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"Have a Nice Day"... by Rolly A. Chabot

Updated on August 24, 2012
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Welcome Again

This morning as I have been going through my mail and the many comments and reading hubs of others I see a growing trend for the need to come back to the basics of loving each other. Some very simple actions we see happen each day can be a blessing or can raise a few hackles.

The words we speak or write to others daily can and will make a difference when they come from the heart. I might add a heart that genuinely cares.

Lets gather around the Fireside (Yes there is a real one today) and cozy up. Help yourself to something hot to drink and get comfortable for a few minutes. If you doze off during all my chatter well then just rest. You are welcome to stay as long as you like. My home is yours and above all know that you are dearly loved and respected here.

Peace and Solitude

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Ever Notice

Recently the term "Have a Nice Day" has become somewhat of a study for me when I hear it. The term coming from a friend or someone I know is a blessing often. What they are saying to me is it has been so nice to talk to you and I value your friendship.

Where the interest lies is in the service industry. There are those times when you know it is robotic and spoken with little emotion or meaning. The unspoken words that follow are "Next" as they turn to the person patiently waiting in line.

When there is no others waiting I have often taken the time to ask "What does it mean to you when you tell me "Have a Nice Day? The answers have varied from a good understanding to as simple as "We are told it is the way we are to greet our customers.

I was at a store not long ago where the Cashier was more interested in discussing the party the night before with a colleague at the next till. It was not until I stepped directly in front of him and said "excuse me" did he actually acknowledge me as standing there. During the course of the next few minutes I learned he was planning on attending University and pursuing his lifetime dream. As he left he said the words "Have a nice day." The difference was they had meaning because he added thank you for taking the time to chat with me. Did his day change. I hope so because mine certainly did.


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Speaking with Feelings

Then the question I started to ask myself is what is it I say to others that maybe I just spurt out and fail to really mean it. I mean after all I have been quoting and talking to others about it right. What I found is there have been occasions yes when I have been at fault.

Lets face it we all wear masks at times you know when someone asks how you are doing and you just smile and say "Wonderful" and yet down deep inside you are wrestling and in turmoil with something or maybe in real deep pain.

When someone comes out and shares with you something so personal, do not be so busy to not listen. Take the time as they are reaching out and are in dire need of a friend.

I preached a sermon several years ago on this subject where I said maybe it was time for people who were attending church to do just as they did in the old duster movies. You know the ones where there is a new Sheriff comes to town and makes a new rule. The sign on the door states "All guns are to be left at the door before you enter the Saloon." My message that day was maybe all our masks should be checked at the door before we enter the church.

What is real today in our world other than genuine caring and love we extend to each other. We are so influenced by what we see on TV and in the news we have forgotten who we are called to be as a caring society. Pay close attention to the advertisements. They border very much on outright lies to get you to buy their products. After all they will give you better hair, longer life and above all happiness. It used to be years ago a man would buy his wife a housecoat and she would love it. Now we are expected to buy a Honda. Is it not better to simply speak words of love with a gift that comes from the heart.

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The "I Society"

Yet another observation was recently in the city rather than drive my truck in the downtown core of a million plus people I decided to ride the C Train or public transit. I parked on the outskirts in an old neighbourhood and it would be about a 45 minute ride to downtown.

The first thing that struck me was the fact people were all caught up in what I coined the "I Society."

Looking around everyone was caught up in there own little worlds. Headphones on, plugged into their IPhone. IPods, IPads... and anything android that would take them away from the reality they actually had an another human sitting beside them. Do you know we have even taken the word "We" and changed it into the word "WII."

It is so sad. Coming back that afternoon I started to talk to a young lady beside me. I was an intrusion to begin with into her world but eventually the barriers came down and she started to share with me some things about her life. What an amazing young lady she was. You see she had walked away from a life of drug addictions and elected to return back to school so she could raise the child she had conceived. By the end of the ride we had become somewhat casual friends.

Will I ever see her again. Maybe but one thing for certain was both our days were changed. Someone actually listened to her. My advice to her that day was to share her story with anyone willing to listen. Take the time to get to know the stranger beside you. One of my favorite places is standing in line at a till. I mean what a better place to talk to people. "Nice weather" is a good opening but never forget to add to it. You would be amazed at what people will tell you if you show and open and compassionate and willing heart to just listen.

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Days End

Come the end of the day we all need to be loved and cared about do we not. I mean understanding someone has touched us in a personal way is such a blessing. Better yet knowing maybe we have made a difference in another life is a wonderful thing. No matter colour, race or creed we are all here and to shut out the world with headphones, to lock yourself away in your own little world or to not have love is such a shame.

I regret those times when I have not taken the time to respond when someone reached out or several years ago not taken the love that was offered when I was in need. Can you imagine the pile of masks that would accumulate at the door should we just simply be willing to bare what we have on our minds and in our hearts.

Take the time today to reach out to another. Either for yourself or someone you know needs a friend and be there.

Above all my friends know that you are deeply and truly loved...

© Rolly A. Chabot

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      Joy56 4 years ago

      I have to say i really enjoyed that hub..... so true, we should just love each other take the time to listen to each other, not be too proud to ask for help, and write hubs similar to this one.... Amen... to all you said, and the pictures were great too. Very well done.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Joy... welcome to the Fireside... I see you are the first to arrive... good to have you here. Thanks for the affirmation and I do think it so important to share and be close to those we love and maybe even get to love others who are strangers...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Beautiful write and you know I am aware of these howdy dos every day. Being from the south we have mostly polite people but nowadays many are not from here that I meet up with and many times if you get a "how are you" you know they don't really want to know. I guess I can't blame them, things are too rushed to get into much conversation but there are still those who really mean it and are so pleased when you thank them and ask how they are too. People can feel when your heart is in something or not and really who cares about anyone with no heart?

      You give us much food for thought. Up and sharing.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Jackie... Southern Bell and thanks for saying hello... maybe you have touched on something here that is so important... time... do we really have it anymore... hugs for that thought... always have time for those we love and of course they are those like you...

      Hugs and much love girl...

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Rolly.. this is an absolutley wonderful hub.. I wish people would be a lot nicer to each othert. i feel like the internet all these social groups have made us cold towards one another.. and thank you for reminding us to be good to each other.

      God Bless you

      I am sharing on facebook on prayer request page

      Debbie

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Deborah... kind words and hopefully they can make a small bit of difference if only in ne life well then they have accomplished something. Thanks for the repost that is awesome...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Sueswan 4 years ago

      Hi Rolly,

      It so nice to join you around the fireside.

      On my way to work one day, I was standing at the corner waiting for the light to turn green. I was in my own world and feeling kind of blah. A man came up beside me , looked at me and said, "Oh I am sorry I thought you were Mary, an old neighbour of mine. " Anyway, we ended up having a little chat. He thanked me for taking the time to talk. I told him it was a pleasure speaking with him and wished him a nice day. Mine was certainly nicer after chatting with Bruce.

      Voted up and away

      Have a great weekend :)

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      Deepak Chaturvedi 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks a lot to share this beautiful hub.

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      Mike Pugh 4 years ago from New York City

      I like this hub here Rolly, it goes to show that some of us definitely do have a heart for humanity, and are looking to help one another to aspire to change for the better.

      Selflessness is definitely the way to dispose of self pity, and selfish pride, as well as selfishness. Self love is also needed by many folks today, and its probably the hardest one to discover because its something that derives from within our souls, I do believe and not just in our hearts or minds.

      Your hub is awesome to say the least bro, and I commend you for reaching out to help make the world just a drop bit better, and if more folks would actually take the time, take a rest and absorb these words your putting down here. Well, the chance for such a significant yet simple life change may actually occur for them all.

      There's loads of self help books, hub articles by fellow hubbers, websites, references, movies etc...., but those spoken out of pure experience are the ones that inspire true inner changes as you have noticed many other hubbers, and folks everywhere are seeking to happen today, and on a global scale of proportions.

      Bravo! thumbs up, and getting shared no doubt.

      (This comment will not be turned into a hub as I do often for long comments I tend to leave folks, hopefully others worldwide may read it to see what affect your hub has had on little ole me)

      Thanks!!!! a Million Rolly you're an awesome writer.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      One of my pet peeves about life in the south is everyone says, "hello..how are you" and vanish instantly before you can answer. I always wonder why people bother asking. I love to talk to new people but I find the only ones who will do this are the elderly. That is fine with me because they have the best stories. This is a wonderful hub with a great message!

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Sue... is it not those special moments in time we cherish. I have a real heart for seniors (Older than myself) once trust has been established the treasures they can share in life is amazing. The one thing I have found is as foggy as the mind may become the spirit is still very much awake... Thank you for sharing.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Deepak... thanks for the comment and welcome to the Fireside... thanks for stopping in and saying hello...

      Rolly in Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Thanks CloudExplorer... for the awesome comment and the encouragement you pass along so freely. First impressions of people is something we take and absorb into our beings far to easily and often miss out on some real gems in life. Over the years I have learned to shut off that switch and just sit and observe and listen. From there we can learn to love and grow with people after trust has been established.

      I certainly agree with your comment... "Selflessness is definitely the way to dispose of self pity, and selfish pride, as well as selfishness." and yet all people want is to be loved and respected.

      I often think of what is it we take from this world when we leave and there is nothing material, yet I do feel we take our relationships with us as they are part of love. If we have little or no love for each other then I think we need to look at ourselves and ask "Do we really love ourselves"and who we are. If not then the change needs to start from within.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Tammy... How are you?... surprise I am still here?... so tell my dear friend Do you have any idea how much you are loved here on Hub Pages?

      Afraid this is one of the cats that asks and sticks around to get an answer. You are right though in many ways... it is sometimes like they really do not care about you and maybe having to take the time to listen. I love people who can speak openly and freely and share from the heart that yes maybe they are hurting a little and just need to be heard.

      Hugs as always

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Just wonderful Rolly. Wonderful sentiments.We need to not take ourselves so very seriously but care more for others and their thoughts and feeling. Love your hubs as much as I have loved getting to know you. You live in a very lovely area and yes, both Sid and I love Quigley too. Passing this on.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Gypsy... Thanks for your thoughts and yes we are called to love and yet teach as we pass through this life... good to have you along.

      Maybe Quigley and Sid should write a hub together.... call it "Animal Views of the World"... smiles...

      Hugs again from Canada

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      This is a wonderful reminder to think before you speak and to mean what you say. So many times comments left on the page is automatic, i'm guilty also. You are lucky that you were able to discuss life with the young woman who had turned her life around. I rarely see anyone who is not engrossed in texting or talking on their cell phone. Maybe i can start to be more forward and start a conversation like you did. Thank you Rolly. I always learn something useful from you..Cheers.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Always... hugs... There are times when we are all guilty of not taking the time to stop and listen or hear te underlying cry for some love and understanding... There are those days when we ourselves are in need and want to be heard as well... after all we are only human... hugs for caring for others...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Dennis Thorgesen 4 years ago from Central United States

      Will Rogers said "A stranger is just a friend I haven't met yet." This is the attitude we should all have. I have been taking in abused and homeless woman with children for over two years now. There have also been three men, two with children. These people really needed someone to care.

      They are some of the nicest people I have met. They don't try to be someone they are not. When they say thank you it means something. In every religion I have knowledge of people are supposed to love one another. We as humans are not built to stand alone.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning Dennis... first thank you for caring for others when life gets hard. We all can make the difference in another life just wit kindness and love. That I see in you and what you do. God bless you for the comment and the reminder...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Sunnie Day 4 years ago

      Rolly very touching hub and may I say I would love to visit your church if ever in Canada..your words ring truth, love, a simplicity that sometime gets lost in all the hype that sadly penetrates many churches now a days..

      God bless and have a blessed day,

      Sunnie

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Sunnie... the preaching days are past but you are more than welcome at anytime to the Fireside. No matter where we find ourselves in life taking the time to smile or listen to another is the greatest blessing of all.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Simply beautiful. Think of others when we speak to them....feel what we are saying. I imagine those that belong to your church know how blessed they are to have someone as feeling and understanding as you are to lead them. God bless.

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Audrey Hunt 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      The fireside is warm with wisdom and acceptance. It's kindling is love. This is so beautiful Rolly. Every word is full of kindness and packed with inspiration.

      I become a better person as I ingest it all, from beginning to end. I listen very carefully and as I do, the message is clear and well stated. "Love One Another." Be ready to serve and give your best to others. Thank you dear Rolly. Voted up and away and sharing. Blessings and hugs to you!

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Mary... thanks for the time you have spent here... I think it so important to take the time to care and listen to what others are saying. After all in most cases they have listened to us at one time or another...

      Hugs from Canada

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