"Let Others Help When They Offer" © Rolly A. Chabot
Please gather around while this old guy beats out another hub. This will be the second in as many days. I was inspired to write about something that is very near and dear to my heart. That is the act of kindness and what we do with it.
Our very own Leslie Silverman wrote a piece a while back that I missed seeing until tonight. It is one of those writings that tug at the heart because it was written from the heart. I thank you Leslie for sharing such a story. I recall seeing this on the news and I recall having tears over what I saw. Please readers take a look at this and tell me it does not touch you in some way.
Tonight I would like to share with you a little of what happened to me several years ago and the lesson I leaned from it. Gather around, help yourself to some hot chocolate as we are getting chilly here. Make yourself at home please. Thank for the blessing of your coming here and please I do hope you take a blessing with you when you leave... If nothing else know that you are loved.
Don't Stay Outside
Our Needs vs Pride
Several years ago I found myself living in somewhat of an unfavourable situation. Through my own demise I was living in a very small run down converted motel where room had been made into suites as they were called. This place was but one step up from welfare. I lived there for a year without work and on what was left of my savings.
I found I had time on my hands and donated much of my time. The local Church I belonged to needed some help. The facility we rented required to be set up and taken apart each Sunday and I became the leader of the team doing the work. That summer the Pastor was building a house o his farm in the country and I donated many hours helping there and they would feed me and send me home a few times a week with eggs . I also helped out at the food bank helping those in need.
Come late fall I found I was running short of cash and the cupboards and fridge were bare. I can laugh about now but when all you eat is oatmeal or rice three times a day you soon learn to appreciate it.
I come from a family that taught perseverance through the worst of times. Pride was something I taught myself and would have never told anyone I was in need. It was just not part of my nature. I was getting by and hoping something would come about.
Life is a Spiral
Life changes quickly for most of us. For the moment it was where I found myself. In the eyes of others I was doing fine. In my eyes I was hurting and would not tell anyone. I just kept limping along and doing what I could to get by
It was close to Christmas when I got a phone call one day. It was Mary from the Food Bank telling me they had a hamper for me from someone who cared. My immediate response was to tell her to give it to another in need because I was just fine. They tried again a few days later and I refused again. It was all about the pride I had encased myself in.
I found work shortly after Christmas that year and started the long process of attempting to rebuild again. It was not easy. I had known far too well what it was like to have it all then all of a sudden have nothing. It was here I bought a used computer and started to write my thoughts and share them with others and eventually a small local publication. My little apartment became a home and once I found peace it became a sanctuary for me. Rather than keep my door closed and locked, it was left open and many would come and visit.
It was again in the spring I was helping the Pastor with his house and he stopped me that day and asked me a question that changed the way I look not only at giving but receiving as well. He was a man of few words but I will always hold his words dear. "Rolly I have a question for you. What kind of a heart are you giving with when you refuse to receive? I babbled on and on and eventually learned it was the Church that had attempted to help me out and I had refused.
Sunrise and a New Day
I guess at the start of a new day there is hope. You know that person in the service industry you got angry with because they maybe got your order wrong or that man that is working a menial job. Do not judge because it could happen to any of us. No matter who people are and what they do we still all have feelings wants and desires. Sometimes we need to humble ourselves. It can happen to us all and when it does we come back a better and a stronger person.
It is when we accept where we are in life and fill ourselves with thankfulness do we blossom like a flower on a sunny day. I so love to be around people who have such an outlook. In times of darkness they are the sunshine for many people. When you find something negative about life I beg you to stop and look for the positives of the situation. We live in a soup kettle of emotions. Why not sprinkle a little joy and gratitude into the mix and share it with others. You just never know what you may learn along the way.
"What kind of a heart are you giving with is what I ask." After living through it, I can tell you a far more thankful heart and one that appreciates far more than I deserve. Take the time today and look at your motives for giving and ask yourself can I receive. Is it better to receive with a humble heart? You can bet it is because it changes the heart that gives. Never ever rob the blessing of giving from another who is reaching out to you. Trust me they have no intention of hurting you, all they want to do is bless you. Allow them the joy of knowing they have helped in some way.
Never steal from those who give for the gift they give with will mean far more than the pride that you carry. After all is it not the way we are to be. Even when we have nothing we can give something. A smile, a kind word, a hug, a listening ear. I think back at all those who did it for me in life and it is the least I can do to repay them.
You see I learned a great deal during this little bump in the road. Giving and receiving fall hand in hand with love. It is funny a few months ago I drove slowly past that little apartment. It is a number of years older and even more run down but it still holds many fond memories. The greatest of all is "What kind of a heart do I give with today?
© Rolly A. Chabot
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