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Seasons of Language

Updated on September 21, 2013
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Just a short word today, seems to be one of those days of reflection where I wanted to share something heavy on my heart...

Welcome to the Fireside and pleased to announce the never ending fence around my property has been finally painted. It may call for a celebration of some sort, who knows maybe even fireworks. I placed a large red tick mark beside "Paint the Fence" on the to do list... Pheeew it's done.

Gather around, the fireplace is just about perfect and help yourself to all the goodies at hand. Above all else be sure and help yourself to plenty of love...

Hugs to all and thank you for stopping by...

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Welcome to a quite day here in Alberta, a day of reflection of the season which is sadly drawing to a close. Fall has already settled in with farmers working hard to gather the bounty of their efforts, geese are on the move and the last of the outside yard chores are being completed. We have an anticipation in the air of what is to come as we hear snow has already dropped to the lower levels in the mountains to the West. Face it we will, the dreaded winter is fast closing in on us.

Welcome all who follow along to this very sadly neglected blog. The reasons are many so I will just keep it simple and call myself lazy. There, it has been said. I think we are all guilty to a particular degree of starting something with full intentions, and yet life takes over and here we are trying to make amends, most likely after such a long while only to ourselves.

If have been noticing and increasing anger in social media these past several months where taboo, rude comments have been surfacing. The sad part is the writer is devastated, especially when all they are trying to communicate is a positive and loving environment. It is so sad to see the devastation it can cause. If we as a society have reached a point of having to hide behind the computer screen and pass out the vile so freely, is it any wonder we see these acts of senseless violence being played out across the globe.

Abuse comes in many forms, physical, mental, emotional. Sometimes it comes from those we expect love us. It is a new abuse when it comes from a total unseen stranger who lurks in places unknown because they can. The pain they cause is real and can have some long lasting adverse results. Meanwhile, the perpetrator of the insults just continues on their confused and distorted path they have chosen to follow.

Admittedly not all days are the happy-clappy days we would like to have. There will be some filled with the loss of a loved one, personal issues we all face, the reasons are many. The key is how we deal with them. Do we choose the negative or so we look for the positive in the positive, what do we feed the most is the result of how we choose to live? Decide to follow the poor me road and you will be reduced in many ways. Choose to follow a positive outlook and you will be blessed. No matter what others say or post in social media we have a choice of following what has been spoken or seeking the positive. Which path do you choose to follow?

For those who choose to leave their nasty comments on the various blog sites, social media sites etc. all I can say for them is I feel so sorry for you because you live in a world you have created of your own. I sincerely hope you grasp the rope of love people extend to you and climb from the pit of despair you live in. Look up and see the sunshine, it is there for the taking.

© Rolly A. Chabot

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      What a great hub. Marvelous video. I think we do choose. I have a bit of an issue, because I think we can train our selves to wander to happy places. Not that the point is wrong and his statistics aren't valid --- just that we can train ourselves in happiness no matter where our brain or body is.

      And I think this brings us to your first point. Bullying has to be perceived as that in order to bother us. If we have compassion on the disturbed bullies and see them and their actions as their sickness then we can remain happy even when bullied.

      Loved this hub. Thank you Rolly

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      Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

      Excellent hub. I am with you on those negative remarks. I don't know why pople leave them. I was taught that if I couldn't say something nice, then don't say anything. Of course, I haven't always followed that rule perfectly, but certainly for the most part.

      It;s good to be back at he fireside for a chat. God bless.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all. I think we are living in an angry world..more violence etc. All of us have to look around us all the time to keep safe. And as you said so well we all have issues on a daily basis and need to take a breath in between to give thanks for all the good times. Having a roof overhead, food, a comfy bed and loved ones..what else do you need?

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Ditto to what Pamela and Carol said. If you don't have something good to say, don't say anything at all.

      Wallow in your own misery and leave me and my happy little corner of the world alone. I have no room for negative people.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I love the suggestion to "look up and see the sunshine", Rolly. This is sometimes hard to do, but it's so important!

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      Alan Robert Lancaster 3 years ago from Forest Gate, London E7, U K (ex-pat Yorkshire)

      There are a few dimwits around who haven't much to do. I wouldn't make excuses for any of them, but idle minds and all that... you known where it can lead.

      Some of the stuff that gets sent through so-called 'social media' has led to suicides and mental problems - it's the same with schools. Bullying goes hand-in-hand with idle minds that think they have it all 'sewed up'.

      Give somebody too little to do and they go looking for trouble - give them too much to do and they go off at the deep end. Somewhere in the middle can do wonders - what say?

      Exactly. Nice fireside chat, TTFN

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Eric... love what you say, it is all about perception on our part. If we get caught up in the battle rest assured we will never win especially online. One on one we may be able to change the others mind, mainly because they are being held accountable face to face.

      As a child I had started to become a bully, lol... I laugh now because my Dad told me I would meet my match someday and I did and wore a cast for 6 weeks. The battle was finally settled in the school washroom and we became the best of friends.

      The battle is not worth the effort... I would sooner love others than acquire anger over some comment.

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Rolly, you have just inspired a hub. Believe it or not, and you know I am no angel, I was the guy you met in the restroom when I caught you bullying on of my little buddies. I always loved to fight. So by about 4th grade I found a niche. Beating up bullies. Boy o boy I sure lost a few. But worth every scar. And every punishment for fighting.

      Oops I really just came back to reread this great hub and the comments.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Sounds like some nasty people are roaming around your site(s). Sorry about that. I personally have no time for those suckers of energy. You know as FA's we were trained to maintain our demeanor towards nasty passengers because we know the last laugh is ours...so be it. We all know, we cannot control every situation but we can absolutely control ourselves on how to react and deal with it.

      Take care my friend. Sending you some sunshine and lots of love from the sky.

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      SilverGenes 3 years ago

      Yes, the seasons are changing and I'm glad you got the fence painted before the snow comes. That has to feel good to stroke it off your list! As for the people who leave nasty remarks, I guess it hits us all eventually. I don't actually consider there are bad people out there, just people who are are having trouble of one kind or another. One of my favourite responses to this kind of thing is "I'm sorry you feel that way". It's the truth and it's not hurtful. It also puts the ball back into the park from whence it came. There will always be people who are angry, hurt, and lashing out but our options of response are our own.

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Pam... Thanks for the visit and I stand with you on what you are taught about not saying anything unless it was nice. Ironically like most of us I forgot the rule often and have suffered the after shocks over the years. Apologies and seek forgiveness as I may but they still stick in some peoples minds.

      I have struggled and felt the quilt of it and just a few years back realized I have done all I can to repair the wounds, so rather than live in the guilt of others hurt feelings I simply moved on...

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Carol... so well spoken. Be aware of who and what is around you. To live in fear is not the way to live, we live in a world of many uncertainties. To be grateful for what we have is a blessing, all we need to do is look to the people and countries who have nothing to realize we have so much.

      As for those who hate and troll for places to leave their poisonous remarks what more can I say but sorry for the life you have...

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hugs to you bravewarrior... love the way you have wrapped this all into a well spoken bundle... I think from the responses we are all a very much like minded people.

      Hugs from Alberta Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Alicia... I agree sometimes it is hard to look up and see the sunshine... the blessings is once you have the next time becomes easier... after a while it just becomes the normal thing to do rather than live back there...

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Alancaster149... first and foremost welcome to the Fireside... hope you enjoy your stay. I was just over and read your hub on Life on the Fringe 1... very impressive work and a great deal of research... well done...

      Rolly in Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi again Eric... I think we speak the same language in many ways but today we can speak the truth through the words we leave...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi CrisSp... you are so right and thank you to all FA's for the work they do. Years back when people would board a plane after having far too much to drink I watched the girls work miracles wit these people. Well done my friend to you and your fellow workers.

      It is all in the way we respond to any situation that is the key to maintaining our own peace and happiness ... leave the ugly behind is what I say...

      Hugs and love from the ground... looking up

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi SilverGenes... so very true... love that quote "Sorry you feel that way" compassionate and yet says move on and look for another place to leave your anger. They will always be with us no matter where we are. I was in Calgary the other day at an eye appointment and a lady became agitated because someone who had come in after her made it in to the see the doctor before her. The more the poor receptionist apologized the more irritated the lady became. It is so sad at the end of the day looked the fool and the receptionist well she got several hugs that day for her abuse.

      Stay warm and dry out there...

      Hugs and Blessings as always

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      drbj and sherry 3 years ago from south Florida

      Here's to many more 'happy-clappy' days for you, Rolly. May your sun ever shine!

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi drbj... thanks for the "Happy Clappy"... so good to see you again. The same right back at you... but then what else could you have in Florida but sunshine... on second thought there is rain and really bad storms... may they all pass you by...

      Hugs and Love from Canada

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Rolly,

      Excellent points for all to ponder! I tend to not get caught up in all of that social media stuff and not take it to heart, for there are those who are just out there to harm and gossip about others, for they themselves are so very miserable. It is so very sad. We all have a choice to be one who uplifts others, to be an encourager and love others who are hurting. We all have bad days and all have many trials to go through in this life, and that is life, and it is a choice to either be positive and surround ourselves with positive people, for the others will surely try their best to bring one down to their level of the pity party no doubt.

      Thanks for sharing your heart here.

      Up and more and sharing

      Hugs and love to you this night and keep that fire warm inside your heart,

      Faith Reaper

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      Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning Faith Reaper .... So good to see you again and the soft caring and gentle light you bring into the room. You are such a blessing my friend.

      Many hugs and much love from Canada

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