THE ROMANCE OF AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE
I just read an article in hubpages that speaks of the drabness and in a way, perversity of arranged marriages, but I beg to differ. The article was written by a native Indian who says that such marriages are based on lust, it has no security and that only in some cases, the relationship may mature into deep affection or love over time. He says there is no romance or fairy tale setting in such a marriage. I for one have always been fascinated and been in love with the very idea, perhaps, it is due to my Indian Christian background or seeing the lives of my grandparents and parents or simply inherent, I do not know. Though mine may not end up so, I have been very much inspired to write an article about the romance of an arranged marriage.
Both men and women like mystery, elusiveness and elegance when it comes to love, but not too much, no one wants to end up marrying a serial killer of a psycho. Arranged marriages are mostly between relative, but not too close like cousins, distant relatives. The advantage of the arranged marriages and the main romance behind them are snooping and overly exuberant match makers, mostly women who love to join people in marriage. If a parent says they are in search of a bride or a groom, these good souls would take it upon themselves with such great resolve and fascination to bring about the eternal bonding of two people before His love. Thanks to them, the news gets published and becomes a very exciting topic at all sorts of festive occasions and thus renews and revives blood relations as the quest is circulated among inquisitive females. Recently, my cousin got engaged in an arranged marriage and I know the bustle that accompanied this incident, she is now a princess, a very sought after, eagerly followed person, which woman would not like to be pampered thus. Moreover there is binding security here, turns out the fellow, whom she had never before seen in her life is a distant relation and the two families and those in between are now on very good terms.
Mr. Darcy of Pride and Prejedice has always been a very eligible groom, has been enthralling for many because of the dramatic change in him, it was not a very sordid romance. Wooing, flattering, courting for decades and finally marrying, there was so much drama involved, so much mystery. In arranged marriage, every man is a Darcy, you do not know his character, his likes and dislikes but you just know he likes you, maybe it’s just me but isn’t it the greatest compliment to a woman that a man falls in love with her and is ready to spend his eternity just by seeing her once, how delighted would that make you feel.
Of course, coming to the material advantages, both the groom and the bride, be they, working or not, do not have to spend a penny and the wedding is carried out with such show, pomp and ceremony, call me vain, but I love it, I think most people do too. If you have little cousins or sisters, your partner would occupy their whole undivided and enchanted attention. My cousins when they were about 5 to 8, would sneak around at the most improbable places to catch sight of the new bride, my mom! Though it seems nosy, it’s quite lovely to be someone’s hero or heroine. They are simply awed and are in throes of admiration with you. Your parents are satisfied even if you have always been a black sheep and gone your own way. If you let them decide your partner, it makes them feel they are a part of your life.
And both of you would go to any length to please your partner because you do not know anything about them, it’s just as God made Eve for Adam, you are made for each other because you don’t know any other, you also do not know what you are missing! ;) Eventually, as I witness in many cases of all my relatives, the initial animation would certainly deepen into love because it has been approved by so many. Anyway, this is just my opinion and may be impractical and appear as ranting, but I thought I would give it a go, one of my first articles after such a long time. Have a good day!