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Social Media Death

Updated on August 25, 2014

It's a new day

when you learn of someone

whom you've known for 16 years

passing away from Facebook.

Now the family

is aglow

in sympathy from strangers

amidst a sea of prayers

which is what they wanted

I suppose.

They had her under

didn't tell the children

who are children no more

by the way

how serious it was.

It was all a very convenient

ship of denial

where no one could say good-bye.

Thanks for the experience

of tragedy

vicariously through social media.

I am sad to say

after it was all said and done

I had to defriend

move on

cut ties to the last links.

I don't want to learn

when the time comes

which it most surely will

about your son being killed

in a sea of violence

via social media

nor your daughter not making it

because you refuse to go to good doctors

all because you would rather

troll Facebook

garish concerns for every emergency room visit

than care for your children.


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    • teaches12345 profile image

      Dianna Mendez 

      3 years ago

      It is sad that parents are aborbed into a virtual social relationship that damages their real world existence. Great message and one that I hope changes minds.

    • aviannovice profile image

      Deb Hirt 

      3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      A serious topic that needs to be aired, that's for sure. Facebook? Come now...

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 

      3 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      I have seen this happen to friends and it really hurt them. It wasn't the family who posted but someone else who meant well. Very thought provoking poem.

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      Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 

      3 years ago from Mississauga, ON

      A profound message shared in a crystal clear manner at a point blank range. I liked it. This is how this message needed to be conveyed.

      Thank you for sharing.

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 

      3 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      This was different and needed to be said, relationships are becoming so impersonal with social media taking over. Thank you for a great write.

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      3 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      Thanks for the read and comments. It was a shocking experience. Usually some time has passed before you start posting - I thought. I hope they at least told the family before posting but I doubt it. They seemed to have posted right away and at least I saw it first and was able to tell someone who was even much closer to the person than myself because she logged on and saw that. These days social media gets all the news first.

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      Judy Specht 

      3 years ago from California

      Social media sucks a person into the abbess. This sounds like a mother-in-law who passed. - Nothing replaces two arms wrapping around you in a hug.

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      Peg Cole 

      3 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Glad to know that others think that notifications of someone's death need to be shared privately to the family and friends first, rather than posted on social media. Even the police have embraced this concept.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Very nice poem and such a thoughtful message!

      I absolutely agree with you that social media is not the place to do it. Facebook pages are full of friends list but how many of them can really reach you in times of crisis or difficult situations!

      Voted up and thanks!

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      Brian Leekley 

      3 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

      I like this poem. I think it's clever and insightful. I hope the story is fiction and no one really puts social media ahead of caring for their children. Up, Interesting, and shared with followers and on Facebook.

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      3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Wow, what a profound write...I am very sorry for all of this. Maybe you should share the above on Face Book, it may get a vital message across.

      Face Book is such a controversial site, - and, for many, quite addictive I would guess. To know someone for 16 years and find out about their death via Face is just WRONG. My sincere condolences to YOU, that you are going through this. Voted up and useful. I am glad you addressed this issue on Hub Pages. Blessings, Sparklea


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