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Liberating success stories
I did not know much about this person's story when they were 11 or 12 years old, which is when I first met him; and I was 17 years old, but I know their story now. He is an example to all those disabled individuals holding part time jobs, because they are collecting partial disability, and that is all that they are allowed to work. Or, full timers, who are not collecting disability at all, which is what this individual does. His adoptive mother does not believe in using his disability as a crutch. I, of course, know that sometimes there really is no choice. Some have to collect partial disability to survive. However, he is quite inspiring to others with disabilities, and when he interacts with them, he makes the other person with a disability walk away feeling better about themselves. I have witnessed this myself. It just adds even more to his character.
When I was 17, I went to a friend's house, who had a piano, on the weekends to practice my audition piece for the school musical. One day, while I was there practicing for my audition, someone came to his front door; a young boy who was collecting newspapers for his boy scout troop. My friend told him that he did not have any newspapers, and the 11 or 12 year old boy left. This young boy had and still battles challenges of Cerebral Palsy, which is a congenital disorder of movement, muscle tone, or posture. If he had had full blown Cerebral Palsy, he would have had to deal with a seizure disorder similar to my own. However, he was fortunate to not have everything that Cerebral Palsy entails.
I recently met him, again, now, as an adult. (He did not remember meeting me, but I remembered meeting him.) His mother, who adopted him, told me his story, and it is quite inspiring. I really do not think that his adoptive parents knew that he was going to have issues with Cerebral Palsy, as he was adopted from Tennessee and came to live in Missouri when he was only 2 days old. Around the age of 2, this baby clamped his left hand to his chest, his mother had to pry his left hand from his chest to get him dressed and undressed every day. This baby went through physical therapy at a very young age for something that ONLY effected the left side of his body. As a teen, he had surgery to repair what effected his left foot.
As an adult, this man believes that his biological mother knew about this battle that he would have to fight for most, if not all of his life. He believes his biological mother gave him up for adoption to get rid of him. (I wish he had a way to get at the truth, but, some parents cannot handle malformations. Just like some kids' can't handle the truth of their parent's disorders. No difference, they just get sent away to someone else who would take on the burden. They find a new way to live, to be successful for themselves.) However, I have discussed with this man about having his DNA test done, to see more about his own ancestry. He has yet to do it. But, TODAY, the joke is on his biological parents. This adult man no longer clamps his left hand to his chest. He does still have a slight crimp in his left hand, but he gets himself dressed everyday. He used to play high school soccer and football. He has many friends. He owns his own vehicle. (Yes, he drives.) He has a job. He wants a better job than he has. He had to go through Vocational Rehab to help him get employed, but he continues to remain employed. He appears to be an inspiration to all that know him. INCLUDING MYSELF!!
At his job, he now holds the most awards for customer service in our metropolitan area. He has had people from other stores come to his store to ask him if he would consider transferring to their store. I am very happy about the impact that he has on the community. In fact, yesterday, he helped save an elderly woman's life, as she fell in the parking lot and split the back of her head open.
This man also went to high school with my two brothers. In fact, he was surprised to find out that I was their older sister. He didn't know that they had a sister. (No one ever seems to know. Apparently, I am my parents love child, come home.) It's funny now, because I met him when he was 11 to 12 years old, and I was like 17. I remember meeting him. (I've always had an unusually good memory. It is sometimes a curse. I am sure it will eventually lead to Alzheimer's', which might be a blessing.) However, he does not remember meeting me, but he is just as determined as he was back then. He says, "you have made me even more determined." Even his parents see an amazing change in him.
Despite every ones issues, and we do all have them. People need to realize the positives in everyone. ALL PEOPLE HAVE SOME BENEFIT TO MAKE, IF ONLY YOU LOOK HARD ENOUGH. TEASE THOSE POSITIVES OUT! In today's society, there should be NO REASON FOR RACISM, NO REASON FOR DISCRIMINATION, NO REASON FOR GENDER INEQUALITY, NO REASONS TO SHUN PEOPLE FOR THEIR SEXUAL ORIENTATION (that is really none of your business anyway.) We should be growing as a people, not following, would be leaders into pure ignorance. We all put our pants on, one leg at a time. Let us be a people of integrity, TOGETHER!!!