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Sometimes You'll Get No Support

Updated on November 7, 2019

You're Not Alone

I’m sure there are some of you that hide your writing life from friends and family.

It could be because people spat on your dream and put you down, or that they don’t take it seriously, they might express that they think you’re wasting your time with this writing nonsense.

Whatever the case may be I know there are many of us who are in the same boat, so you’re not alone.

I know it can feel lonely at time’s but you’re not the only one feeling that way, so if you need support from other writers the Medium community is a great place to be. Especially if you take a look at Medium Facebook groups. Of course, there are always going to be a few people who aren’t the nicest but let’s not talk about that.

Keeping Quiet

I’ve always felt that I wanted to keep my writing private. I have tried to tell friends and family but it’s always awkward and makes me feel bad about myself. So, when I found Medium and started making money on here I thought people would take me a little more seriously now.

And I’ve been telling myself for months that eventually I’ll share my writing with friends and family, I have been very close to doing it too because I felt proud of my work. But of course, someone says on small comment and I just think fuck it, I don’t want anyone I personally know to have the chance to read my work if they aren’t going to be supportive.

Maybe I’m being too sensitive or maybe people are just assholes. Perhaps both.

But the thing is that they might not know they’re being unsupportive. They are probably just expressing their opinion without thinking of how it affects me. We all do that, sometimes by accident, we might say something and not think how it will play on someone’s mind over and over, and sometimes we say something unsupportive on purpose.

I get it, we are all human but it is important to take into consideration that words can hurt.

The other day, for example, I was on the phone to my friend I told her how I made my first $300 AUD in one month on Medium and how excited I was. She didn’t share my excitement because to her $300 isn’t enough but to me, however, earning that much from my own writing is mindblowing and exciting. I’d like to see her give it a go if she thinks it’s not a big deal.

Anyway, in a condescending tone, my friend said “Three-hundred dollars only? Gosh, that’s not much for a month of work.”

Instead of telling her that making that much meant a lot to me, I agreed with her that it wasn’t much and laughed it off.

Now when people ask how my writing is going I feel my stomach twist up and the fear of being laughed at or put down makes me want to hide away from the world.

The Writing World

Silly comments like that can cause us to not feel proud of our accomplishments and that is unfair. But I want to remind you that you SHOULD feel proud, and you SHOULD be confident. Because being a writer isn’t easy like every non-writer thinks it is.

Let’s think of people who aren’t writers as muggles. They have no idea about our writing world so don’t feel too disheartened when a muggle says something dumb. They don’t understand the magic we create with the written word. Feel sorry for them because they don’t get to be part of this amazing world.

So, keep making magic, keep pushing through the bullshit and one day you’ll show those muggles how much of a badass witch/wizard you are.

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      Amani Utembu 

      4 months ago from Nairobi -Kenya

      This is really good.. I'd say it speaks to me in a strange but true way

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