ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

In Case of Emergency: In Memory of My Father

Updated on January 27, 2018

It has been 10 years now since my father passed on November 11 2001 of lung cancer. Over the years the words my father spoke to me as a child have often been fondly remembered. Five years ago I went through a very trying and tragic time in my life and it wasn't until recently that I realized that something my father said over and over again when I was young had actually helped me get through that time successfully.

I can recall it like it was yesterday he always said that In the case of an emergency you have to keep a level head do what needs to be done help who needs to be helped and then and only then can you sit down and fall apart. Strange words these were to me as a child silly almost. Little did I know that my father was preparing me for the worst trying time in my life and with out those words almost pounded into my mind I might not have made it through.


In June of 2007 I came home after shopping for sheets for my new bed in my new apartment that I shared with my best friend. I was for the first time since I left home and got married at the tender age of 20 on my own trying to rebuild my life after leaving my husband of 10 years.

I can remember it like it was yesterday I walked in the door put my bag down and looked at my cell phone realizing I had missed a phone call from a man I had been seeing for a short time. I walked into the bathroom of my apartment to freshen up before I gave him a call back. Before I could even start to freshen up my phone rang again I looked at the number and was shocked to see it was my soon to be ex-husbands girlfriend calling. Hmmm I thought what could she possibly want from me? I took a deep breath and then answered it. Hello I said and very quickly she says please don't hang up I need to tell you something very important. More curious I took a deep breath and said okay go on.

She then began to tell me that my daughter had came to her and told her that my ex-husband had sexually abused her. I became almost speechless but some how found the voice inside to ask her if she was okay and if she was safe. Yes she says I am keeping her from him. In shock I just stood there knowing my daughter was 2000 miles away and desperately needed her mother. I thanked her for telling me almost robotic-ally hung up the phone and walked into the living room.

I was then greeted by my best friend and my brother both looking at me like they knew something was wrong. I just looked at them blankly almost numb until they finally said what, what is wrong. I proceed to tell them what I had just heard and they to became shocked my best friend had a look of fury in her eyes and my brother looked just as numb as i did almost catatonic for a few seconds. Then almost at the same time my brother and I said we have to go get her. My brother guided me around helping me pack a suite case and proceeded to let my mother know what was happening and let her know we were taking her car on a cross country trip to rescue my daughter.

My best friend wanted to go desperately but she knew that she had to stay behind for her daughter my niece and to keep our jobs at the gym that we were both employed. She did everything she could to help us prepare for the trip. Within an hour we were on the road driving from California to Arkansas. Full Throttle petal to the metal we drove. Keeping in touch with his girlfriend since she was keeping her hidden and safe till I got there. Knowing full well at any time he could himself call the police and say this woman has my daughter.

The hours seemed to creep by I wanted to be there yesterday. My brother and I talked the whole way trying to figure out the best way to get her and then get out without having to deal with my ex-husband. He got very solemn and serious and says to me your not going to be there he is already planning to do something and trust me I have been desperate before and what he is thinking will not end well. Basically my brother was telling me he planed to kill me himself and possibly our daughter. The plan then became to have me stay at a hotel or some other location while he went and picked my daughter up. I sighed took a deep breath and said okay your right after all he had already attempted suicide what would stop him from taking it that step further to murder suicide.

As we finally approached Arkansas and his girlfriend tell us that she is actually hiding her in Missouri at her parents place and that my ex-husband thinks her father is home and is scared to death of the man so he is staying away. She then gives us a location to meet her and advises us that my ex-husband thinks we have already been there and left. So change of plans we make our way through the winding roads of Missouri to the location in the dead of night and after what seemed like forever we finally got to where she was. We jumped out of the car as did her and my daughter who ran to me screaming mommy,mommy,mommy. Holding back the tears that were forming in my throat I grabbed her and hugged her with all my might and said okay quick grab as much stuff as you can fit in the car and lets go.

With her safely in the car we sped off into the night driving plotting to go a different way home vowing to tell no one. After all he was still not in jail still out there and could at anytime try and find us. It was a long trip back looking over our shoulders the whole time not knowing what was going to happen but knowing that for now she was safe and once we were home we could figure out what to do. As I sat there staring blankly out the window listening to the sounds of my daughter sleeping those words my father had spoke to me as a child came flooding back. I had to stay calm I had to stay level headed and I had to get through this Emergency. It was far from over it was only the beginning but it was a good start.

As we drove into our home town I knew for now she was safe but I also knew that this Emergency just entered its second phase. I also knew the words my father had spoke so many years ago almost as if he knew some day I would need them would get me through the next phase and eventually things would be okay and then and only then I could fall apart.

Comments

Submit a Comment

  • profile image

    Michael Rudnick 

    6 years ago

    We are strangers, but I offer my best wishes to you and your family.

    I admire your candor and bravery.

working

This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)