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How the Changing Role of Parenting Has Impacted Our Society

Updated on October 22, 2018
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I grew up in an era, where the relationship between adult and child were clearly defined! Values were important and authority was respected!

Roles of Parenting

Some might question how or why I am an authority to speak, on what is such a sensitive area of discussion! In this particular case study, experience and history will have to be the measuring stick to what we deem to be acceptable or unacceptable. As a young child growing up in the late 60's, the line was always drawn, and clearly defined as it related to the parent-child roles. This brings me to my first case in point… How can a parent raise a child when there is no respect for their position/authority? Here again is where experience and history serve as the beacon of light. As a parent, I know what it's like to be a child and hopefully, I have gained those tools and experience, necessary to guide and teach disciplines needed to become a productive part of society.

Over each passing generation, we as a nation have become less concerned about integrity, morals and proper etiquette. It appears that power and winning by any means necessary have become the norm and not the exception. The question that comes to my mind is, why?! Have we lost our moral compass? The inability to discern between right and wrong, righteous or evil can only lead to chaos and confusion. What, then will we become?: Perhaps, a nation of lawlessness in which there is no trust in our own judicial system! As a citizen, how can I trust those who have authority over me with my well-being or safety? If those who are sworn to protect and are supposedly trained to make decisions that align with their sworn duties, can't be trusted with that privileged role, are we then forced to protect ourselves? Why have laws in place of which only some are held accountable to? It would then create an idea that every man is for himself and God for us all. Too much of anything, according to my parent's principles can be a bad thing therefore there has to be a balance of power, as it relates to parenting and ultimately governmental controls. Yet, we see more and more everyday government finding itself in our homes, schools, and churches as it relates to our own traditional and moral beliefs!

What we make deposits into will surely grow and eventually come out as something nurtured or neglected. As parents, our children are more than likely a product of their environment (how we raised them), or how we didn't raise them! Just recently we saw how Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh was placed under great scrutiny and undeniable accusations, because of his alleged past conduct as a young adult in college. This person now sits in one of the highest seats in our judicial system and will be making decisions and helping to shape our country for as long as he lives! Was justice served and or due process followed according to the blueprint, or did pride and prejudice take a seat on the bench we call justice?

Let's take a look at our history in order to have a premise of which we can draw from in understanding how our roles reversed, and what we must do going forward to make sure we are in our rightful designations and positions as parents and children. It is my understanding, that our Constitution was written and founded on biblical principles! A blueprint is designed to give clear instructions and guidance on how to navigate through or accomplish something! Over each passing generation, there has been a chipping away of those values that held us to a higher standard, than animals. The elders were the ones we looked to for guidance, for surely their own mistakes, failures, and successes would serve as examples of what things we too would encounter. Not to say that things won't change or that we must not adapt to our current situations. But we must have a standard by which we live. If we do not, according to the bible, we will begin exchanging good for evil and vice versa. We must give back proper authority and the power to make sound decisions based on experience and wisdom, to those who have the integrity, discernment, wisdom, and respect of position and power to lead and guide our children into the future as not to become a fallen Nation!

History teaches us and serves as a mirrored reflection or a type of report card to help us understand and reflect on how we are doing! When the roles of man and woman, parent and child change so drastically, that there is no distinction between them, the blueprint no longer serves it's true and authentic purpose, here again is where confusion steps in and chaos begins! One of my favorite authors and educators Dr. Myles Munroe does an excellent job of defining and explaining the roles as it relates to male versus female when and how they changed, the impact of the change and why we have become who we are! With all that has been said, my major concern is, what direction are we going into, how will this thing play out as a society, when the roles and the rules have changed so drastically that we can no longer discern right from wrong or good versus evil!, criminal or citizen, free or slave?! I think we may want to get back to the blueprint unless our future goal is to become primitive and uncivilized!

Growing up in the 60's and 70's

© 2018 Renee

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      Monique Fowler 

      10 days ago

      Thank you for this piece. I totally agree with what you wrote. Lives are changing due to the new norm. We need our old school way of educating and disciplining our children. Our children are lost without proper guidance and our ancestors fought too hard for us to make it. Failure is not an option! I raise my children the way I was raised and I raised two great children. I am not saying that because they're mine. I'm saying that because it's proven. I wish us all luck in this place that we called our world.

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      Renee 

      2 weeks ago from Noblesville

      Clint I appreciate your Male perspective! Thanks so much for your imput!

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      Renee 

      2 weeks ago from Noblesville

      No apologies necessary. Your sincere view point was greatly appreciated!

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      Renee 

      2 weeks ago from Noblesville

      Sarah, Thanks for sharing your experience raising your two sons. May God continue to guide and bless you all!

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      Renee 

      2 weeks ago from Noblesville

      Brenda, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and personal experiences being a parent. I especially appreciated your view point on how it takes a village to raise a child! May God continue to bless you as well!

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      Brenda Davis 

      2 weeks ago

      Hi Renee

      There was an error made in my response to your article on parenting in the 60s and the 70s I put the 80s .I was a parent in the 70s I knew I needed my reading glasses anyway I apologize to you and the readers God Bless, have a good day .

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      Brenda Davis 

      2 weeks ago

      Hi Renee

      I read your article ,I was impressed that you were able to remember growing up in the 80s the struggles that your parents faced . Trying to prepare you and your siblings for the future. By making sure you were able to handle life challenges from childhood to becoming a adult in this world ,as we struggle for our freedom and rights doing those times. Even through the hardships , we have tried so desperately to hold our families together,We had help from family members friends the church and the communities. We got together trying to have a positive environment for-our children together teaching and protecting our children .Whatever it took to keep them safe, that’s what we did. The pressure that we faced the limitations made by people of authority , made parenting more difficult and confusing, because we felt like we had no control over our children anymore, they knew that we were limited to our actions toward them. We had to become humble in how we were raising our children,not using a forceful hand anymore because of the laws everything started to change they took Religious education out of the schools.So there was no foundation for our children while away from home, to know how to love one another and how to respect one another that there is a creator and he is God. And this is what most of us lived by knowing that there is a God to see us through all of our trying times ,we do need help in the development of our children. We thought we were the voice the authority the strong hand ,the decision makers the protectors over our children. how they were educated where they were educatted our homes was are safe place at the end of the day. But still we wre limited to what we could do as parents we we under laws an rules that were fixed by government authorities. God bless you and I would love to hear more from you your input was on point I pray you must success in your writing.

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      Renee 

      3 weeks ago from Noblesville

      Sarah, I am so grateful that you were able to gain something from this Article! May God lead you always in the direction He has for you and both of your boys!

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      Renee 

      3 weeks ago from Noblesville

      Thanks for your insight and comment Clint!

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      Sarah 

      3 weeks ago

      Well written..I’m speechless..I have two boys of my own and I will continue to raise them to be more productive in this World..so much goes on around our children and without us as their role models they will be lost..our era vs the new era is a challenge..if we could just go back in time and allow our children to really see how parenting was back then and not just imagine it..the world would definitely be a better place with the respect that our children could and should have for us today..

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      Clint 

      3 weeks ago

      This is a very enlightening article about where our nation is and will be going in the future. Sometimes myself I feel that common curtesy is a lost art and parents defend the unrighteous behaviors of their children instead of properly disciplining them. Thank you for this article I hope to see more from this writer. Wake up America!!

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      Renee 

      3 weeks ago from Noblesville

      Venae, thanks so much for your insight!

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      Venae 

      3 weeks ago

      There is definitely a change in how parents raise their children today. One issue is, although parents are responsible for their children, they have to deal with the law when it comes to disciplining their children. Parents no longer have the discretion or power to handle their kids accordingly without repercussions and accusations of abuse. That oftentimes puts parents in a difficult situation when their children aren’t being obedient. This is just one obstacle that parents have to deal with that strips away their power. This contributes significantly to the lack of clearly defined parent/children roles in the household.

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