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NO LONGER LIVING IN THE PAST

Updated on July 10, 2011

Death is nothing at all, I have only slipped into the next room, I am I and You are You. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference in your tone, Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word it always was, Life means all that it is ever meant. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? When Jesus returns we will meet in the judgment, So until then remember that.......All Is Well In Christ. ~ Henry Scott Holland

Many people find it easier to live in the past rather than live in the Now. What's done is done and what will be will be........

Collecting scattered memories from the past has left many filled with anger, frustration, bitterness and overblown fears for the future. They try to wrap up their lifetime and carry it around with them wherever they go. Although they live in today, their yesterdays haunt them. They are obsessed with the things that happened yesterday, last week or even three years ago. Worse yet many spend their waking hours thinking of the people who have left them behind because of their childish ways. For them it's a downward, destructive spiral which removes them from the realities around them. They find it difficult to adjust to people and situations as they are instead of always trying unsuccessfully and with endless frustration to bend them to their own desires. They lack perspective.

I speak from experience. I was once this morbid soul until I found Jesus Christ. I no longer live in the past nor do I let the past haunt me. Although, I am bothered by some things from my past, I am aware I cannot do anything about them. I have moved on. For the all the wrongs, I have done, I have apologized. Many have forgiven and a few which have not. I am at peace with this and have moved on. It no longer matters if I am forgiven. Much like charity forgiveness begins at home. Forgiveness can slip upon you before you realize it. It comes with time, rationalization and deep changes within you. I was inspired to write about this from an vision of my life past and present. At the time, I was not aware how deeply my change had come; but, God knew he was about to test me. The night I began writing this my estranged father died. I held bitterness for him because I felt he cheated me as an child. In all my 47 years I can count the times I have spent with my father on one hand.


I gave up on him and my step-father adopted me. I often thought of my father over the years and I wanted to see him; but was too stubborn to do so and so was he. I am my father's daughter. Regardless of our estranged relationship, I considered my father a good man and I respected him. When he passed my mother found it hard to tell me and once she did, I was immediately reverted back to an child. The time I so foolishly thought I would have to tell him how much I loved him would never be.This week has been hard; but, I am getting through it. My reaction to his death and most of all my attendance with two of my children at his funeral let me know that I had forgiven him a long time ago. I take solace in knowing for him All Is Well:

Death is nothing at all. He has only slipped into the next room. He is he and I am I. We were father and daughter. In death it remains the same. God called him Home. But he remains in my heart. I will speak to him more often now, with no difference in my tone. I will cry not from sorrow but lost tomorrows of physically having him here. Remembering him does make me laugh because of the times we shared were filled with laughter. I know he's no longer suffering in this life and this alone gives me peace. I will not be selfish wanting to hold him with me. Simply because he is out of my sight will not mean he is out of my mind. When he lived I thought of him often, I refuse to let his memory die or be replaced by memories of him laying in a coffin. All is well for him because now he is with Christ. Living with his memory I will suffice. ~Inspired by Henry Scott Holland (All Is Well)

Death is an transition in life we all must make. Be hard pressed in your diligence to let someone know you love them. Remove every physical barrier and let the embrace of your lost loved one remove the mental ones. Words left unspoken will never have the value of those released to the ears of the one in which needs to hear. As long as you hold grudges you will live in the past and you will not truly live in the future. Many of us get past our hurt sooner than we allow the supposive offenders know because we ourselves are offenders and fear the possible rejection from those we have offended. They are in the same position. Be the bigger person ask for forgiveness because whether you realize it or not. You are forgiven the moment you ask whether they say so or not. The shackles that held both of your emotions are now gone. You both will now be free to heal and move on with or without each other. I asked for my father's forgiveness and although he laid in his casket, I know his spirit heard me. I set him and myself free. I refuse to hold him back with my tears of guilt or animosity. If your Father in heaven can forgive you then you can forgive someone else. Be about your Father's business and forgive.

God Bless

~Paedams

Copyright 2011. All rights reserved to Paedams.




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    • SweetMocha-Monroe profile imageAUTHOR

      SweetMocha-Monroe 

      7 years ago

      I needed it as well Cameron. Find peace because we are going to be okay. The tears will come....let them fall because we are just clearing the toxicity of the negativity these type of relationships can bring. God Bless.

    • Cameron D. Briggs profile image

      Cameron D. Briggs 

      7 years ago

      Yup I needed that...I appreciate this more than you know

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