IS THERE A VAMPIRE IN YOUR LIFE? - Hide The Blood
They Are Lurking In The Shadows
OK, I'm a mother! Yes, it is easy to have every bit of ounce of life taken right out of you! Kids are exhausting! And so are my many careers.....
Producer/Director (TV & Music), Singer/Actress/Performer, Writer/Poet, Entertainment Consultant, Pro Photographer when someone needs one.......
YOU GET THE PICTURE! NOW YOU ARE WONDERING HOW I EVEN HAVE TIME TO FIND A VAMPIRE?!!!
WAIT! Did you not see the words "Entertainment Industry?!!!!" ha ha
Well "voila!" Let me explain to you how it happens. They quietly wait in the shadows to "pounce you!" You may not see it coming but believe me, they are there! You must hide the blood or find a very sharp stake before they take the last bit of energy out of you!
OK, on a serious note. How many here reading this have had every bit of creativity messed with? It could be a partner, a spouse, a relative or someone who you work with. It could be a sibling who always took their life out on you. It doesn't matter "who" it is, the main point is that you need to notice "what" this person is doing and how it is deeply "hurting you" or "holding you back."
I have had lovers that have given me the world including lots of love, gifts and attention. The point is that they all looked "non vampire" in the beginning, but as time passed I noticed that pints of my blood were missing! Ok, not really but you get what I'm saying. Some started out with little "control games" and before I knew it they were keeping me in a psychological cage. And because I am a really giving and loving person, I did not notice what they were doing. Thank goodness for friends who recognized my situation at the time and were resilient in helping me dig my way out of it. If you ever feel like you are around someone that makes you feel horrible all of the time, please look into "narcissism & personality disorders." It may give you the "wake up" call that you need. Most of these disorders can be fixed through therapy and some medications, but the problem with people who have them is that they are in major "denial!" Now, the next hard part is getting yourself "out" of the situation. This can take years depending on your circumstances. You really need to plan your exit or force this person to seek help before you get into a weaker state of mind.
Sometimes you need to create new boundaries and tell them if they do not keep their promise, your relationship (romantic or not) is over. Reading other stories by people who have lived with vampires (or freaks) really makes you see things clearly. Just look up anything to do with Narcissism or someone who was married to one. I now have a NARCISSIST meter! I know it when I first meet a person. It is very important to look up these traits when you are dealing with an abusive situation.
Definition of a Narcissist
Borderline Personality Disorder
**Remember that there are quite a few disorders to research. BPD gets mistaken for Bipolar.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) (called emotionally unstable personality disorder, borderline type in the ICD-10) is a personality disorder characterized by unusual variability and depth of moods. These moods may secondarily affect cognition and interpersonal relationships.[n 1]
Believe In Yourself!
Don't forget that love and life are supposed to outweigh misery and self destruction. A lot of people bring people around them down because they are truly unhappy. It is like a long time ago when you were in school. Did you take whatever the bully gave you? I did not and I always "gave it back" but unfortunately we are all weak to it sometime in our lives. Especially if we are in a vulnerable position and feel not so great at that particular time. A lot of these toxic, crazy causers or person/people take advantage of the good hearted one's because they know they can.
Remember though if it is really hurting you physically and psychologically, it is time to move on or rid your life of this person or more then one person depending on your particular situation. If others are also hurting around this particular person/people, including children....you MUST protect them from a life of low self esteem issues, disfunction and the familiar "comfort" with being treated badly. Children eventually mimic those around them as they grow older. Some of this can never be fixed and they may do the same thing to others around them or in future relationships.
Stop it now and hide the blood or just put the stake in PRONTO. The point is that life is "short" and it is worth LIVING not sort of "ticking along mode" where you always feel horrible inside.
One day you will look back and finally feel "free." Trust me.
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