TV show on - My ideal spouse
Her guest on the show
Ben was looking admiringly at Annelies, the interviewer of the local TV show in Hilversum. He had been approached and invited as a guest on her show, to give the public his definition of an ideal spouse.
“Ben, what is your perception on an ideal spouse?” Annelies asked with a glint in her eye. When her producer came up with this topic for the show, she could not have asked for a better participant. The detective Ben Jaarsma was both witty, smart, very presentable and sexy. The public would love him.
“Well...the ideal spouse fulfill the role of a life partner. For me she would be a true friend, a captivating teacher both spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, and of course an amazing lover. This is the ideal state of any relationship and only seems to come about when all the inner battles between a couple have been dealt with.” he said with his strong captivating voice. This was a live performance and the audience in the studio were listening with fascinated rapture.
“What you are saying is that you have to earn such a partnership?” Annelies asked this for the audience’s sake, because most people never completely reached such a maturity in their relationships.
“Yes, you definitely do have to work at it, and again the stormiest marriages create the most inner growth for both individuals.” he remarked with a smile.
“So what are the ingredients of the ideal spouse?” Annelies asked with laughter, she wanted to hear him sum it up in a nutshell after two women in the front row had put him to the test.
Her TV show was recorded
The atmosphere in the studio was electric. The front row was mainly occupied by women, she noticed, but that seemed to be normal on her show.
“My ideal spouse will reflect back to me everything that I do not want to acknowledge within myself.” he said while winking at her.
“You mean your ideal spouse will allow you your own emotions of anger, hurt, pain, and frustration to pass through her, instead of reacting to them?” she replied winking back
“Yes, that would make me learn that those feelings are my own creations. My ideal spouse is a woman that is both compassionate and passionate about life and about herself with no expectations, no attachments, and no conditions.” he said with strong conviction.
She had to think for a moment to give an intelligent summing up to his statement.
“What I am hearing is that when you learn from your spouse the skill of true observation of yourself, without any judgment coming from her on how you behave, and who you are in relation to others, only then will you learn what you are not.” she said in a speculative manner.
Ben turns to the audience.
“People, this lady seem to understand what I am looking for in an ideal spouse.”
He turned to Annelies and said: “Only after I have discovered who I am and when I start to love me for being me, can I truly love others. Only then can I learn to love her unconditionally. Only then will I experience what true freedom is. Only then can I learn to have compassion for myself and others.” his voice revealed that he was not unaffected by his beautiful interviewer.
The audience in the studio was becoming aware of the attraction they had for each other and the silent moments between them was almost erotic in itself.
The people in the studio, predominantly women, started to participate. Some came forward with some rather challenging comments. “Ben, who loved women, charmed them all with his witty manners. His large posture emanated male magnetism. He had a distinguished, ageless charisma that most women only dream about. Being a detective was also a charming factor. On her show he does come across as a savior for any damsel in distress.” she thought.
“Annelies, when a true union is established between two people and it is enriched with the full understanding of each-other's individual uniqueness, then you will truly have awakened the passionate energy of the human spirit that will be ignited the moment they both physically connect.” he said with an tremor in his voice. He was looking at her with an intensity that was so overwhelming that she knew he was testing her composure.
Vision of the Oprah show came to mind
“Ben, what you are saying is that to be a perfect spouse to another means that two people in a relationship have to become aware of their own created opponents in this physical life; their own created personalities, their own devils in disguise. Only then together as a couple can they truly realize what it means to be in love with someone...... as I am with you.” she whispered the last few words. “I know what you are trying to do. Cut it out.” she beamed at the same time.
At that moment Ben observed her from a pure man’s perspective, admiring her stunning figure, her brilliant curiosity and her incredible hunger for learning. His love for this vibrant, inquisitive, fun-loving, witty personality that she so abundantly expressed on this show was very apparent. She was truly the most desirable spouse for him. He knew that both their personalities had to be crucified in order to reach their true freedom.
Ben was flirting and smiling at his soul mate with a twinkle in his eye and knowing what her reaction would be, he turned to the audience and said in his strong voice:
“A toast to a lady that has given me the experience that a true love affair gets better with time.”
The audience all stood up and gave a loud applause. The TV show had been a success because both Annelies the presenter, and Ben her husband as her guest on the show were able to display what a true spouse really meant to both of them.
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- The Lift Affair – a short Christmas story
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