"Have a Nice Day"... by Rolly A. Chabot
This morning as I have been going through my mail and the many comments and reading hubs of others I see a growing trend for the need to come back to the basics of loving each other. Some very simple actions we see happen each day can be a blessing or can raise a few hackles.
The words we speak or write to others daily can and will make a difference when they come from the heart. I might add a heart that genuinely cares.
Lets gather around the Fireside (Yes there is a real one today) and cozy up. Help yourself to something hot to drink and get comfortable for a few minutes. If you doze off during all my chatter well then just rest. You are welcome to stay as long as you like. My home is yours and above all know that you are dearly loved and respected here.
Peace and Solitude
Recently the term "Have a Nice Day" has become somewhat of a study for me when I hear it. The term coming from a friend or someone I know is a blessing often. What they are saying to me is it has been so nice to talk to you and I value your friendship.
Where the interest lies is in the service industry. There are those times when you know it is robotic and spoken with little emotion or meaning. The unspoken words that follow are "Next" as they turn to the person patiently waiting in line.
When there is no others waiting I have often taken the time to ask "What does it mean to you when you tell me "Have a Nice Day? The answers have varied from a good understanding to as simple as "We are told it is the way we are to greet our customers.
I was at a store not long ago where the Cashier was more interested in discussing the party the night before with a colleague at the next till. It was not until I stepped directly in front of him and said "excuse me" did he actually acknowledge me as standing there. During the course of the next few minutes I learned he was planning on attending University and pursuing his lifetime dream. As he left he said the words "Have a nice day." The difference was they had meaning because he added thank you for taking the time to chat with me. Did his day change. I hope so because mine certainly did.
Speaking with Feelings
Then the question I started to ask myself is what is it I say to others that maybe I just spurt out and fail to really mean it. I mean after all I have been quoting and talking to others about it right. What I found is there have been occasions yes when I have been at fault.
Lets face it we all wear masks at times you know when someone asks how you are doing and you just smile and say "Wonderful" and yet down deep inside you are wrestling and in turmoil with something or maybe in real deep pain.
When someone comes out and shares with you something so personal, do not be so busy to not listen. Take the time as they are reaching out and are in dire need of a friend.
I preached a sermon several years ago on this subject where I said maybe it was time for people who were attending church to do just as they did in the old duster movies. You know the ones where there is a new Sheriff comes to town and makes a new rule. The sign on the door states "All guns are to be left at the door before you enter the Saloon." My message that day was maybe all our masks should be checked at the door before we enter the church.
What is real today in our world other than genuine caring and love we extend to each other. We are so influenced by what we see on TV and in the news we have forgotten who we are called to be as a caring society. Pay close attention to the advertisements. They border very much on outright lies to get you to buy their products. After all they will give you better hair, longer life and above all happiness. It used to be years ago a man would buy his wife a housecoat and she would love it. Now we are expected to buy a Honda. Is it not better to simply speak words of love with a gift that comes from the heart.
The "I Society"
Yet another observation was recently in the city rather than drive my truck in the downtown core of a million plus people I decided to ride the C Train or public transit. I parked on the outskirts in an old neighbourhood and it would be about a 45 minute ride to downtown.
The first thing that struck me was the fact people were all caught up in what I coined the "I Society."
Looking around everyone was caught up in there own little worlds. Headphones on, plugged into their IPhone. IPods, IPads... and anything android that would take them away from the reality they actually had an another human sitting beside them. Do you know we have even taken the word "We" and changed it into the word "WII."
It is so sad. Coming back that afternoon I started to talk to a young lady beside me. I was an intrusion to begin with into her world but eventually the barriers came down and she started to share with me some things about her life. What an amazing young lady she was. You see she had walked away from a life of drug addictions and elected to return back to school so she could raise the child she had conceived. By the end of the ride we had become somewhat casual friends.
Will I ever see her again. Maybe but one thing for certain was both our days were changed. Someone actually listened to her. My advice to her that day was to share her story with anyone willing to listen. Take the time to get to know the stranger beside you. One of my favorite places is standing in line at a till. I mean what a better place to talk to people. "Nice weather" is a good opening but never forget to add to it. You would be amazed at what people will tell you if you show and open and compassionate and willing heart to just listen.
Come the end of the day we all need to be loved and cared about do we not. I mean understanding someone has touched us in a personal way is such a blessing. Better yet knowing maybe we have made a difference in another life is a wonderful thing. No matter colour, race or creed we are all here and to shut out the world with headphones, to lock yourself away in your own little world or to not have love is such a shame.
I regret those times when I have not taken the time to respond when someone reached out or several years ago not taken the love that was offered when I was in need. Can you imagine the pile of masks that would accumulate at the door should we just simply be willing to bare what we have on our minds and in our hearts.
Take the time today to reach out to another. Either for yourself or someone you know needs a friend and be there.
Above all my friends know that you are deeply and truly loved...
© Rolly A. Chabot
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