pour your heart out to and will back you no matter what. This is the friend who will always be there and need to be treasured.

Not having close confidants or friends can be as detrimental to your health as being overweight or smoking.

Close friends are truly life’s treasures. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves. With gentle honesty, they are there to guide and support us, to share our laughter and our tears. Their presence reminds us that we are never really alone.

— Vincent van Gogh

© 2011 Susan Hazelton


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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Suzy Duzy, you have made my day. Thanks for your wonderful comment.

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      7 years ago from Delray Beach, Florida

      Reading this is a good way to feel better. Thanks.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Thanks you sunchild28. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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      7 years ago from Nigeria

      I am a living witness on the goodness and impact of friendship,brilliant hub.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Om, friends ae part of what makes life worthwhile.

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      Om Paramapoonya 

      7 years ago

      KoffeKlatch, thanks for sharing your personal experience and these awesome quotes. Glad you have found a way to reconnect with your friend. I really believe all my friends have made my life richer and more meaningful than it could have been without them. :)

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Granny, then you know what I mean by a true fried. You can have many acquaintances and casual friends through out your life but you have very small select group of true friends.

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      Granny's House 

      7 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

      KKG, I am 53 and I can count the true friends I have on one hand.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Thank you, kittythedreamer. My husband and I were friends first. I do think friendship is an important part of any relationship. Thanks for the rating.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Sharyn, there's nothing like an old friend. One who has been there through the good and the bad times. We are so lucky to have one.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      dearabbysmom, so am I. I know people have issues with facebook, but, if it's used right it can be a wonderful thing. I can bring back friends from days gone by.

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      Nicole Canfield 

      7 years ago from Summerland

      awesomely beautiful hub! i totally agree with the part of having a successful marriage, means to have a great friendship with your partner. voted up!

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      Sharon Smith 

      7 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA


      I so very much enjoyed this piece. I have a best friend since we were in kindergarten. Many decades have passed and we are still there for each other. I have been blessed. Thank you for this great read.


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      7 years ago from Indiana

      Friendships are one of life's most rewarding blessings, and I'm so glad you were able to reconnect with your life-long friend. I know many people have issues with Facebook, but it truly can be a blessing in situations such as yours.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      thoughtforce, it is a marvelous feeling to have such a friend. When you lose them (or misplaced them temporarily) it's like losing a part of yourself. Thanks.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Seeker7, I've run across the criticism about the social networking sites and I do have to say some of the things they say are true. The trick is to use them with responsibility. Thanks for reading and the rating.

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      Christina Lornemark 

      7 years ago from Sweden

      To have a best friend is so special and as you say it takes a while creating that special feeling. I have a friend since 25 years and it is marvellous to have gone through so much together and shared each others joy and sorrow! As always, a wonderful hub! Voted up/awesome. Tina

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      Helen Murphy Howell 

      7 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      What a beautiful hub and wonderful story. There is a lot of criticism going on about social networking sites, but when you realise how they can help people to find each other again, then they are worth their weight in gold. Loved this hub. Voted up + beautiful.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Pamela, what would we do without our friends? Thanks for reading and the rating.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Friendships are so important in life. I really enjoyed reading your hub with all the neat facts. Rated up and awesome.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      marellen, I have found that I hear several times a week from my daughters and their friends on facebook. It can be a wonderful thing.

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      7 years ago

      KKG....Love the hub and like you thank goodness for FB. It has brought me face to face with so many people I lost touch with and its a great way to make sure we keep in touch too.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      I agree dahoglund, just because you are friends doesn't mean you have to share the same mind. It's often a better friendship if you have different opinions. It's certainly more interesting.

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      Don A. Hoglund 

      7 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      Friendship is something that seems to exist separate from opinions on religion, politics and such. I have a friend i've known since high school--which is long ago. We do not agree on religion. His politics are almost opposite of mine. His occupation is quite different. Yet he is a person I can rely on more I can anyone else I know.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      How true Minnetonka Twin. Old friends are the most treasured for some of us because of the history and the trust that has been built up over time.

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      Susan Hazelton 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Just Ask Susan, it is a wonderful feeling. I love the fact that you can just pick up where you left off. Some friendships are just meant to be.

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      Linda Rogers 

      7 years ago from Minnesota

      What a great and uplifting hub. So glad you and your buddy are back in contact. These friendships like you have with Peggy are one of the best things in life. There is nothing like a good friend who listens and understands you. Loved the quotes too. Thanks for the lovely story.

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      Susan Zutautas 

      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Very nice hub! I had a best friend in high school. We lost touch for over 20 odd years. We have since picked up the friendship and it is a wonderful feeling to know that friendships can last over time. We have not seen each other in 30 years but we still are good friends.


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