H.O.W. To Break Free Of That 'Elastic Band'!!
You may be thinking "What a strange title!!"
Strange maybe, but I am sure many of you will recognise what I describe as a ' Psychological elastic band.'
This week my hubs have come straight from my heart and today's is no exception.
Yesterday's hub was about Mother Nature's charms and how she shaped my journey through life.
Today's is going back to the time of my escape from the cocoon that was my safe haven for the first fopur decades of my life!!
However not just about that very first step; because what is almost more important as I see it is to find that strength to stay away . The life which I knew for years was not right but had become comfortable in an odd way and at times would be so easy to allow that elsatic band to catapult me back into it all again.
Maybe one phrase that could be used is "Better the devil you know that the devil you don't !!"
I can remember myself as yesterday's Chameleon.I called myself a Chameleon because back then I would simply changed character to merge with whichever setting I happened to be in at that time in my life!!
Now and then the true ME would raise her head slightly before diving back into what had become my comfort zone.
To make that very first step away from this Chameleon was a great personal achievement and this began the stretching of that psychological elastic band which was tethered back to my Chameleon self.
However probably the hardest and most psychologically tugging time was to stay away no matter what!!! No matter how hard no matter how wearily tempted I would be to return it could never happen and I would allow it to do so !!!!
One day from deep in my being I knew that this was the time to leave this life,find my true self and to live my life as 'ME'.
Let me share my journey with you in steps.
The initial pull of the elastic band was when I acknowledged my worth and I somehow knew that it was time to take those first initial steps.
I left my cocoon of 26 years and walked away from my abusive husband.
Is when I did delve a little deeper; anticipation mounted and realisation seeped through.
I had left and now there was so much that I wanted and needed to do with my life.That band stretched a little further and at times felt decidedly uncomfortable.
This was when it took strength to stay away and not return.I was determined not to allow that psychological band to send me catapulting back to what was so wrong but at the same time had been my life for so long.
I instinctively knew it would take time before I felt comfortable with the new ME.
I now ventured even further and felt that tugging band pulling for all it was worth but it was no competition for my new and determined strength. So many psychological issues some painful tried to stop my journey and that pull of that elastic band at times hurt badly but again my true being kept me going on and on and on!! I knew my true self would win in the end ;this I felt from my heart and soul.
By now I was I tune with my inner being as never before ;the person who I always knew was hidden inside of me was now in the forefront !!
Oh yes I had travelled my journey sometimes painfully but I never retraced my steps ;maybe at times I stayed in the same place for a while but my ongoing strength kept me going until I had stretched that band further than it could go and it simply gave in and snapped !!!
I was now free to live my life as ME; I had succeeded and had searched my heart and soul in order to achieve this. The path at times was very painful and rocky but with true grit and determination it is possible to remain walking along this path, growing stronger with each step!! I did at the very end emerge a happier, stronger person and the world seemed to be a happier and brighter place!! I also found that I could cope with life’s ups and downs in a more positive manner!!
Freud and many other psychiatrists have all learnt from the poet's insight into the unconscious and its inner workings. Certain words and rhythms arise naturally when we speak from the heart and this courage is often all that is needed to get the writing going.
One of my favourite quotes is by Waldo Ralph Emmerson."Believe that you can and you are halfway there."
If you are finding your journey weary sit down and admit that you are ;there is no shame in this and it takes a brave heart to admit something that some think of as a weakness .
Talk your thoughts through with someone or write them down if you find this therapeutic ; after a little rest I am sure you will once again begin on that wondrous and so well worth journey to your true self.
This comes from one who knows and my heart and strength I share with you all no matter on which part of life's journey you are travelling.
Fill your being with positive thoughts ;feel that great pride that is so rightly yours as you walk into your own paradise of truth and beauty.
To remember is not a step
To throw you back in time.
To cry for gone by days
Is a blessing not a crime.
To spend my days writing
Is what I'll always do.
Each word comes from my heart
I share my life with you.
To live each life fully
Is our right to claim.
To look back with sweet triumph
Has always been my aim.
Reflect with great wisdom
At each and everyday.
Life is not a destination
But a journey all the way.
I hope my words will help
And yourselves you will find.
Your life a foundation
Of the legacy you'll leave behind.