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Updated on January 21, 2013

An article I wrote for my college magazine, subjective to college students and young women everywhere


In this workaday, routine, mechanic world of ours, the last thing we need is more practicality. You belonging to the non-arts departments would know it better than us. Everything is predictable, everything is premeditated. No one needs to set the wheels in motion, for they have been automated and do it infallibly. Suppose you like a particular food, how would you prefer to eat it? Would you eat it as mechanically and indifferently as any other dish or would you take time to savour it? As my friend, Ajitha once told me, you’d make sure to thoroughly relish the experience and take the time, wouldn’t you? We are individuals, we have different tastes in foods, colours, costumes, actors and actresses and other celebrities. We have, by now acquired our own manner of walking, dressing, speaking and behaving. This is what sets us apart from others. Our natures, characters and priorities are different, as unique as our finger prints. We are wonderfully, complex and beautiful beings blessed with the faculty of common sense, intellect and individuality. Yet, we feel, or coming to myself, surely, I feel something to be lacking? Something is amiss. We have come to a stage in our lives where we are treated better than we were, due to our advancement in age, our peculiarities, if not encouraged are at least, tolerated. Why then do we feel that something isn’t right? I think that this is because our lives have become so calculated and monotonous that our palates for life are not tickled. Man is always inventing, always progressing for the better or for the worse, always changing and the stale sluggish state of assurance does not go well with him. Where is our zest for living? Where is our need or challenge to change? Our future lays stark naked before us, we know every inch of the path we have to take to reach our desired destination that our spirits rise up in rebellion against us. How can we counter this feeling? How do we add more flavour and meaning to our lives? This is what I think we can do. This is the time, as women, to first realize to the fullest extent the depth of our womanhood, to know how we stand in relation to our male companions. This is the stage where we are compelled to adapt, to compromise and flatter our way through certain phases of our life, which I am sure, with deep observation, you are sure to agree with. We have suddenly been charged with accountability and significance that we have so far not encountered. Realize your potential, your desires, your priorities and make the needed adjustments in your nature to get along and become more amiable with your fellow men. Women are always reputed to be social creatures, party lovers and charmers. We are also considered, vain, fun loving and superficial. Do not bend to pressure. This is not all we are. In the face of everything, look at your own character and decide what to take and what not to take from this stereotype? But it does not mean that you should become stoic and frigid, bordering on misanthropy. This is the prime and most beautiful time, when you are free from binding commitments or relationships, to concentrate on your own self with your acquired experience and knowledge of life. Stand fast for yourself and your womanhood. Both at home and outside, society dictates that we try and ape men, to fit in and belong with them. We are the most flexible creatures to put up so little fight and try to do this and end in defeat in many cases. In movies and other forms of media, we are portrayed as props or decorative pieces whose main purpose is to enhance the quality of life of men. We need to embrace who we are, to depend and draw strength from ourselves and remain defiantly unique and individual. Secondly, we can take time to observe those around us.

“For the best study of mankind is man”

Life is interesting and fascinating, yet thoroughly inexplicable, try your hardest to unravel at least bits of it. People make up life. Keep a look out for eccentrics. There are bound to be one or two on every horizon. Basically, they end up to be ones you can’t make a lot of sense of but those you can admire. You don’t have to go to fairy tales to be interested in people, interesting, baffling, amusing, fascinating, wonderful people are all around you. Find your ideals and also your cautionary tales. Observe their singularities, their quirks, their eccentricities and you will come a lot closer to valuing your life for all it is worth. Coming back to eccentrics, they are those people who are immensely talented or gifted and unfortunately imbalanced by nature, with certain exaggerated traits that make them immensely amusing and at the same time, admirable. There are the reckless optimists and the hopeless romantics, the principled ones, the serene ones, the charmers and wits strewn along the wonderful carpet of life. Relish them, dwell upon them and draw from their strengths and amuse yourself by their shortcomings. People are charming and charismatic, even the worst of them, appreciate them to the fullest, cherish their goodness, remain hopeful and your heart will always brim with joy. If only you take a moment to appreciate the intricate handiwork of the good Lord, you’d see how blessed you are. Condemn none, get along with everyone, be infallibly cheerful and you have a sure fire way to happiness. Unlike men for whom success is the main goal, we are simpler, gentler creatures and all we want is a little happiness and optimism to help us along the way. Thirdly, discover interests and discover the world of books and you will find what you truly want. For in books, you are furnished with an unimaginable variety of circumstances and people that you can truly decide which suits you best. Reflect on what you read, take solitary movements to yourself and they shall nourish your soul as truly as fun and frolic relishes the senses. And lastly, try to define your characters definitively and it shall guide you through thick and thin. People have flaws, it is human to err, don’t condemn flaws, neither justify them, know your positives and negatives and make judgements based on that. Delight in the little joys of life. Even cooking, housekeeping and remaining amiable even in the worst of situations are lofty arts. Try to complement yourself with what you don’t have. A little science and planning won’t hurt Arts students and a little literature, romance and sentiments isn’t going to hurt the rest. Bask in the wholeness of who you are and you shall find what everyone seeks to find, satisfaction in yourself. If I have gone too far in this simple propounding of mine, kindly excuse me and spread a little cheer if we should ever meet. Live life to its fullest. In short, eat, pray and love, as the famous saying goes and God bless you all.


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      athulnair 4 years ago from India

      Great hub indeed. But it is a true fact we forget enjoying life and live to work with never ending cycle. Once we have grown up life is full of tensions.

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      Sam Azgor 4 years ago from Bangladesh

      you are welcome :)

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      Sharon Christy 4 years ago from India

      Thank you sam.azgor!

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      Sam Azgor 4 years ago from Bangladesh

      Thanx for the Hub. Really Enjoyed Your Essay.

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      Sharon Christy 5 years ago from India

      BlossomSb,alwaysexploring and Gyspy Rose Lee, thank you so much for your lovely and heartening comments. Means a lot! Thanks you and bless you all!

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up. Best thing to do is live life to the fullest and to know that you are the best there is. Nice essay.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      There is much to enjoy in this life, we just have to look up and take notice..Beautiful essay...

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 5 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      Live life to the full and enjoy every moment - our time is in God's hands. An interesting essay.

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      Sharon Christy 5 years ago from India

      Thank you Faith Reaper!

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      Faith Reaper 5 years ago from southern USA

      Very interesting essay here. Great advice to live life to the fullest no doubt!

      Voted up +++ and sharing

      God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper