Inspirational and Insightful Quotations #76 - Friendship
Quotations on Friendship
The highest possible return a man can get from friendship is the ability to deepen friendships and to form new friendships. If friendship trains a man to be a better friend; if friendship teaches a man how to extract more genuine joy out of a friendship; if friendship leads a man on to form new friendships—that is the greatest possible return friendship can make.
The second to highest possible return out of a friendship is a keener discrimination. The most unfortunate man of all in personal relationships is he who cannot distinguish between an acquaintance, however pleasant it may be, and a friendship. The unfortunate man is always expecting more out of an acquaintance than the acquaintanceship holds. No acquaintanceship can mean friendship. To look unto an acquaintance for the high values of friendship is to be eternally disappointed. This is the reason why so many men have become cynical about friendships. The real truth was that they found their disappointments in acquaintanceships they mistook for friendships.
The highly fortunate man is he who had the discrimination to recognize a friendship; who knows not to underestimate a friendship by treating it as a mere acquaintanceship; who, face to face with high value, understands and appreciates what he is facing. There is the fortunate man. He does not expect a major quality from a minor entity neither does he content himself with a minor quality from a major entity.
---Henry Arnold “H.A.” Stallings, Waycross Journal-Herald, Waycross, Ga., Nov. 17, 1933.
We are inclined to forget that friendship is a delicate plant and is easily broken or blighted. It is a frail creation, and to be preserved must be carefully safeguarded. Samuel Johnson reminded us long ago how important it is to keep one’s friendship in repair. One of friendship’s most deadly foes is neglect. Individuals drift apart through carelessness. It is only by conscious effort that individuals can be kept together in mutual sympathy and goodwill.
It is not enough that friendly feelings should exist in the heart. They must be expressed. Only the sentiments which find expression are likely to survive. [Individuals who] wish their lives to become intimately and helpfully intertwined must lose no opportunity to express publicly the sentiment of mutual goodwill.
Another great hindrance to friendship is ignorance. It is a commonplace that we tend to dislike the people whom we do not know. We shall never enter into the angels’ song of peace and goodwill until [we] learn to sing it.
---W.A. Cameron, Brooklyn Daily Eagle, Brooklyn, N.Y., Nov. 18, 1935.
Friendship that is worthy the name must be an experience of the soul. In no other soul but that of the heart can true friendship thrive. If true soul be knit with true soul, you have a friendship such as will set the angels rejoicing.
True friendship will be equal to any test. It is not a tropical plant, flourishing only in the sunshine; but a sturdy oak, surviving even the storm.
When a friend is unjustly assailed, we must lift our voice in his behalf, even at the risk of incurring the enmity of his assailant, though that assailant be our friend.
Also, true friendship survives the grave. There is a union of hearts that hath not here an end.
---J. Frank Williams, El Paso Morning Times, El Paso, Texas, Dec. 13, 1915.
Real friendship is not so plentiful that any one of us can afford to scorn the smallest showing of it. The basis of all friendship must lie in some similarity in tastes, and I grant also some contrasts. There must be something magnanimous; something truly large and broad; something that can appreciate and see the great stream of life.
True friendship does not look for perfection in the object of its love, for it knows it has no perfection to proffer in return.
Friendship will overlook the shafts of petty criticism when the object of its love is sore beset. Friendship proceeds upon confidence—confidence, that plant of such slow growth and whose stem is so easily broken.
True friendship proceeds upon charity. Charity is life—charity of act, charity of judgment—and yet it is a hard thing unless you possess true charity, to put yourself in your friend’s place before you pass judgment upon him
---Charles Oliver Brown, San Francisco Call, San Francisco, Calif., March 23, 1896.
Friendship is an ennobling virtue, which, uniting men as brothers, teaches them to sustain that relation at all times, each in his turn helping and helped, blessing and blessed.
---Luther Field Tower, New Orleans Crescent, New Orleans, La., Nov. 11, 1868.
True friendship is when soul meets soul and we understand instinctively.
---Fred R. Chanault, Richmond Times-Dispatch, Richmond, Va., Nov. 20, 1922.
The person who says, “I have no friends,” means that he has not paid the high price for them.
---John Wesley Holland, Livonia Gazette, Livonia, N.Y., Aug. 11, 1938.
A man frequently complains that his friends have let go of him, when, in fact, he has let go of himself.
---Alexander Edwin Sweet, Texas Siftings, New York, N.Y., April 19, 1890.
The splendid quality of friendship alone can grow out of the ability to discern the worthy and true, to discover real merit and appreciate the same for merit’s sake.
---W.J. Vernon, Washington Bee, Washington, D.C., Sept. 26, 1908.
Friendship is not only a name which can easily be given when all is sunshine and calm, but on the contrary that which will stand the surest test, adversity.
---C. Henri Woode, Louisiana Democrat, Alexandria, La., Oct. 12, 1887.
People who have warm friends are healthier and happier than those who have none. A single real friend is a treasure worth more than gold or precious stones. Money can buy many things, good and evil. All the wealth of the world could not buy a friend, or pay you for the loss of one, and we are the weakest and worst of spendthrifts if we let a friend drop off through inattention, or let one push away another. One good friend is not to be weighed against all the jewels of the earth.
---Omer L. Downey, Evening Independent, St. Petersburg, Fla., Dec. 11, 1911.
Don’t abuse your friends, and expect them to consider it criticism.
---E.W. “Ed” Howe, Atchison Daily Globe, Atchison, Kan., June 5, 1909.
A policy of non-recognition has killed more friendships than any other single cause.
---Jack Williams, Sr., Waycross Journal-Herald, Waycross, Ga., April 6, 1940.
Putting the “con” in “confidence” sooner or later results in putting the “end” in “friendship.”
---Hazen Conklin, The Evening World, New York, N.Y., Nov. 24, 1914.
Love is exclusively the giving part of friendship, that part of it that pours out its own soul treasures and expects no reward for its gifts.
---R.K. Marvin, Vermont Phoenix, Brattleboro, Vt., May 11, 1900.
The quality of your friends is a reflection of the quality of your own life. Friendship as the master passion is a door opener to the larger and better life, a voice and an influence constraining us to the good.
---Thomas E. Patterson, Brooklyn Daily Eagle, Brooklyn, N.Y., May 12, 1930.
It is not the lack of friends, but our lack of appreciation, that makes this a lonely world.
---Roy L. Smith, Buffalo Courier-Express, Buffalo, N.Y., Sept. 19, 1927.
True friendship finds its strongest and most enduring characteristic in worth. The friendship that can be trusted must be tried. Fair weather may serve to sail a vessel, but the storm tests its strength.
---Isaac W. Gowan, Christian Intelligencer, New York, N.Y., June 30, 1920.