ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Is Someone You Love Suffering?

Updated on July 21, 2009

How do you feel?

Feeling Helpless? Handicapped ? Crippled ? not able to make things better for the ones we love. Are you hurting both physically or emotionally We see our loved ones failing in several things, from an illness, from an addiction,from school.and we have no control over what is happening.

We abandon the one we care about if we get so overwhelmed by the feeling helpless that some of us choose to become un-involved, or "waiting it out".Or we may inadverently alienate them or prevent them from owning and dealing with the suffering.We can jeopardize our own welfare, by worrying endlessly.

You feel helpless and someone you love feels helpless...opportunity and challenge are here.. to develop or deepen friendship, to build intimacy and to offer unconditional love.

We need to take the initiative: to write a simple note,say a kind word,a gentle touch and a listening ear can mean a lot to someone in pain. Especially MEN need to share their feelings, fears,touch,and their tears.

People who are in pain and suffering can often be our best teachers. They have a way of showing us the true meaning of patience, compassion and faith.

We need to be aware of what we say about God. when we are not comfortable about feeling helpless, we can make some comments that are not proper about God's will, plan or role in suffering. We need to let suffering people vent their frustration, anger and maybe even hatred of God. Until a sufferer acknowledges despair he or she can not befriend it.

There are available resources to help people who are suffering, support groups,or professionals in the ministry, or counseling and health-care. Good will is sometimes not enough in all situations---special skills which we may lack---are very often needed in many cases and you may need to turn to them. Sometimes if we try to take control of a situation when the suffering person needs to really deal with, we actually hinder them. They need to feel the pain, taking responsibilty for it. We can feel for another, we can be there for them, but we can never suffer for another.

Sometimes the most empowering action we can take is to Listen.. We must beware of our limits and also take care of ourselves.What we give depends on our life's circumstances , our relationships with the person.

When we are helpless we have more questions then answers and our God may seem far away. And we may feel like just forgetting to try anymore. But this is the exact time we need to trust in our faith and our God. In the midst of crisis are further opportunities for loving unconditionally and becoming more fully human. TAKE HEART. G-Ma :o) hugs


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • G-Ma Johnson profile imageAUTHOR

      Merle Ann Johnson 

      6 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Mellonyy...ThankYou and nice to meet you. I recently lost the one Mother I had and am so missing her, she taught me so much in her suffering years. Remember "Cherish each moment"...:o) Hugs G-Ma

    • Mellonyy profile image


      6 years ago

      Great and useful information, thanks for sharing!

    • freelanceauthor profile image


      6 years ago

      Nice hub. If someone you love is suffering, the best thing to do is say a prayer, and being there beside the person. Presence means a lot for them.

    • G-Ma Johnson profile imageAUTHOR

      Merle Ann Johnson 

      9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Awww here you are again, great..and Thanks sweet one...:O) Mom

    • profile image 

      9 years ago from Northern California

      That is a great bit of writing Mom.

    • Patience Virtue profile image

      Patience Virtue 

      10 years ago from All Over

      I really appreciated the part you put in about letting them vent anger or even hatred towards God. I have a friend who's been dealing with anger at God, but I think the Christian circles she's in prevent her from being honest about how she feels. That's so sad, because when people can't even be honest about what they're going through it will only lengthen the time it will take for them to heal! And you're definitely right, listening is a key part in all of this.

    • G-Ma Johnson profile imageAUTHOR

      Merle Ann Johnson 

      10 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Mr.Marmalade...Thank You Sir..I appreciate your comments always...and is so true what you say. G-Ma :o) hugs

      vijayanths...Thanking you too for your comments and the Hug...time heals a lot..but hurts anyway..G-Ma :o) hugs

      soyelude...And to you My Friend, Thank You...yes our journey is all about love and that way we can support each way or another...G-Ma :o) hugs

    • soyelude profile image


      10 years ago from Lagos - Nigeria

      Everyone must have their fair dose of pain...we can be there for them to lean on. This journey called life is all about support, love and caring. Thanks for sharing this G-ma. Love.

    • profile image


      10 years ago

      yes, certain things are not in our hands to is really painful to see our beloved ones suffering. It is miserable.hugs

    • MrMarmalade profile image


      10 years ago from Sydney

      Ma! as promised.

      We need to take the initiative: to write a simple note,say a kind word,a gentle touch and a listening ear can mean a lot to someone in pain.

      We all know many people going through the area of pai,I like your thoughts


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)