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Don't Worry, Be Happy Can Be Your Motto If You Follow My Advice In This Story
You see them everywhere. Around town, on college campuses, shopping and sometimes in church. Who are they? The happy people. People with that always-positive word on their lips, a smile welded on their faces, and always moving at the speed of light. These always-happy, and cheerful people are kind to all living things--flowers, trees, rodents, people they know, strangers, and cuddly little puppies who have met with an accident in the highway near their homes. Always happy people are a modern-day phenomenon to me. They defy description and category. I just label them as living, walking, talking, mysteries.
I personally, have tried every known method of duplicating these people and their lifestyles, but I have found the cold face of reality staring at me--telling me that, for me, this is an impossible feat. I have to agree. True happiness comes from somewhere and I haven’t found that in Mother Earth for now over 30 years. And I am very weary of searching.
Let’s talk about happy people, being happy, and happiness. And as for the number of always-happy people, there as many various definitions of what each happy person considers what being happy consists of and what happiness really means to them. And honestly, I don’t have the time or creativity to write ALL the different versions of happiness and too, I am convinced that the HubPages editors would not allow me an endless amount of story space to cover all the meanings and effects of happy and happiness.
It is not illegal--state, county or federal, to be happy. It’s not a crime to smile at a state trooper or a member of our Armed Forces, Customs Department employees, or doctors. Now be careful if you are an always-happy person who smiles at blank walls, if you should smile at a Customs Department employee while they are checking your bags for counter ban, this might trigger suspicion from them and you might be questioned by federal marshals and Homeland Security agents who whisk you away to a secret room in the Customs building. Just wanting you to be prepared.
Smiling at neighbors is fine. Smiling at your postman, or post-person, (if they are female) is perfectly acceptable. You can even stand in front of any mirror of your house and smile to yourself. I don’t prefer doing this because my wife already thinks that I have a mental deficiency and stand in need of professional help, so I don’t smile at myself. Much. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.
Pertaining to the always-happy people who come from all races, creeds, colors, ethnic origins, school backgrounds and college football affiliations, I have arrived at one concrete conclusion: Some always-happy people (with smiles) are just happy for no reason. Now to an educated man like myself, this doesn’t make a lick of sense. Happiness, I was taught in school, is the end-result of a stimulus, or something that causes one to be happy. A reason, if will. Follow my thinking? A new car automatically and always makes people happy--even if their wife or husband has left them, or they have lost the best job they ever had, a saucy redhead who they were dating has just broken up with them, the new car is like magic from a fairy’s wand. It can make anyone happy enough to jump up and down with overflowing joy. And if the new car is a gift from some secret donor, then the once-sad and dejected person is all the more joyous and can be heard cheering for three city blocks. See? There has to be a reason for people to be as happy as these always-happy people, who, if they answered the door at 2:30 a.m., after an 18-hour workday, they would have that bright, wide smile showing like a new Ray-O-Vac flashlight and they would be as happy as a lark that you woke them up from a naturally happy sleep with always-happy dreams.
I recall one time, years ago, asking one of these always-happy people why they were always happy. Know what they said? “Oh, well, (laughs), I am, (laughs), just that way---happy! No reason!” I stood in the middle of that CVS Pharmacy for about twenty-minutes in shock and awe. (not to be confused with the Iraqi War Campaign by the same name dubbed by then-President George W. Bush). I literally felt the life run out of me as that always-happy person bounced up to the cashier, smiled at her, laughed as she handed her a credit card, turned down help to get her several bags of goods to her car, and laughed as she waved ‘bye’ to the amazed CVS Pharmacy employees. After she floated to her car, I did detect several muffled whispers of, “Ever seen someone like that?” coming from the young girls and guys who were working at that CVS Pharmacy.
I told my wife about it, and by the way, (my wife is an always-happy, upbeat and positive person too), and she just laughed and replied, “Why are you so upset at seeing someone who is happy for no reason?” I just kept my mouth shut and looked out of the window all the way home. That was, without a doubt, the wisest thing I had accomplished. That day. But this didn’t make me happy and all-smiles.
It’s similar to being a pet hamster named, “Harold,” kept in an aluminum cage with one of those made-just-for-hamsters, treadmill that I’m on--running, trying to find the answer to what makes the special species of people, the always-happy (for no reason) happy. If I ever find the answer, I promise to write to the New England Medical Journal with my paper, or theme, as to the wonderful discovery I have found. I just might be a famous person who isn’t a doctor. Speaking of doctors, there are some always-happy doctors. Surgeons, too. Especially those who pull down at least $600.00 a hour for minor surgeries. I would be always-happy too, if that were my payday.
And if you have read any of my latest stories, you know at this point I am going to share with you some (more) priceless items of wisdom that, if used by you, a fellow person who questions why are the always-happy people happy, then you might share in this rapture-like happiness that I have seen on the faces of numerous always-happy people. And if you do try these pieces of wisdom, you may write me an email at:
firstname.lastname@example.org and share with me, what tidbits of wisdom that you used and how it worked for you. Deal?
The super-famous and talented Samuel Clemens, or Mark “Tom Sawyer” Twain, was noted for his witty sayings that rivaled that of famous American commentator, Will Rogers. Twain had a saying that said, “Always do right. Regardless. By doing right, you will amaze some and shock some,” and he was absolutely right. Bravo, Twain and all of your descendants.
So with that being the foundation, I give you, FREE, my personal supply of life wisdom that will hopefully make you one of the always-happy people.
DO THE UNPREDICTABLE - things when you are in public. And I mean the right things. Do not shuck off your clothes and go running down the sidewalk yelling, “I’m a hot rod!” This WILL get your name in the Arrest Column in the local paper, but will not make you always-happy. For example, and I have tried this, when grocery shopping, and you run upon a lowly-paid stock boy who is working his brains out, just stop and say, “Nice work you are doing there,” you cannot humanly-fathom just how much these few words can help that stock boy. And I can testify that every time I have done this one thing, something goes off (like a skyrocket) in my soul making me happy and proud to be a member of the human race.
WHEN YOU FIND AN ITEM - that belongs to someone else, such as a wallet, do NOT accept a reward if offered. This is one of the most-gratifying gestures a person can make. I have done this one too. My granddaughter, Alexis and I were going to my car in the Wal-Mart parking lot and spotted a shopping cart with someone’s purse perched on top of it. Alexis and I were just talking about how Jesus (according to the Bible), ‘went around doing good,’ so we returned the purse to the service desk manager who later told me that the purse belonged to one of Alexis’ elementary school teachers. And we both felt like a million dollars for doing the unexpected thing.
WHEN ORDERING FOOD FROM A DRIVE-THRU - and it’s not holding up traffic behind you, look on the ground underneath the service window and surely you will find some pennies, nickels, and maybe other coins. Instead of keeping them, give them all to the restaurant employee who will definitely say, “keep those,” but you refuse to do that. Just give the change back to the employee for a feeling comparable to opening your favorite gift at Christmas.
ACKNOWLEGE - waiters, waitresses and cooks at the restaurant where you dine out. Many diners do not even say a ‘thank you’ or even tip when they leave the restaurant, so for you, be the exception to the rule. Voice to their boss just how good they were to you and your family. This will make the employee’s day and possibly help the manager to keep them employed.
USE COURTESY - like you drink water--all the time. I don’t care if it’s allowing someone to go ahead of you at the check-out line, or opening the door for someone who has a lot of packages to carry (this is great to do at Christmas time), it always pays to be courteous. And someone just might be watching you and your thoughtful gesture and start their own campaign of courtesy. It’s infectious. Talking about nice deeds.
DO NOT ASK ‘WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME?’ - before you do something for someone else to make you happy. If that is your sole reason for doing good to someone, just don’t do it. The world has enough greedy and self-absorbed people to go around. Many times, to be honest, you will NOT even get a ‘thank you,’ for your kindness, but I have learned to not care about what I receive, but what small nice gestures I can do for some unsuspecting stranger. And it continues to make me happy.
CHILDREN AND ELDERLY PEOPLE - are the two main groups of people that it pays to be nice to. Honest. I cannot explain any of my tidbits of wisdom, but this one really gets me in the soul. When I smile or compliment a child to their mom or dad, it always makes my day. And the same for elderly people. Some elderly people this day and time are so neglected and forgotten that they look shocked at someone being nice to them. Try this one. You will be far ahead of the greedy and self-absorbed people. I promise you.
SHAKE THE HANDS OF - a policeman, teacher, or member of our nation’s military. And if you opt to, say a “thanks for all that you do,” and that, my friend, will make them feel so good. And will lift your own spirit up as well. People in this line of work, and others like plumbers, roofers, nurses aides, assistants in the office or anyone with a job who is taken for granted by US, will appreciate you for doing what others need to, but won’t because they are too afraid of someone talking about them and calling them ‘crazy’ or ‘foolish.’ Call me ‘crazy,’ even ‘foolish,’ I could care less. I am addicted to doing the unusual things for other people.
BE OF HELP - at your local restaurant if they will allow it. One of my most-favorite people in the world at our local Huddle House in Hamilton, Alabama, is a petite girl named Natina. She works so hard and she is a single-mom on top of her working. One evening after I had dined, she joked with me that I could help her by bringing my silverware and dishes to the counter and help her sort them before placing them in the dishwasher. There were plenty of people in the restaurant, but I thought, “what would it hurt?”, jumped up and did as Natina asked. She looked amazed, but I felt good at helping her just a small amount. Since that time, I continue to clear my own table. It makes my night. Honest.
CALL A FRIEND AT RANDOM - sometime during your week and just tell them that the only reason you are calling is to tell them “how much you appreciate their friendship,” and say a few more words and go about your business. You can do this with area merchants too. In 2011, there are plenty of people with loads of complaints, but very few with something nice to say. Be one of the few who say nice things to people. I give you my word that you will feel much better when you lay down to sleep that night.
SEND AN ANONYMOUS GIFT - such as pretty flowers to someone who is sick. You don’t actually need a card with your name on it do you? I think that this one is the most fun to do. And the amount the flowers or gift costs is not the point. The point is that YOU took time to think of someone else. And someone else may be happy that you did this . . .Our Heavenly Father. Yes, I said Heavenly Father. If you are a supporter of the ACLU and are offended by my Heavenly Father reference, I cannot apologize to you. He would be highly-hurt at my lack of backbone.
BE A DOER, NOT JUST A TALKER - in life. My late father-in-law, Orville Winsett, was one of these people, and yes, he was an always-happy man. And if you ever needed something done for someone or yourself, you need not mention it to Orville, for he would move Heaven and earth to get the need met and mostly at his own expense. He passed from us in 1988 a very happy man.
USE FACEBOOK - not just for talking about YOU, but post that you would be proud to just listen to anyone if they want to talk to you about their problems. Listening is a rare commodity in 2011. I suggest that you try this one. I am always posting or emailing friends that I am here for them if they want to talk. To just take time to listen to anyone today is a rare and unusual thing for someone to do for someone else. Keep that in mind as you do the unusual things to make you happy.
DO NOT PUT A TRUMPET - to yourself as you do the unusual good deeds and acts for people. That defeats the purpose. And personally, if I do put trumpet to my mouth to announce to the world that I am about to do a kind act for someone, I would feel very ashamed and small. I love to feel fulfilled and obscure from all the spotlights. Honest. That is how I truly feel.
I am dedicating the remainder of this story to a dear friend of mine from the year of 1972, the one and only, Jimmy Hopkins, who owned a local EXXON station in my neighborhood. Hopkins, the first time I met him, impressed me as being an unusual guy and a guy who had a selfless spirit.
That observation was confirmed one day as I was admiring his two-tone, 1970 Camaro. Jimmy had made a tag with his own hands to put on the front of this beautiful machine that I would have given my new shoes to drive for it was a true “chick magnet,’ of that day and time. The tag had an unusual saying on it. Jimmy said that he had written the wording himself. And that made sense.
The wording on the tag read . . .”Be different. There are enough carbon copies in the world the way it is.”
Couldn't agree more, Jimmy.
Couldn't have said it better.
But I tried with this story.