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Warning to Parents About Sleepovers

Updated on June 12, 2011

I Use To Wonder

When I was growing up I had a lot of bad experiences. Experiences that a young girl should not have went through. I use to wonder why my mother did not let me spend a night at my friend's house. I begged her because it was her birthday and all my friends were going to be there. She finally gave in and let me spend a night. I found out why my mom always told me no.

Later On That Night

I was at least 12 years old. My friend had an older brother. He was at least 18 years old. All the girls had a crush on him . They were laughing and flirting with him. I kept to myself because I didn't want any part of it. He called me out of the room and told me he wanted to talk to me. He said I looked like I wasn't having fun. When I came out of the room he cornered me. He continuously touched me inappropriately and held me down for at least an hour. I was screaming and crying but no one came to my rescue. It felt like an eternity. There was no penetration but the way he touched me I felt like I was raped. I was so traumatized. Even today, I have problems because of that. Unfortunately, that was not the first time he did that. I use to wonder why he picked me out of all the other girls. Here is what I felt when it was happening:

Why was I so different?

Why was I the one that you always watched?

You picked me out of all my friends.

Did I look at you the wrong way?

Was my smile not nice enough?

Did I bat my eyes when I should of had them closed?

Why me?

Parents Please Keep Watch

I just wanted to send a message to parents to always keep watch when you let kids sleep over your house. Always be cautious when you let your kids spend a night at someone else's house. I know that we can't live our lives being afraid of everything. However, you can't think that this will not happen to your kids or that your kids will not do this to someone else. This type of abuse happens and it can't be ignored.


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      Karen A. Harris 6 years ago from Milwaukee, WI

      Thank you so much for reading my hub. I am honored to have your feedback. I appreciate you sharing your wisdom. I am looking forward to hearing from you again. God Bless You.

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      Xavier Nathan 6 years ago from Isle of Man

      You are absolutely right. There is nothing to be gained from being fearful of everything but it is only common sense for parents to protect their children. My wife and I do allow sleepovers but only to those people we trust. We have always spoken openly to our children about the kind of thing you describe here and we feel that our children have grown up knowing what to and never afraid to talk to us or seek our help. We have also always told them to call us if they ever felt the slightest bit uncomfortable in any situation. we are also very fortunate to live in a very safe environment and that was a choice we made that came with a price. It means we live frugally and family comes before money. I will be reading more of your work and am very glad to have made your acquaintance. Thank you.