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Updated on February 27, 2013

They Are Lurking In The Shadows

OK, I'm a mother! Yes, it is easy to have every bit of ounce of life taken right out of you! Kids are exhausting! And so are my many careers.....

Producer/Director (TV & Music), Singer/Actress/Performer, Writer/Poet, Entertainment Consultant, Pro Photographer when someone needs one.......


WAIT! Did you not see the words "Entertainment Industry?!!!!" ha ha

Well "voila!" Let me explain to you how it happens. They quietly wait in the shadows to "pounce you!" You may not see it coming but believe me, they are there! You must hide the blood or find a very sharp stake before they take the last bit of energy out of you!

OK, on a serious note. How many here reading this have had every bit of creativity messed with? It could be a partner, a spouse, a relative or someone who you work with. It could be a sibling who always took their life out on you. It doesn't matter "who" it is, the main point is that you need to notice "what" this person is doing and how it is deeply "hurting you" or "holding you back."

I have had lovers that have given me the world including lots of love, gifts and attention. The point is that they all looked "non vampire" in the beginning, but as time passed I noticed that pints of my blood were missing! Ok, not really but you get what I'm saying. Some started out with little "control games" and before I knew it they were keeping me in a psychological cage. And because I am a really giving and loving person, I did not notice what they were doing. Thank goodness for friends who recognized my situation at the time and were resilient in helping me dig my way out of it. If you ever feel like you are around someone that makes you feel horrible all of the time, please look into "narcissism & personality disorders." It may give you the "wake up" call that you need. Most of these disorders can be fixed through therapy and some medications, but the problem with people who have them is that they are in major "denial!" Now, the next hard part is getting yourself "out" of the situation. This can take years depending on your circumstances. You really need to plan your exit or force this person to seek help before you get into a weaker state of mind.

Sometimes you need to create new boundaries and tell them if they do not keep their promise, your relationship (romantic or not) is over. Reading other stories by people who have lived with vampires (or freaks) really makes you see things clearly. Just look up anything to do with Narcissism or someone who was married to one. I now have a NARCISSIST meter! I know it when I first meet a person. It is very important to look up these traits when you are dealing with an abusive situation.

Definition of a Narcissist

Definition of NARCISSISM

1: egoism, egocentrism

2: love of or sexual desire for one's own body

Borderline Personality Disorder

**Remember that there are quite a few disorders to research. BPD gets mistaken for Bipolar.

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) (called emotionally unstable personality disorder, borderline type in the ICD-10) is a personality disorder characterized by unusual variability and depth of moods.[1] These moods may secondarily affect cognition and interpersonal relationships.[n 1]

Believe In Yourself!

Don't forget that love and life are supposed to outweigh misery and self destruction. A lot of people bring people around them down because they are truly unhappy. It is like a long time ago when you were in school. Did you take whatever the bully gave you? I did not and I always "gave it back" but unfortunately we are all weak to it sometime in our lives. Especially if we are in a vulnerable position and feel not so great at that particular time. A lot of these toxic, crazy causers or person/people take advantage of the good hearted one's because they know they can.

Remember though if it is really hurting you physically and psychologically, it is time to move on or rid your life of this person or more then one person depending on your particular situation. If others are also hurting around this particular person/people, including MUST protect them from a life of low self esteem issues, disfunction and the familiar "comfort" with being treated badly. Children eventually mimic those around them as they grow older. Some of this can never be fixed and they may do the same thing to others around them or in future relationships.

Stop it now and hide the blood or just put the stake in PRONTO. The point is that life is "short" and it is worth LIVING not sort of "ticking along mode" where you always feel horrible inside.

One day you will look back and finally feel "free." Trust me.

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    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from California

      Graham! Thank you for stopping in and letting me know you enjoyed this. Appreciate it! Best, GPAGE

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      Graham Lee 

      6 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi GPAGE. A really interesting hub on the way of life. I enjoyed your angle. Thank you.


    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from California

      Ausseye....Enjoyed your comment like always! Love the rhyme AND your brilliant sense of humor! Feel free to chime in anytime!

      "In life we live to love and grow".....LOVE that mantra....wishing you wonderful moments and plenty of rhyming words! You do delight you know? Just sit back and enjoy the show! ha ha Best, G

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from California

      truthfornow....YES they are out there! Avoid them at all costs!! You can not change a vampire into a human.....SO keep a stake nearby..ha ha

      Best, GPAGE

    • GPAGE profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from California

      SilentReed....Your comment is amazing! I get it...I really do. The points you have made is so true, but glad to know that nice vampires are in your home ; ......I mean, YES we all get sucked dry of our precious energy....BUT hoping you are getting positive SOMETHING from the people around you. All the best, GPAGE

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      6 years ago from California

      Prasetio! Always great to see you here! I appreciate your comments ALWAYS! Thank you for always supporting my writing have been an inspiration to me here on hubpages....only can think of a few people here who have made such an impression on me! Wishing you positive thoughts! Best, G

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      6 years ago

      To DaPages:

      I am confused by you profound

      Of loss to make my heart unbounds

      Yet moments of bliss so undefined

      You make me question life, joy, merit and soul delight

      What are you all about?

      Just me being wacky…..but questioning !!!!

      I wrote this and your candid close encounter does speak out loud

      Watch notice and remain enraged

      What some snails do to remain profound.

      In life we live to love and grow

      Let Chi be the guide we follow as the alternative is rather hollow.

      Damn Page you got me poetic-ing, and its just a reply to your nature!!!!

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      Marie Hurt 

      6 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      Vampires are out there. I can testify. Better not to let them suck you in. Good job.

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      6 years ago from Philippines

      I've lived with "vampires" all my life. Still do. Sometimes I look inside myself to see if I too have become a vampire. The necessity of earning a living, concern for one's family of "vampires" who continue to suck dry what vital energy remains. They have made the passing years seem like ages. And I, confine to a life coffin that has become a prison. I am tempted at times to break free the chains and flee into the dark skies.... to seek fresh young blood and revitalize this old and weary body. :))

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      6 years ago from malang-indonesia write a beautiful hub. I learn so much from you. We live in the real world, vampire is really exist if someone hurt others. It's like suck "the blood", right. It's the picture of live with the vampire perspective you mentioned above. The photos you included are the best. Thanks for writing, Gina. I hope success always following you....amen. VOTED UP!

      Best wishes, Prasetio


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