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Maintaining the Self

Updated on November 6, 2013
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Maintaining the Self

By Tony DeLorger © 2013

Inhibited by the crass mutterings of judgement,

I walk my path with abject hesitancy,

under the weight of how I believe I am perceived,

to absolutely no advantage.

I render myself helpless by my shortsightedness,

elevating those who seek to judge without understanding,

in control of my life, my path,

and for this I am misguided to a great degree.

The only perspective that gives us value is our own,

and if someone else should support it, validation is gained,

yet validation is a meaningless value if not believed by the self,

and we, simply a respondent rather than the core of value.

Self belief is not just a recognition of consciousness,

but the fundamental framework of a life,

the supports that hold consciousness and strength together,

able to withstand the forces and challenges of being.

Without having placed value on ourselves we are vulnerable,

open to all manner of judgement, belittling, abuse and oppression,

because there is no strength with which to fight back,

no means by which to overcome any form of adversity.

Learning to love oneself is probably the most important aspect of life,

giving the self credence to deal with life face on,

and being able to give as well as take in a balanced life,

one where recognition and appreciation of self is paramount.

Without value the self is starved of energy,

and shrivels, receding inward away from what nurtures us,

love, sharing, compassion and empathy become internalised,

not expressed outwardly and experienced to give the self place.

The answers to all problems are internal,

what we find and accept in our hearts,

and kindness to oneself is the beginning of healing,

the beginning of finding the beauty and promise within ourselves.

When the self is nurtured and becomes strong, the world believes it,

and responds appropriately.

Being kind to yourself is the beginning of being able to be kind to others.


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    • Tony DeLorger profile imageAUTHOR

      Tony DeLorger 

      5 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

      Glad you enjoyed it Kim. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

    • ocfireflies profile image


      5 years ago from North Carolina

      Lovely poem with a powerful message presented with just the right tone, just the right flow. V+++




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