OLDER WOMEN - Younger Men
I Finally Get it....
We all see it in the news. It is not just about older men dating women much younger any longer. Madonna, Jennifer Lopez, Tina Turner and various other women in the spotlight are dating men who are much younger then they are.
At first I used to look at them with disgust. After all I'm a mother with two young children and the thought of dating someone only 10 years older then my son gives me the "yuck feeling." I mean really, what can someone so much younger do to keep an older woman interested? Especially a very high profile or famous older woman who is intelligent? Well one thing for sure, they are definitely braver in many ways. They look really good also and if these women who are very driven move at lightning speed, they definitely need someone to keep up with them. I get it, I really do. I finally see why they do it. Also there is not much of a financial load that is until they have to pay them out later when they leave them for a younger woman. I guess they can just say they are renting them for a few years until they move on. I know, I'm being silly but we all know how relationships in Hollywood turn out in the end. No one stays with anyone for good because most of them live in fantasy land when they meet their new love. The only way is to get out of the business and move away from it all or atleast keep your personal life private and away from work. That is the only way.
Older Men Have Wounds..
By the time men get into their mid-40's and 50's, they have been through many life battles. Divorce and breakups, the economy and job loss, addiction, children and issues from a bad marriage, toxic relations with past loves. You name it and most men by the time they reach their mid to late 40's have been taken on the roller coaster of life. Doubt, insecurity about aging, hormone issues, financial worries all take their toll in one form or another. If they are struggling financially they have nothing to offer and if they have other issues as well then they feel like nothing in society. This is what most of them think. Infact a lot of older men date younger women because they know that they will still look more attractive to someone who is just trying to get started in life then an older woman who has lived and learned and also lost. They see you coming from a mile away. A lot of women in this position do not want to take care of yet another man who has still not grown up unless they are in their 20's and they can make it up in many ways. Get your mind out of the gutter! ha
The one thing men in their 40's never think about is that they will be experiencing changes in their body also and by the time they get into their 50's there are other challenges also. I don't think most men in their 40's really understand the aging process and why it is not a great idea to commit to a younger woman. There is a lot to keep up with in all areas of life. Social status, sexual appetite and whatever else comes into play. When it comes to stimulating an older man's intellect, younger women fail in a big way. Ofcourse we all know the benefits of dating a much younger woman, but let's see how long that lasts? It would have to be a very solid and great relationship to go forward for the long haul. There are always exceptions to the rules and most of the time when there is it is because they are really great people and truly love each other.
But if you are a guy who just likes to chill and lead a calmer life, it would be best to be with a woman who is closer in age. This way you both are on the same playing field. It is just a healthier decision if you want a long and committed relationship.
Better To Be With Someone Close In Age
However you look at it with a few years on either side, it is better to be with someone closer to your own age. I mean do you really want to explain who Frank Sinatra is to a "20" something? It is nice to know similar bands, world events that you both ventured through. Ok, maybe the person isn't perfect and ultra successful but there are many things that are more important. Like being friends and understanding each others needs and desires.
I'm very traditional in a way and the idea of a "20" something in my home taking my son to basketball games really makes me feel a bit strange. I mean I could have gone there but intellectually younger men can't cut it and they never have. They are never enough for me and I have never thought of men or my relationships as "toys" to do whatever I want with. I'm not a control freak either so it's not like I need to feel like a Queen in my home. I do love to be treated well but a good piece of poetry and flowers on any day of the week makes me very happy. Knowing that I'm important and loved is what counts. Love to me is not a fantasy, it is old fashioned commitment. Holding hands and sharing life while you are walking the same pace. Having dreams and similar hearts and caring about the person you love beats all of the rest of it.
Older men need to think of themselves like fine wine instead of yesterday's leftovers and be brave enough to go get what they want. After all if you run away from love, it just will never happen. Take a chance. No one makes you feel small except for yourself.
Passion and love works wonders.
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