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PRECIOUS LIFE - How You Measure Things

Updated on August 21, 2012

There have been times that everyone knows.....

I'm sure there have been times that you notice that "life" is passing you by. It may happen in one of those "A HA" moments or it may just happen when something really "scary" happens. One never knows when this sort of thing may surprise us. Life is full of all sorts of experiences and sometimes they are not "happy one's."

I remember after my father died over ten years ago, I felt a bit of relief since my first born was arriving in about ten days. I had lived in fear most of my childhood after my mother's early death when I was eight years old. How long will my dad live for? I always worried about him since he was sixty years old when I was born. Will I be left alone or sent to live with family members I didn't like? Would my younger sister and I end up living away from each other? All sorts of scary thoughts would enter my mind because I was really creative and imagined the most outrageous scenarios. When one has a creative mind it is easy to create "over the top situations" in every day life. I could tell the most amazing stories since I was very young.

I asked a close friend of mine to please pray with her prayer circle and help my father go to heaven before my son was born. After all I was so afraid of having to go through so much pain and "loss" during the birth of my first child. What will I do? Will I have to go to one floor where my father is and then come back to the baby? I kept thinking of both my father and myself in the same hospital gown with all sorts of medical cords and wires.....Will I only have a few days to adjust to motherhood before I have to take my newborn with me to see my father? It was so very stressful that I would cry myself to sleep every night. When he finally died, I felt a sort of guilt for asking God to take him but at that point I did not want to take anything away from one of the happiest moments of my life. The birth of my son and my new life as a mother. After all I had worked too hard to get here and after fighting my fears for so long after my mother died young, I just could not bare to know that this special moment had to be also very sad. It turned out that even though my father died before my son was born, I could still be there for my baby more then I would have if my father was in intensive care at the same time. My heart was torn but I had to choose "life."

And this was one of those times that I realized that sometimes the good comes with the bad or sadness and there is nothing we can do about it. Many times I have heard people say "with a new birth, brings death" and the cycle continues. I thought about how my mother lost her father (my grandfather) three months before I was born and how my sister was pregnant with her second child when my dear grandmother passed away. And then me pregnant with my son when my father passed.....The cycle of life continues......


There are often times that I post positive sayings on a social site that makes people think about what the real "priorities" in life are. I feel that sometimes even the best of us can get "taken off the path" and compare ourselves to other's or not live a true and honest life. After all we are now getting older and heading towards mid-life. Does it really matter what you have when all that is really important is the one's that you love?

After all many very smart people have said...."you can't take it with you." I make it a point every day to reach out to someone I may or may not know. Even if it takes a bit of time to write or post something to lift someone's spirits. The point is that "life is precious." Do not forget to smell the roses and whatever you do, don't hold a grudge to the point that it hurts you deep inside. Because when you "forgive" the heavens open up and it is as if you are sending a really cool wind out to the universe and making things better for someone......

And when that one time comes when you are right at a point where you are questioning "life and/or death" or something really horrible happens, you will never be the same because it will change you deep inside. Trust me, when you lose a parent so young like I did you never really get surprised again because the shock is so intense that you realize that life is not always a bowl of cherries as soon as they are gone. Then you forever question things no matter how big your heart is.....You sometimes wonder......With LOVE comes HATE?, with BIRTH comes DEATH?, with MORE comes LESS?......and it just keeps going......I guess the scale of life always gets heavier on one side at different times......

Just remember the "precious things" because those times come and go with the seasons. Children change and grow so fast. People grow older and new people come into our lives sometimes when our loved one's leave us.

Remember that one moment that you realize things could have gone terribly bad but for some reason a "higher power" or someone who really loved you is there watching over you. Because LOVE has no boundaries and all it does is make things better as long as you keep loving.......

Trust me........

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Hub Pages Author - GPAGE

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      GPAGE 5 years ago from California

      Thank you IntroduceCroatia! So nice of you to stop by and comment. Best, GPAGE

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      Ante Rajic 5 years ago from Croatia

      Great article, very emotional :-)

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      GPAGE 5 years ago from California

      Thanx Maleeha! so nice of you to stop by and leave such a lovely comment! Best, GPAGE

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      GPAGE 5 years ago from California

      old albion....thank you so much for stopping by and leaving such a lovely comment....I appreciate it! Best, GPAGE

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      LordPikachu 5 years ago

      I just started blogging here and have been, as they call it when you act in the manner where your read but don't comment, a lurker. Well, now I'm tryna change my ways and become a contributing member to this community. What I have for you is, your posts brighten my day. thanks alot and keep sharing the sunshine.

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      Graham Lee 5 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi GPAGE. An absolutely delightful hub, all so true. I'm 68 now and it made me reflect on life's journey and yes, a tear to the eye. Insightful and beautifully paced and written.

      Voted up and all.


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      GPAGE 5 years ago from California

      Hey Ausseye...It is nice to have you here but as I can see I wrote about something that is really close to you. I'm so sorry for your loss and I know after time has passed it gets better but some memories remain. The pain is still there deep inside and I know this feeling too well. I feel honored that you are addicted to my hubs.....I don't have much time to comment on others these days......motherhood and various careers take up all my time. I'm lucky if I can sit down and read a good book now. I just ordered a few and I am looking forward to reading them all! I love your line "kiss the world and make it better for as many as you can." You are is definitely a matter worth living for ; I hope you do not disappear for long, but I understand if you need to take a hub vacation....sending you positive thoughts......G

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      Ausseye 5 years ago

      Hi G: Took a while to absorb the message you were sending as it must have affected me more than I noticed. Yep pain and joy are very human gladiators, as I remember our first child and the one that didn’t make it. Twins and one died just before deliver, Nick was his name. The joy the pain was something I think his sister bore as we travel our experience. One beautiful life gained one lost, a moment of incredible time, too right we should appreciate our moments. Kiss the world and make it better for as many as you can, it’s a matter worth living for. Power to the caring and adventurous. Daeye for good. Might need to stop reading your hubs as its been a bit addictive.

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      GPAGE 5 years ago from California

      Thanx Sylvia! Someone really close to me was in a "life or death" situation recently and after talking him through it......I was inspired to write this.....G

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      Sylvia Van Velzer 5 years ago from Hawaii

      Very profound, touching.