Inspirational and Insightful Quotations #41 --- Criticism
Quotations on Criticism
Don't mind criticism. If it is untrue, disregard it; if it is unfair, keep from irritation, if it is ignorant, smile; if it is justified, learn from it.
—Dean Allen, Albuquerque Journal, Albuquerque, N.M., Dec. 9, 1923.
A scolding person is like a barking dog–their noise disturbs. It’s the uncertainty of the critter’s next move that worries.
—W.H. Johnson, Baptist Standard, Dallas, Texas, Sept. 21, 1905.
Make up your mind that the way of criticism is a dead end. No one was ever changed by criticism–least of all by nagging. No one is changed except the critic–he becomes a chronic complainer.
You must surrender the way of criticism as a way of life. Give it up at once. One who thrives on criticism develops a shabby personality and is avoided by others. Start today to search out the good in people and circumstances. As you see that which is good in others a refreshing spirit will take possession of you. Of course, in the days of your living, irritating circumstances will challenge your good disposition. But by pursuing a positive technique of relationship you can accomplish control over destructive criticism.
If you wish to get along with people you must be considerate of their personality and desires. You must do unto them as you would have them do unto you. Cease bawling out as it only leads to falling out.
—Carlysle H. Holcomb, Dallas Morning News, Dallas, Texas, Dec. 1, 1953.
It is easier to belittle than it is to be big.
—Harold Coffin, San Francisco Examiner, San Francisco, Calif., March 21, 1971.
If you spend all your time criticizing others, you will have no time to improve yourself.
—Phil Conley, The Clarion-Ledger, Jackson, Miss., March 9, 1949.
Every time you take a cut at someone else, you chop away another part of yourself.
—Bill Copeland, Sarasota Journal, Sarasota, Fla., March 21, 1969.
Ever notice that you get the cutting remarks and the sharp words from the dullest people?
—Bill Copeland, Sarasota Journal, Sarasota, Fla., March 8, 1968.
Imagine yourself in the other fellow's shoes occasionally and you'll feel more like sympathizing than criticizing.
—Roy E. Gibson, Nephi Times-News, Nephi, Utah, June 3, 1954.
Criticism of others is self-flattery.
—B.C. Forbes, Forbes Magazine, New York, N.Y., June 15, 1926.
The wit of ridicule is a substitute for hostile aggression. It gives us the means of making an enemy ridiculous.
—John W. Harold, Midland Schools, Des Moines, Iowa, April 1961.
The severe critic is usually one who tries to hide his own weaknesses.
—Phil Conley, The Clarion-Ledger, Jackson, Miss., Sept. 8, 1947.
Makers of criticism never are good takers thereof.
—Henry F. Cope, Chicago Tribune, Chicago, Ill., Sept. 27, 1908.
When you continually belittle your brother, it leads to a suspicion that you are trying to pull him down to your own level.
—W.A. MacKenzie, Florida Times-Union, Jacksonville, Fla., Jan. 25, 1924.
One reason criticism is so easily and popularly indulged in is that it requires no elbow grease or brain fatigue.
—W.A. MacKenzie, The Leesburg Morning Commercial, Leesburg, Fla., March 10, 1928.
When you criticize a successful man, it is an open confession that you are a flat failure yourself.
—Bert Moses, Lake Charles American Press, Lake Charles, La., March 6, 1945.
Criticism is something that anybody can indulge in without any particular strain on the intelligence.
—Bert Moses, Lake Charles American Press, Lake Charles, La., Dec. 31, 1936.
In belittling others, you only belittle yourself.
—Bert Moses, Lake Charles American Press, Lake Charles, La., March 27, 1937.
One of the easiest things in the world is to be a harsh critic of the other fellow's mistakes.
—Grantland Rice, New York Tribune, New York, N.Y., July 31, 1920.
Criticism is the easiest thing to invent.
—Roy L. Smith, Tampa Morning Tribune, Tampa, Fla., May 7, 1942.
The shortest gratification you’ll ever get is the pick-up from putting someone down.
—Bill Copeland, Sarasota Journal, Sarasota, Fla., July 17, 1969.
How you get along with folks depends on whether you like to take part or take apart.
—Bill Copeland, Sarasota Herald-Tribune, Sarasota, Fla., March 28, 1979.
Criticism and happiness have one thing in common. Give a little of it and you're sure to get it back.
—Roberta Lyndon, The Atlanta Constitution, Atlanta, Ga., Feb. 18, 1940.
There are always more people to criticize new ideas than to think them up.
—Roy E. Gibson, Nephi Times-News, Nephi, Utah, Jan. 7, 1954.
The habit of criticism is one that many people–and not only those who are critical–depreciate. There is a fairly general impression that the person who criticizes is not capable of doing much else, and that, as he is too lazy or indifferent to undertake active, constructive work, he resorts to criticism of others in order to keep alive a spark of self-respect. Such an intolerant view of the critic may occasionally be warranted, but it is more often unreasonable. The most searching criticism has nearly always been supplied by men who were themselves men of action. ...
It is true, however, that a good deal of criticism springs from what [might be] called the impatience of the amateur. Criticism of that sort should be uttered with discretion, and usually little will be lost if it is not uttered at all. A consciousness of the imperfections and shortcomings of others is likely to be more profitable to a person if it remains unexpressed. When criticism is not of a personal character the amateurishness of it is usually pronounced, and if it does little harm it is certain that it does little good. It reacts favorably upon the person who is addicted to it; he has supposed that his opinions are held in some esteem as well-considered and intelligent, and at last he discovers with dismay that he has built up a reputation for himself as a faultfinder.
—ChiIdress Index, Childress, Texas, Aug. 16, 1921.
Criticism can be a mighty fatal weapon wielded against friendship and good will, unless, of course, it is handled with a good measure of diplomacy. ...
The person who criticizes a great deal feels inferior himself.
A psychiatrist will tell you that habitual criticism is a defense against a feeling of personal inadequacy. When that's boiled down it means that if you criticize a great deal, it may be because you really feel small and unimportant and are trying to impress people just the opposite.
Let's assume, however, that your only desire in criticizing is to improve your friend. Already you are in a bad position, because as you yourself know, it hurts much more to be criticized by a friend than by an acquaintance.
When an acquaintance hurls verbal stones at your pride, you can ruffle your feathers and think, "I don't care two cents for your old opinion anyway." When a friend criticizes, anger may be your first reaction, but deeper and stronger is a feeling of hurt. With our friends, we always try to put our best foot forward and give an impression of smoothness. Criticism is an indication that we didn't make such a hit after all, and the more we like the person, the more it hurts!
Criticism, at best, is a hard thing to accept graciously, but if you disguise it properly your friend will have a happy feeling inside and a recharged enthusiasm to please you. This is done by tossing in a little praise first. Surely there is something you admire. Capitalize it!
The criticism that severs friendship is the sharp negative kind which makes the individual feel, "What's the use. I may as well give up. Nothing I do is appreciated."
If you have something to say, your friend will appreciate it if you will say it in person rather than peddling his or her personal affairs to mutual acquaintances.
The only thing worse than criticism is second-hand criticism. You can have your friends striving twice as hard to please you because you offer such nice praise when they succeed.
—Beverly Brandow, Dallas Morning News, Dallas, Texas, Jan. 7, 1952.