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HE IS HOT - But Some Guys Are Hotter
What Makes Him Hot...
So, what makes him HOT?! Well there are quite a few things that help the "Mr. Great meter." First of all after quite a few experiences in my life, I have to say that many men are not good listeners. It also seems that a lot of young men today are being taught from the "It's all about me" textbook.
Best to find out a few things before you commit to a relationship with "Mr. Hot guy." One thing for sure that is a dead give-a-way is his relationship with his family. This is quite important and you should know how he treats them. Especially when it comes to his mother. We do not need to go on about "momma boys." Is he respectful? This will give you clues on how he treats women in general.
Listening is important. Does he really listen to what you say? Does he change his behavior or adjust it when you bring up things that bother you? This all is part of a meaningful and respectful relationship. Love should not hurt, infact it should make you happier. True love is nurturing for both partners and trust and respect are "key" if you want your relationship to last.
He Does Not Just Wait For Holidays...
Men or boys who truly love and respect you think of you daily and not just on holidays. It does not take much to do little things throughout the year "just because." This can be anything from bringing flowers just because or sending a little something to you in the mail. You do not have to have a lot of money to show love in many different ways.
If he loves you, he will show you in all sorts of ways. These are some ways to show love and they do not cost a lot of money. Picnic at park or beach, chocolate cake, handmade greeting cards or poetry, print things off of the internet, make a "love" collage, make a romantic dinner at home. See? Not that difficult! Capishe?!
Other things he can do to make you feel loved. Help around the house, be sensitive to your needs, tell you that he loves and misses you. Now, that should not be difficult, should it?!
Men who are confident are HOT....
Remember to not always just notice Mr. Hot guy who doesn't deserve his wings. There maybe someone else who is more loving in many ways. Men or boys with confidence are much hotter then the one's who desperately need attention. These are usually the one's that are really insecure and need to be validated 24/7. Boring! Do you really want to cater to a male diva?!
How about a nice boy or man who is fun, loving and treats you nicely. Much better then a hot guy who gives you a headache every day! If you start with a guy and you feel like it is a lot of work, it never changes. Trust me. The work just gets harder and you will end up revolving around his world. What about yours? Why not date someone who helps you reach your dreams and wants to be part of it. How about a loving relationship where you both support each other?
Sounds good to me!
This Is Everything NOT to do...A giggle for you!
Some Guys Are Afraid To Be Too Nice
I put this video on here to give you a giggle, but believe it or not men still do this sort of stuff! I know men in their 40's that still play all sorts of games with women! I say "Grow Up!" Not exactly like in the video, but you get the idea. Trying to act too cool and pretending that they don't care does not help things when it comes to relationships. Childhood fears of being dumped sort of put them in a "distant mode" and they worry if they are too nice, the girl or woman will get bored and move on. Honestly is "key" so if they just act like themselves, things should work out if the woman is mature enough.
What Is Attractive To You?
So Remember That Honesty Is Best
So here you are with Mr. Hot guy and he seems to be treating you right. That is good and everything, but some men are very good at acting one way and then turning into a "psycho!"
Give any new relationship or date a few meetings before you "jump right in." What I have learned is some men play it perfect in the beginning and then after they get what they want, they start changing the rules. Remember, boundaries are really important in a relationship. Especially in the beginning. If he does something you do not like, tell him to stop or tell him to leave. It's up to you.
What I have learned is that a relationship is like building a house. How is the foundation in the beginning? Sturdy? Shaky? About to get destroyed in an earthquake? I hope not! That should be your sign to get the hell out!
Remember, you only live once. Take care of yourself and make sure that whoever you are with does the same.
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