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Song Lyrics - The Man He Used To Be

Updated on July 18, 2011

My Dad called the other day
He had love in his voice
But confusion in his mind
He asked me what day it was
Then I realized we didn’t have much time

I drove south to see him
He was waiting for me outside
We embraced like it was never going to end
He said, “Thank you for coming son
When you’re here my mind starts to mend”

It’s hard to be happy about life
But don’t worry about me
Last night it was just the three of us
Me and my Dad
And the man he used to be

We talked about the old days
He was telling me all their names
He recalled with that sparkle in his eye
I let him go on and on
I knew my eyes would not be dry

The sadness comes over me
And it's something new
I've never felt it before
I'm trying to find some meaning
It seems nothing matters anymore

It’s hard to be happy about life
But don’t worry about me
Last night it was just the three of us
Me and my Dad
And the man he used to be

Every time I leave I wonder
Will I see him again
Even if he’s still alive
Will he remember who I am?

It’s a hard thing
To watch a parent die
He used to guide me
Now he just asks why

It’s hard to be happy about life
But don’t worry about me
Last night it was just the three of us
Me and my Dad
And the man he used to be


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      Mark Lecuona 6 years ago from Austin, Texas

      First I must say to all of you that it has been very gratifying to see your comments. This is a true depiction of the situation with my father. It is tough but he is still with us. It is frustrating.

      @kaceybabe - thank you for your very kind remark.

      @Just Ask Susan - I can't believe this touches you so deeply. It is truly wonderful to read your reaction.

      @kickapoo - ok who are you? :) Thanks for commenting!

      @K. Burnes Darling - Thank you for commenting and providing your personal experience and support. Just to know there are others who relate makes me glad I wrote this.

      @WillStarr - I always appreciate your support my man. I need to read your song too.

      @Poohgranma - Thank you. Yes it is bitter-sweet. The love is there but so is the fear and sadness of the impending loss. It is good to be able to spend time with him with the true perspective that this could be it. It makes every meeting special.

      @JinnyMarte - Thank you Jinny. You say you were at a loss for words but then you said something very beautiful to me. Thank you for your prayers.

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      JinnyMarte 6 years ago

      This has touched my heart so deeply that for the first time I don't even know what to say... Beautifully written and so moving. I pray that you and your father will ha e many more encounters like this for reminiscing and laughter. That the Lord Almighty blesses each moment with warmth and love and sincerity. God bless both of you.

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      Poohgranma 6 years ago from On the edge

      What bitter-sweet lyrics. I'm glad you got to spend that time with your dad. It really changes our perspectives when people around us start to age and eventually pass on. We seldom think of it hitting home, but it does and no matter how "expected" it never comes at a good time. Keep those memories going for your self and for him when you can.

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      WillStarr 6 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      I lost my dad in 1999 from Alzhiemer's. In fact, I just wrote song lyrics about my dad too.

      Good work.

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      Kristen Burns-Darling 6 years ago from Orange County, California

      With my dad now in the mid-to-advanced stage Alzheimer's disease, I so identified with this that it hit my heart like a bittersweet ton of bricks, you've managed to put something into words, that as I daughter and a writer, I've been struggling with for awhile. Beautifully done!

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      kickapoo 6 years ago

      Wonderful Mark.

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      Susan Zutautas 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      This song certainly hit home. Beautifully done. It's not often I read something that brings tears to my eyes.

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      kaceybabe 6 years ago

      what a lovely read :) thank you for sharing!


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