Short Story: Selfishness! Part (2)
Selfishness Part (2)
We need to pay particular and undivided attention to some of those unnecessary urges that sometimes compels us to react without thought, or as those who sometimes end up being the one handling such matters, would say. Due process.
Sometimes knowingly we allow our selfishness, to make us choose to hold on to, and nurture, these urges, almost to a point of no return. A fellow Hubber said to me this day, and his words were: sometimes selfishness has to do with the way you grow up.
He is exactly correct, and this is why after your parents, or guardian, young folks are at the mercy of their own selves and the company they keep. These are the areas and the times, a great majority of humans are most vulnerable.
Basically all humans possess the very same characteristics. Sometimes it maybe much more difficult for some to display these characteristics, but in most cases, by simply applying the necessary will and determination, to some of those nagging obstacles, which usually stands in the way will make it easier to overcome many of those urges which sometimes shows up, we may even be able to eliminates them all together.
Believe it or not we are definitely all created equal. But never the same or for the same purpose. The only things that we are expected to do similar and without being ordered and pressed, are those life giving, life preserving and life saving prerequisites, to cultivate and maintain a worthwhile balance and at the same time show progress, where that warm and welcoming display of individual
Approval is usually given, to help encourage these different human characteristics. In other words they are very important and integral parts to be played in this business of peaceful human existence, co-habitation and preservation in this present day and time,
we do not need to be bored with similarities but rather be intrigued by differences, which is a God given right in our choices
Of everything we choose to do. The question is: Why not? Like Martin once said: Be the best damn street cleaner you can! We are not all expected to be scientist, but some of us are expected to take out the trash. Our human abilities are being developed and explored by leaps and bounds, each and every day of our lives. We need to always invite, and encourage these. But like it is with everything else in this life, there is that flip side, it could easily also be called, a dark side.
It is in these similarities, that will sometimes show up those differences that are hidden, concealed from everyone, sometimes even ourselves. Here is where we find the excuses, the keys to certain failure. The, if I had known comfort therapy. The could of, the would of and the should of. All those useless and unnecessary adaptations we humans sometimes allow to develop and fester, and in most cases becoming malignant and deadly.
Sadly to say that most will find out long after it’s already too late, because our actions were voluntary, and unchecked. Some of these dark sides that were allowed to grow and become malignant, are those same illicit characteristics like, Selfishness and Greed, to name a few. Because it usually takes a long time to show its evil head. Also because most parents are fully aware of it's repercussions down the road of life, the great parents will try their sincerest to usually discouraged it from the very early stages of it being visible. Even then it's not usually rooted out, just discouraged.
So unlike some other negative behaviors that can be addressed and dismissed, quickly and permanently, these possessive ones, like those I mentioned before, usually springs back up at a later time, in full force. Whether or not it makes a full recovery, is dependent on the environment it's in. Also the other characters and influence that's predominant at that stage. When allowed to grow, that selfishness usually turns into a quagmire of many different, but seemingly necessary evils that are sometimes unknown to its host.
Characters like Greed, Envy, Jealousy, and Insecurity.
When these are allowed to move around freely and left unchecked, they then become too much for the host to maintain and contain, that’s is where these negative attributes take root and go on to be a part of, that person’s character, sometimes creating very detrimental results, the effects of which can be felt sometimes for generations.
Like I said we all possess all the same characteristics. It's only that some are allowed to go unnoticed and unchecked, where this beast of a human dark side become malignant. These are a few things I usually say to many of the folks that I call friends and associates.
I am Greedy but I am also fully aware of where and to whom I will exercise my human instinctive and natural ability to be Greedy. I know with whom and around where I will, for the sake of fun, I will display some of those I have already mastered.
We can all act, but of course some will grow to be much better actors than some. The great and truly intelligent actors , they will come around to grace us, with their beautiful acting. and human presence.
To others the selfishness will make them come around, but only to what my parents will term. Show off and show up the others that are not as good actors as they are.
That’s the situation when your acting is good but your selfishness is greater that the good you have accumulated so sooner or later, the rewards for those evil urges will be handed out. There is always going to be good and evil on this earth, and it’s a great thing to try your utmost: To walk well!
I am also insecure, but the person who will find it within their needing to try and explore my insecurity must have a hell of a reason to do so. I urge you on and you have better come correct. That should be the same for everyone, because they are actually stepping out of bounds . As is says in the Bible in the book of John 8:7 it says:
So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
I am Jealous, but I am grown enough to understand that such actions are not good attributes to harbor in any given situation, because it's always going to be proven to be Selfish. What I am saying is that when I was a child I acted like a child, and I had my ignorance to use as the scapegoat to be able to say convincingly that the Devil made me do it. But when I became a man, I put away childish actions and things, to show the man in me and took full responsibility for those actions I preformed.
I know for sure that unnecessary stress, and useless bother only further compounds those expected ailments and changes that comes with age. So why will I do that which I am sure will be having unfavorable effects and cause me ill will.
We are all fully aware that misery needs company, and when it doesn't get that which it needs to becomes fully functional, it becomes even more miserable.
Because even though I understand that we are creatures of habit I still could not leave it there because I had this burning desire to define what exactly creatures of habit really means. But again for some, it's just that a habit and for others it's a little more difficult to grasp. For every wise man that exists on the face of this earth there are over one million wiser men. For every foolish man that exists on this earth there are at least one million more foolish men. Why is this so?
Well it's quite simple we are not all the same man at the same time.
It is quite easy to make this presumption. That the criminal always goes back to the scene of the crime. Why is that so?
I am extremely curious to hear your findings.
In explaining the creatures of habit condition, my true findings is that most of those habits are not the ones adopted by us. It's the one instilled on us by others that are the most predominant. Let me give a simple example. For me I govern and rule my everyday. I really can't see how I can allow myself at this stage, even if I was in any identical situation. Before I finally realized that, I am best for me. I am a man, and when I wake each morning, the essences of my being will voluntarily Give Thanks to the Most High God and my sincere belief!
This is followed by a conscious effort to not allow anything spoil my day, not even Death, and I will tell you why. That's where the creatures of habit comes in, fully dominated by others. Whether we have to go to School, to work, to play or to Church, once it's known by us in advance, it doesn't matter whether or not we are sick, tired, angry or hungry.
Chances are, that depending on the level of importance we put on those obligations, or based on the level of importance we have signed up for, we are most likely still going to be there.
Exactly my point when saying that we are creatures of habit, but in most cases those habits are the ones that are instilled in, or on us. We must go to work, we must go to school, we must go to the Doctor, and those are basically the assignments that have been long ago pre-arranged and accepted as, and within protocol.of mankind.
When given this same chance to be totally in charge of our own ship, nine times out of ten we’re heading for the rocks, and that is because of that truth, which is behind all creatures of habit.
Check this we are totally in control of our actions each and everyday that we wake to bear witness to that new day. I know that we do not set out to have a bad day on purpose. Well some of us do, because take a cheat, robber, or a criminal, I really can’t see then having any other day. There are many more, who wants to be the first to stand and say it simply just happens?
Things pertaining to our own lives don’t just happen.
You decided that's the way it will be, a long time ago, and at the moment you feel it's an applicable time, you will die defending and carrying out you belief.
That the exact reasons that we had and stil loved to hate people like Jesus, King, Mandela and even yours truly, just for being.
Well I got news for you ,, that's the reason they hate their own selves.
Leaders can be born alright, and they literally are. But if not accepted, who will they lead?That is why I urge parents to stand strong in the role that they choose. If your kids wins you as the teacher, there are only few places that can ever stop then after which , you are still going to be the one to be blamed. You must quickly devise those great parental means, those your own parents taught you and wipe out the likes of Selfishness, Lying, Nagging, Doubtful, Rude, No good, and soon to become, Ungrateful Good for Nothing, insecure, jealous and possess by all the above kind of attitudes than you can spot at the very earliest, in your child's life..
Here I am your mirror reflecting the identical picture I am seeing, and because I am not carrying a big stick, because I am here to civilly and humane , because I wish to share, the greatness that I have found, with you, because I don't carry a Gun, a Dog, and a Snake or because I am not the Law. But I am your human brother/sister. I am seeing some traits of that creature of habit , and it will be sad on my path ,if I cannot handle the worst you may throw at me .How sad!
You can take all those nasty selfish attitudes to others and somehow always still say it's other peoples fault. And they smile and laugh with you. Bob Marley said: Some will eat and drink with you. That don't mean that they are your friends of good for you because, he said : Then behind they sew sew on you! call your name in the worse way .
My mother will say , all grin teeth is not a smile. Could be Hyena's on the prowl, hungry..
Never checking out the truth of your life until it’s too late. You would let the doctor, or you boss on the job, the police or any powerful organization tell you to run, and your only question is how fast? It’s like being this big bully, but as soon as the bigger bully shows up your selfish behind becomes humbled.I think that all these habits are nothing but a cry for help and you already have a preconceived notion as to how you want that help to come and the proper attention you missed as a child from the correct source. When you don't have it your way, you Rebel,and run to the possible worst of all creatures of Habit is: Selfishness!
To be continued ………………………..part (3)
These are all materials that are a part of a greater use later, every piece of my work is a part of something much bigger, the only reason I do not finish those stories that are in parts, is because the reason I write then can easily be seen, it should not end, it’s a work in progress. Put your end to it if you got the picture.
Thanks for reading.
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