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It Doesn't Make Him Any Less Of A Man

Updated on March 22, 2013

You Are Not Alone

Men suffer mental and physical abuse at the hands of women. A lot of times it is ignored or unheard of because of a male’s status in society. I wrote this piece to bring awareness and to let men know that they are not alone. It is not acceptable and no one deserves to be abused.

There are people out there that care and can help them. I want them to always remember that they are not weak and it does not make them any less of a man if they seek help. They don’t have to hide any longer.

His Story

His soul is broken.

But he can’t tell anyone.

They will question his manhood.

They will tease and taunt him because he doesn’t fight back.

Everyday he has to protect himself.

He tries to hide the bruises.

He wears shades to hide the black eye that he received last night.

He feels alone.

His phone rings and he answers.

There is a voice of a woman screaming insults and threats to him on the other end.

He holds his head down as he hangs up the phone.

He tries so hard to make things right.

But he can’t please her.

He don’t know and understand what he does wrong.

He is a victim of mental and physical abuse at the hands of a woman.

And he doesn’t know how to break free.

He will not use his strength to fight back.

He just takes it.

He feels that no one would believe him.

He cries with no one to hear or see his tears.

How could he help himself?

How could he leave his fear and find the strength to leave?

He is a man that is being physically and mentally abused by his wife.

Who would possibly come to his rescue?

One day he decided to go on the internet to seek help.

He thought that if he was not able to find anything at least he would not have to face anyone.

He did not have to suffer from the humiliation of the jokes and snide remarks of others.

He typed in the words - men suffering abuse at the hands of women.

A lot of information populated.

He was surprised that he was not alone.

He picked up the phone and was given information on where to go.

It was a safe house for men.

He built up the courage and strength to leave.

He packed what he could and left.

He was no longer the pit of her manipulative and physically abusive nature.

He was free.

He never returned to her again.


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      Aka Professor M 

      7 years ago

      @Saaayk73: Most real men will appreciate that this hub is being written by a woman as it shows that not all women feel the same way, Karen! You are so right when you write that abusive, bullying and assaults be they of a mental, emotional or physical nature, have no place in a committed relationship, whether the abuser is male or female.

      Thanks for taking a stand with this hub, Karen! Voted Up and Pushed all the buttons that apply here!

      Regards Mike! (Aka Professor M!) ;D

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      Denise Handlon 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      Wonderful poem with most certainly the point that abuse can occur to either gender.

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      7 years ago

      This is so true,Ms.Sassy. So many men are abused each day by their spouses,significant others,etc.People can't seem to relate to how a man can be abused by a woman.Thanks for sharing this very informative write.So true.voted up!

      ~Peace,my friend~

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      Karen A. Harris 

      7 years ago from Milwaukee, WI

      @Meisjunk....I totally agree with you. I witnessed my son being mentally abused by a girl. It was horrible.

      I am so glad you stopped by. Thank you for reading :)

      @Chanroth...Thank you for stopping by. There are the good and bad in each sex. However, the man is automatically the bad guy. He is always presented as the abuser but no one can see that a woman can do this to him.

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      7 years ago from California, USA

      This is very true. Men do get abused by woman and most of it are unknown because of his status as male. :)

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      Jennifer Kessner 

      7 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Beautiful! So many dismiss the idea of men being the victims of abuse because of society's expectations of men being invulnerable. It's always upset me that it's this way. Thank you for helping to bring awareness!


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