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Control Your Anger

Updated on July 4, 2020
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Anupam, an English teacher, is extremely sensitive & expresses her emotions in poems. She is pursuing Masters in Psychology at present.

Why Do We Get Angry?

Angry we get

When we don't get

What we had expected.


Angry we become

When the near ones

Leave us for fun.


Anger in us is instigated

When we are irritated

With such action, that we always hated.


Anger is ignited within

When someone threats or troubles

The world that we are living in.


Anger blooms out of the heart

When we find ourselves powerless

But have a series of varied wishes.


We do feel angry

When someone else gets the credits

For the efforts and devotion of ours.


A few people get angry

When they see people reaching to the height,

That they always believed as their sole right.

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Factors on Which Anger Depends

In the childhood if we have been trained

It's okay to get angry when troubled or irritated;

We behave as an insane and are frustrated,

When someone doesn't behave as we wanted.


If one is forced as a child not to complain

And go with the things as it always had been,

The suppressed anger becomes a long term problem,

And that person behaves inappropriately in every situation.


When one witnesses anger as a general outburst,

Among the adult relatives and the others of respect,

One starts getting scared with one's own reactions

And doesn't want to reveal any of the heart's expressions.

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When I am Angry

I too get angry at my loved ones

I express my frustration on the innocents,

When the beast of anger within me roars

My voice becomes terrible with such hoarse,

That's enough to bring my loved ones' tears.

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How to Cope Up with Anger

We all lose our control at times and then shout and yell at whoever we can. I remember my mother shouting at me at times as she used to stuck in the house hold chores throughout the day and there was no one from whom she could get help. There was no one she could talk to. So she used to release all her frustration on her kids. I have heard this thing from many of my friends.

To be honest, I too have behaved in a similar with my daughter. Day long work and loneliness within, all my frustration would come upon that little girl. By God's grace I realized soon that I was losing my daughter. I changed my ways and now I always try to be calm. It was not so easy but every time I felt I was getting angry I followed a rule set by myself:

  • take long breaths and concentrate on your breaths
  • recite any shloka or hymn or start praying your deity or your conscience
  • drink water at that moment
  • walk away from the spot for some time
  • shout but not at anyone, just in an open space
  • cry loudly to release the inner agitation. I read somewhere if you cry in front of any old tree or river or hills, you will find yourself much better. They soak your negativity and bless you with the charm of peace that they possess.
  • tear paper or break a glass: Though it looks childish, but believe me you will really enjoy doing this and all your anger will go along with the torn paper and the broken glass. You can used unwanted newspapers and the glasses that is of no use
  • listen to the music: This is one of the most common way in which people tranquilize their anger and feel better
  • talk about the problems with some close friend or write it in a diary as it's very famous saying "Paper has more patience than people"

With the practice of them, I gradually transformed into a really peaceful person. The so angry stubborn lady changed into a flexible calm personality. This helped me both in my personal as well as professional life.


How Can I Control My Anger for Long Term?

Learn Your Triggers

Examine your Thought Patterns

Develop Your Communication Skills

Look at Your Lifestyle

mind.org.uk

Stay as Calm as the Nature

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What Makes You Angry

Among the given instigators, what affects you the most?

See results

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Anupam Mitu

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    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      12 months ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much sir. It means a lot to listen from you.

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      MG Singh emge 

      12 months ago from Singapore

      Your poem with anger as the central theme is wonderful. Lots of emotions expressed.

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      Robert Sacchi 

      12 months ago

      You're welcome.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      12 months ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you Robert. It's a pleasure that you loked them.

    • Robert Sacchi profile image

      Robert Sacchi 

      12 months ago

      A great job of summing up anger through poetry.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      13 months ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much deae friends

      Vikas Mishra, Meenal Gupta, Pankaj Wagh, and Sunit Dutta

      I am really thankful to you for reading this article.

      Lots of love and blessings to you all.

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      Sunil Dutta Biswal 

      13 months ago

      Profound....

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      Pankaj Wagh 

      13 months ago

      Simply Outstanding.

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      Meenal Gupta 

      13 months ago

      Your poems are beautiful. Not everyone can weave their words into sentences and sentences into a beautiful poem. God has given you a very valuable gift.Treasure it always.

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      Vikas mishra 

      13 months ago

      Your all article is wonderful....This 1 is too good....evwn Before read this I did not know from whr anger comes...

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      13 months ago from MUMBAI

      Thank you so much Hari for all your support and appreciation

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      13 months ago from MUMBAI

      True Ahlgilyn!

      Abuse is never good at all!

      But for ones own gratification, we feel better when we shout!

      I am that sort of individual, though it's really not a right thing to be done. ( I never do this in front of anyone else, but just to release what's within I do that and feel better)

      That's why I shared two stories here

      One of Mahatma Gandhi and the other one of the tv serial

      Yes my article is not complete as there are many things to be included to make my words and point sensible. In a hurry I did this to start with my first article on Hubpages. But will definitely work on this. There are so many thoughts and experiences which need to be expressed.

      Thank you so much for reading this

      Blessings

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      13 months ago from MUMBAI

      True Ahlgilyn!

      Abuse is never good at all!

      But for ones own gratification, we feel better when we shout!

      I am that sort of individual, though it's really not a right thing to be done. ( I never do this in front of anyone else, but just to release what's within I do that and feel better)

      That's why I shared two stories here

      One of Mahatma Gandhi and the other one of the tv serial

      Yes my article is not complete as there are many things to be included to make my words and point sensible. In a hurry I did this to start with my first article on Hubpages. But will definitely work on this. There are so many thoughts and experiences which need to be expressed.

      Thank you so much for reading this

      Blessings

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      Ahlgilyn Cabanado 

      13 months ago from Philippines

      Abuse is never okay. It could lead to traumas and silent battles. I hope we get to fight abuse in this era. Thank you for your inputs.

    • Anupam Mitu profile imageAUTHOR

      Anupam Mitu 

      13 months ago from MUMBAI

      Yes sir! The mental satisfaction that one gets after using it is really tranquillizing.

      Thank you for reading this sir

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      Hari Prasad S 

      13 months ago from Bangalore

      You have written a wonderful article. Abuses are part of our life some create humor some cause anger. Either way, it all depends on how and when it is used. Abuses are part of human nature and hence have to be taken into stride. Kudos to you to write this wonderful though provoking article anupam.

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