Inside a broken heart
1. Am i set for marriage?
2. What is the foundation of marriage?
3. Should i give my all to my spouse?
Mike and Tessy works in the same company and their romance was not a secret one, they were really out for each other,always together and does things together, believe me, theirs was hotter than hot and i admire them.
Mike came to me that early morning, it was actually four days to their wedding,although i was not expecting him but what are friends for? 4am is not a bad time for a friend to call on a friend, we sat down and he began with this...
-Rossi, men, i don't think that i am ready for this thing, you see, i wanted to back off but i know that it will hurt Tessy, her dream is to get married and start up a family, i love her as much as i love myself but honestly, i am not ready for marriage, not now. What should i do? I know that you can help me so what is the best thing to do?
-I know that whatever it is that brought you this early must be very serious, it is said that where a child points while crying might be either where the dad or mom is so Mike, why do you feel that you are not yet ready for marriage?
Mike's explanation will take all the space here but to give you guys an idea, he went on to explain that it was Tessy's idea for them to tie the knot and that she was even the one sponsoring their twenty thousand dollars wedding, "she is paying for everything" he said.
-No Mike, no! no! this is not what marriage is about, the foundation of marriage is the willingness of all parties to be completely ready to settle down, marriage is about settling down with a soul mate, someone to spend the rest of your life with, marriage creates what we all need in another; PARTNER. This is why once you tie the knot, you both become the foundation of each other, the strength that gives the other courage in time of weakness or set back, what i know is that a loving marriage provides one with support and motivation needed to pursue your life's goals, it is a safe home when the world gets too tough, nothing tells you more about yourself than your marriage so you must know exactly what you want.
- I love Tessy and would be happy to be the Father of her future kids, to have her as my wife but not now, i don't know how to call this whole thing off, believe me; i am confused, i feel like running away
- No, you don't have to run away, it is not too late now, the wedding comes up in four days so you can still call it off, what if one of you die tomorrow,will the wedding still hold?
-Then consider her dead and call it off.
-Will it work, how will she see me after this disappointment, do you think that she will understand and even forgive me for calling off her dream wedding?
-But you are not ready for it, by the way, is it just about her or both of you? How do you feel either, look mr man, you will never be happy with her so the earlier the better.
Mike left after five hours and i saw it in him when he was leaving, it was all over him, worried, unhappy, confused and dejected. Honestly, i knew what he will do, he would go to Tessy and make her understand. Anyway, i was wrong because the wedding actually went on, it was the wedding of the month,celebrities from all works of life, government personals, family members and friends cheered the couple and i was there.
-My Mother of course, i will save my mother and not my wife
He got a slap from Tessy in front of everyone that night. Anyway the wedding went smooth the next day then sometime around 11pm cos i left around 8pm and i was among the last guest's that left, Mike called me and told me that he was coming to spend the night at my place.
- Why i asked
- You see Rossi, there was a big fight when you guys left, she even broke a bottle of coke on my head, i am bleeding as i am talking to you.
- Wait for me there i am coming
-No, i might be dead before you arrive,i am on my way
He got to my house and the first thing was to dress his head injury before anything else, he later began to tell me what happened.
- You see, i told her that we will have our honeymoon in South Africa but she insisted that we travel to Singapore and when i refused, she said that she knew that i will disappoint her, that i showed the world on the bachelor's night that what i share with her is platoon and not real, tell me Rossi, how wouldn't i save my mother in such situation, leave my mother to drown so to save a woman? Not me, there is only one mother and my mother did so much for me so there is no way i will save another, be it one body or one soul.
We talked at length and believe me, that was it, he made up his mind that he will not go back to their house and he did not. The next week began a heated divorce process which left me wondering what these duos did the whole five years they courted. Does it mean that they were not truly in love? What does love mean to them? And finally when they tied the knot, they broke it after few hours?
Marriage is not just getting married or settling down. Marriage is a total commitment, one which requires total submission, total affection and above all things understanding, one has to give everything and be ready to sacrifice anything for his or her soul mate.
Flashback to that Bachelor's night
The MC asked Mike, Hey! you are trapped in a deadly storm on the high sea and on board the boat are your wife and mother, you are the only one who could swim and you have only two life jackets on board, the boat capsized as you grab the two life jackets, you wore one and needed to save either you mother or wife, in this situation, you can only save one of them, who would you save?
Mike was honest; "my mother without a second thought". He said
Mike's favorite quote:
"I don't know if i can ever trust a woman again or even attempt getting married"
I have told you about Mike and Tessy but i will not leave you without this piece of advise, believe me whether you are married for 6days or 60years, the only thing to sustain your marriage is making your spouse your first and foremost priority, it is true that Mike and Tessy brought out the worst in each other but you cannot be them. I wish all of you that are married reading this today, the best of all and for those of you who are about to, open your eyes very very well.