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"Love" By Rolly A. Chabot

Updated on December 17, 2012


Please help yourself to a hug on the way in and be sure and share a few while you are here. "Why" you may say. Well just because, just try it and see what happens. What is in a hug? Many things but the greatest is touch. We all crave to be held and shown that someone cares.

Welcome again to the Fireside and my little corner of the world. What makes it special well just because it is where I call home in this monster world of this pace we call the Internet. It is where I hang my hat and I would like you to feel welcome.

Gather around, help yourself to what ever snacks are around and of course there is Quigley who just loves a good rub and is an energy saving vacuum cleaner should you happen to drop a crumb. No attachments, no accessories, no power cords and best of all no batteries. Some people buy those Robot units. I have one that works the best and loves her work. Do take the time to give her a pet.

Know that you are loved... I mean truly loved and find some rest while you are here.



For those who are new here and wondering what a Robot Vacuum looks like, well this is the model I have around here. She is a three year old Havanese who has brought more laughs into this home than you can imagine let alone the love she shares so freely.

No matter what time of day or night you move she has a toy to share with you. She has a preference over all the store bought ones over the ones that Dad has made for her. Rope tightly wrapped, an old broken shoe lace and best of all dads socks. There will always be one she finds and carries around. Once they have a hole in them they belong to her. They are the ones that have a knot tied in them. They are Quigley's she is reluctant to give them up but will share them with you if you toss them for her. Treats stuffed into the fingers of old leather gloves are the best. The ones she needs to work at are a favourite.

The best part is she can make a milk-bone last all day especially when Dad tells her to not touch it. Come home at night and it is all soaked with dog drool but in tack. One clap of the hands and it is savoured. She does not have an angry bone in her body and loves everyone equally and will mark you royally when you arrive at the door. So welcome from Quigley because she cannot talk verbally but shows her love openly.

She is a teacher like many of our pets we have. We could learn so much about love from the animal world if we chose to pay attention. Especially dogs, they are so very faithful and are always willing to share themselves with us. Just think what kind of world we would have should we be the same.



I did this woodcarving back in 1993 as a commission for a couple who were getting married. The family asked if I could do something which signified the love they had. The design was compiled of what I see as their love for each other. Two hearts brought together and interlocked for life. Today that same couple have three children as a testimony of the commitment and love they have for each other.

Why hearts you may ask. "Why not." This family have grown to be good friends and Rhonda and I talk on a regular basis. Matter of fact she called yesterday to have a chat. She like many people across the world had questions of what happened in Connecticut. Distraught at what has taken place like the rest of the world wondering why?

We see natural disasters take place and yes we see man made disasters but what has happened is so far beyond any of our minds we cannot process the event. I have had this sick feeling ever since I first heard of it and it has not and will likely not go away. What could this Adam Lanza ever have been thinking when he turned on the young and the innocent. Like many who do such unspeakable things they turn the gun on themselves for fear of what may happen to them in the end. What a terrible way to live.

The media and the talking heads, give tags such as mentally challenged, quiet, loner, kept to himself. There is nothing that can be said to explain, rationalize or dissect what caused him to do this. We are all born with the knowledge of right from wrong. It is inherent in all of us, a given as a child/adult that is imprinted into our DNA no matter the illness, we just have it. We know what is right and we know what is wrong.

What a sad day when someone can cast wrong aside and do the unspeakable which has been done. To think of what these 20 young lives and teachers who attempted to stop this had faced in those final moments is something I struggle with. God bless each one of those little angels. To you the families should you read this I want you to know that you are dearly loved and cared for by this community. I wish I had the answers for you. There have been many prayers spoken over the children and you the parents and the community. Oh how you must be grieving.


To Us All

The dreams and hopes, the ambitions of each child lost in the blink of an eye. The first date, prom, career, marriage, future children all dashed by one act of selfishness to make a statement. So many lives lost and for what we will never understand.

I cannot help but think of the many parents this Monday morning and what they were thinking and feeling as they dropped their children off at school. The thoughts they faced all day until they picked them up. What about the children, what could be going through their minds as they attend their schools, a place of learning, a place where friendships are formed. A place of safety.

As much as we hate to think of it, we have entered into a world of anarchy, a world where anything can happen. Do we live in fear, in terror over what may happen. Do we allow the element we see all around us to control us. I think not but I do think we need to be ever aware of the dangers that lurk close at hand. There was a time when we could speak out, a time when we could intervene when we saw something which went against the grain of society. Today we are far more cautious and say nothing and remove ourselves rather than say anything at all. We have become fearful and is it any wonder when we see what people have become capable of.


We Can Make A Difference

This title is a bold statement... "We can Make a Difference." Think about it. Two people I have come to know and love have. Rhonda and her husband have after they were married. They stood on the principle that love survives and conquers all. I know that many do the same. Take a look around and you will see it.

When was the last time you picked up the phone and called someone you care about and simply said "I love you," for no reason what so ever just said those words. Maybe even expanded on the words and tell them why. In the blink of an eye it may be to late to do so. Maybe there is an indifference that has separated you from another. Rather than carry it for years say something. If need be accept the blame and get on with loving again.

Do the words "I love you," mean anything to you as the reader. If they do great, if not then as a reader I want you to stop and think about it. "I love you" is what I say this day. Yes you and I who have over looked these words far to often over the years. "I love you."The distance that separates us can be great or it can be short, no matter the words mean the same.

Think of the world we could have if we cared for each other. Many of you have become friends through email and phone calls. I have come to know you, the names of your children, your pets. Your likes and dislikes. I have seen the passing of loved ones and I have shared your grief, shared your pain and hopefully love has grown from what we have shared. Have I made mistakes, of course. Have I learned from them, certainly. Life is a continual process of learning.

Join with me today and take on the challenge of saying "I Love You" to those you care about. Show any and all people you care with a smile, a kind word or a gesture of compassion. Lets gather together and stop this madness. Lets stop the tears and anguish of missing those we have lost with cries of joy. Make a difference in your world. together we can change many lives.

If you leave here today take one thing with you and hold it near and dear. Know that I love you and care about all those in your lives.

© Rolly A. Chabot


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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Mary... Good to have you visit and you could not have put it better... Always say I love you no matter who but more so with those we love... they are special and we need to remember it...

      The Havanese are a wonderful breed and Quigley has been a real blessing... Merry Christmas from Canada (Hugs included) and know that I love you Mary...

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      We often take for granted the ones we is the time to tell them! As you said, pick up the phone and tell them. When you see them,, tell them. I make a habit of saying "I love you" before I hang up the phone, even if its ten times a never know when it'll be the last time.

      My daughter has two havanese and they each have their own personalities. Quigley is adorable!

      God Bless Rolly and have a Merry Christmas.

      Voted up, useful, and beautiful.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning again Gypsy... so good to find you here and Quigley is sending back a hug to Sid... and a little chase to perk things up.

      Glad to hear you are caught in the winter wonderland... I do not feel alone. Love you girl...

      Best to you and yours... several hugs attached.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. A wonderful message. This is terrific. Love is the only way to get this world together with lots of smiles in between. Sid sends lots of love to Quigley. Hugs and love to you from me in this winter wonderland. Passing this on.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Always... Thanks for the comment and yes we are all grieving. I cannot imagine what the families are feeling at this loss. Gun control, mental illness are important and I am sure they are being looked at. Even the National Gun Association, a powerful group in the US is starting to look at this right to bear arms.

      The Havanese is a Cuban breed, they are very similar to the Shih Tzo, non allergenic, never shed and of course filled with love. They are comparable in price but a bit more expensive from a reputable breeder. The breeder I bought from gave a written guarantee of all his pets. A few months after I had her her left foot started to twist outward. The growth plate stopped the growth of one bone and she now has one foot turned almost at outward angle.

      Take her back and trade her in... not on your life. To her she is very normal, to me well she is still Quigley.

      Hugs to you and yours

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      Ruby Jean Richert 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Hi Rolly, We all are feeling the loss of the beautiful children. One aspect hardly ever mentioned is mental illness. The young man so desperately needed help. There were signs. They were overlooked. Hopefully this will change along with the assault weapons. Quigley looks so sweet. I wish i had one just like him. I wrote down the brand, ( Havenese ) Are they an expensive brand? Thank you. Love your thoughts and chats..God Bless..

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Lifegate... same right back at you and your lovely wife... know that you are dearly loved... the best to you and yours and Quigley sends a lick...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Debbie... hugs back at you and the many as we take the journey through all of this senselessness we see happening. Have we become so hardened we will eventually not feel the pain of others. I certainly hope not.

      I love your compassion Debbie... you are special...

      Hugs from Canada

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      William Kovacic 5 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      What the world needs now is . . .well, you said it - love! Love truly makes a difference in the way this old world spins. Thanks for sharing this. May many people read it and . . love. I love you, Brother. Merry Christmas to you and yours, and of course Quigley.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Rolly hugs to you my friend. thanks for the warm fire and the snacks and the friendship. what a wonderful hub.. the little children that was murdered.. all of it so senseless so sad.. makes me so sad,, it is happening every where..tears seem useless.. but we got to cry to get it out..

      many blessings to you


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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Jackie... what a blessing to know that you are able to say those three words openly and freely.

      I often think of the wrongs I have done to people and or people have done to me and they are all related to how we perceive ourselves as often as not.

      Do I care to go through life knowing someone resents me, no of course not. Did this young man, I like to think not but once he started. I think it was cold and calculating. What a shame for those who suffer because of his desire to be known.

      Please know that you are love my friend.

      Hugs and Love from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Mark... you are so right. We do really need to try, even in the hard places we find ourselves. Pain and suffering will always be there. The key is how can we lesson it for ourselves and others. A sure way is through love, you have found it Brother...

      Hugs and Love from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi CriSp... Thank you for saying so... Quigley has a wiggle happening when I told her she was loved...

      I often think of people in the service industry and the abuse they face on a daily basis with irate customers. I have seen it many times. The young lady who is crushed by a customer because she is the first point of contact. I seen it happen just the other day aata large retailer. The man was mad and the young girl at the till took the brunt of his anger. When I stepped in he turned on me. Like I have anything to do with his drill that malfunctioned. The abuse continued until he was escorted from the property by the manager and two of his employees. What a shame the man refused to see the results of his anger. Life is far to short. All I could do was tell the young lady we appreciated her professional attitude. Well that and a hug as I was leaving...

      Hugs and Love to you... know that you are appreciated

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      Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I have never been afraid to say I love you and I am so glad, I cannot imagine not being able to. We do live in fear though and it seems to be worsening every day just watching the headlines, I think nothing would really shock us anymore. Especially after this shooter being so heartless. Surely his family had a clue.

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi craiglyn ... hub hugs right back at you and please know that you are loved and respected for what you say. You are treasure. After reading your book and coming to the understanding of what you experienced with the loss of your hubby it is special knowing you had the time to say goodbye.

      I do hope all of these Angels passed knowing they were loved. Pain and suffering will be with us all until the time of our passing, thus the importance of making sure each and every person understands we care and love them unconditionally.

      Hugs and Love from Alberta

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Pam... you make an impact each time you stop at the Fireside and say hello. Your comments are always filled with love and respect and I thank you for that.

      Can we live without forgiving. Yes we can but why would we choose to do so. Separation comes in many forms, family, friends and acquaintances. The life without the freedom of loving or knowing we are loved leaves a void so deep and unfulfilling. I chose to live that way for years and refuse to go back there again. I choose to live. That one phone call or meeting with another to sort through indifferences can mean the difference between life or dying a slow death. I chose life... thank you for affirming that for me...

      Love you Miss Pam

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi RC... you have nailed it right on the mark by saying the grey area has been exploited. Canada and the US share many of the same values. You know Human Rights and all and yet what happens when Moral rights are crossed and tossed aside like yesterdays news.

      I often think back as a child when meal time was a time when we all came together and shared our days. They are gone today, I read a report recently that stated only two meals a week were shared as a family unit.

      I have never been one to force my Christian morals and values on people and not about to do so now. All I ask is for people to take a moment and think back to a time when Prayer was removed from school and look at where we see crime today. All has been sacrificed for a few people who may find it offensive. Maybe it is time to change...

      Hugs and Love from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 5 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Billy ... count on it coming right back at you as we all search deep within and hopefully find some peace through all of this...

      Hugs to you and Bev... love attached.

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Rolly, I have no other word but love to you and Quigley.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      A beautiful letter Rolly, Yes I have said prayers and felt the pain of this event. I have wondered how anyone could do such a thing. I have written a couple articles and a blog post, but you are right, the most important thing any of us can do is love one another as Jesus taught long ago. I think many people give up trying to do the right thing because the don't understand that if they take the right road, it does not matter if they reach the destination. What matters is that they tried.

      Love you bro, Mark

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      Lynda 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      What a beautiful hub Rolly. Quigley is absolutely adorable and I can certainly see why you love him and I know he loves you. You are so right, we have to learn to say "I love you" now, when it matters. We never know what is around the corner and what kind of regrets we might have. It is a horrible thing that happened in these last few days, and there will be and are many debates about why, and how can it be changed; and many of us will not agree and what to do to change this kind of horror!! That's what makes us all so different. But even though we are different, there cannot be a one of us who does not cry inwardly for these little children. Hubhugs to you Rolly.

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      Pamela Oglesby 5 years ago from United States

      I think this is a wonderful call to all of us to make those calls. In the time of the horrible tragedy in CT, it makes you think of those you care about. We certainly have no way to know how long anyone has on this earth, so I would encourage everyone to make that call today. I have just experience the third death of a friend in the past 2 months, so I guess your hub made a big impact on the emotions I am feeling.

      You are surely one of the special people on Hubpages. I have come to care about you, your family and that includes Quigley. Love from Fl to you all.

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      Rich 5 years ago from Kentucky

      Rolly - This is indeed a beautiful message and one that should be followed through by all. I do feel as though the lines between right and wrong have been blurred. Lawyers, politicians, business CEO's have all used the legal system to challenge the gray areas and widen them, reducing the true definitions of right and wrong. The political correctness attitude doesn't concern itself over right and wrong, only the selfish demands of a few. Many parents don't look for the time to spend with their children discussing right and wrong, and find it easier to let the television, video games, and computer time teach them. In providing love, we must include the basic teachings so that the lines are constantly reinforced. Morality is constantly challenged at every corner. If it's not taught in the home, and religion is also cast aside, where can the young find it? Good post, my friend!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      A powerful message my friend, and one I live my life by. Sending love your way from Olympia.