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HE IS CRAZY - Control Freaks
Look, I'm certainly NOT a psychologist or some sort of therapy counselor but from what I gather, there are quite a few "control freaks" roaming this earth at this present moment! They are everywhere! The main point is we need to find out in the beginning before they slowly torture us AFTER they get what they want! Come on, you know atleast one person who always wants their way...right? I mean maybe it is a family member that drives you to the brink?!!! Or someone else that you have found yourself enamored by. Hell, you may not even think it is happening!!!! Let's put it this way...I have come across it a lot this year! WE MUST STOP THEM!!!!! ha I have also known women like this too, but my title here mentions "HE" so let's move on!
A close friend once told me that I always seem to be around men that are "self centered" or are used to the world revolving around them. CHECK! True!....I think the initial connection starts with their intensity and then slowly moves to full force psychotic episodes!!! I have experienced this in both my personal and professional life and it is NOT entertaining. I have often asked myself "Why?" and "What is it about them that makes me even bother!" I guess the main point is that I grew up with a man that got a lot of attention all the time because he demanded it. His personality was addicting to many and he was also very talented so people gravitated to him like bees to honey. Put that together with the fact that he was from another generation and thought women should be taken care of and then you may understand why I have gravitated to similiar personalities with the addition of "control issues." I think the most toxic situations I have come in contact with at one point seemed to start with some sort of initial deception. Especially in business ventures and relationships. It starts out slow and relaxed and then slowly progresses to CHAOS! In some form or another, if you stand up to a control freak in anyway...prepare yourself!!!!! They do not like it when they do NOT get their way. TRUST ME!
Some Control Freaks can be overt or subtle. The main point is that you need to see through the deception right away. Some can control by force and some can be subtle and play the "guilt card." Either way is NOT good. I hope that this article gives you clarity on a current personal or professional relationship that is not healthy for you.
Characteristics of a Control Freak
1-Described by most people as "picky and critical"
2-Implies that you are wrong or inadequate when you don't agree
3-Tells you who you are and what you think
4-Doesn't seem to really see or hear you
5-Feels attacked when questioned
6-His or her controlling ways make other people feel anxious, if not alienated
7-Snoops around where he or she doesn't belong
8-Feels most comfortable when in charge
9-Winning an argument is more important then finding the best solution
10-Not getting what she or he wants is met with anger (some become abusive)
Control freaks are quite comfortable in what they do, will deny that they are doing it, and will get very mad at you for attempting to point the fact that they are control freaks! It will never be their fault. EVER. So stop trying and walk away for your own sanity. This will save you a lot of headaches!