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Taking Care Of A Loved One

Updated on September 6, 2012

We To Will Get Old

When everyone else goes on with their day

Who stops and gives a helping hand ?

The weather is gorgeous out yet we choose to stay

Offering kindness by giving someone company

Seems such little sacrifice for such great reward

Our list of chores keeps piling up

They can wait one more day

Today I am here right next to you

Talking and watching t.v. and joking about the silliest things

My heart rings

I can feel the pain of another

One that use to be free to walk and do as they wish

Now confined to a lazy chair and a newspaper

Those fleeting thoughts escape out the window where life disappears

Only to reappear here

When trusty tank of oxygen becomes your new best friend

A cane or a wheel chair is a neighbor you use to see

Wondering how I got this way

One day I was busy doing yard work and errands

Now I patiently wait for the door to open and for you to return with bundles in hand

I am helpless in some ways where my body doesn't have the energy or strength

My mind drifts off to a nap where I can still be free

To walk and do any job I use to do

Now I wake up in disappointment and disgust

Can't you see this is not me

I am trapped beneath the skin and will keep searching for a way out

But for now the beautiful windows covered in lace are closed shut because a cold breeze is too much

Lunch is passed to me on a tray that makes its way under my eyes

I turn my head away saying I don't deserve this

Eat up before it gets cold

Words slowly whisper

It is your favorite chicken cutlet parmesian

As I take my first bite

I know I have to eat if I want to keep from being sick

What a strange twist

Life has surprised me with

I shudder to think what comes next

As I take another long slow breath


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    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      Gypsy Rose Lee You open up a world of love.To see anyone else less fortunate than ourselves.They live a very hard life and that alone can give us the energy to do more.I like to start with helping someone else who in turn can be happy once again.Thanx so much for reading and sharing.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      6 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      A lot of invalids who are shut behind their doors certainly must feel this way .Well expressed and so sad. We must not let any moment pass us by because we don't know what the future will bring.

    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      shara63 Time is so precious.To have and to lose.We get to experience both and share in the pleasure and the pain.Nighthag I don't think I will ever fully understand or come to grips with life this way.All the emotion we feel changes us from the inside out.So we may learn once more.Helping your grandfather when he needed it the most is so giving and what living is all about.Picklesandrufus I felt proud to help then I could see the sorrow in his eyes.That changed my emotion to uncomfortable and humble.Experiencing life is n0t as simple as I would want it to be.I walked away feeling blessed and realized I may not have every thing I want but what I do have I definitely apppreciate.Thanx to everyone who read and shared their stories have a beautiful day.

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      6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      This hub will make your readers really think. Caring for the elderly and being elderly are both hard. You tell both stories so very well. Vote up

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      K.A.E Grove 

      6 years ago from Australia

      A potent read that brings the fragility of life to the forefront, being a part time helper to my ailing grandfather has brought me much joy and sadness. Happiness at the time spent together and saddness as I watch the once robust man slowly wilt before my eyes.

      A wonderful poem that gently reveals the emotions caught up in such a situation

      Voting up and up

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      6 years ago from Delhi

      yes, its absolutely true, ' history repeats itself.....'the child of today will be the father of tomorrow! .... and in between one has to undergo lot of changes and different phases of joy & woes...but the important thing is how to tackle these changes to make life more enjoyable and less miserable.

      So, 'take the life as it comes with all smooths and bumps' for.. its the destiny'...and this is the very essence of your poem too....and I like it!...gud write DREAM ON!

    • DREAM ON profile imageAUTHOR

      DREAM ON 

      6 years ago

      kj force I tried to mention both sides the caregiver and the loved one that is struggling with their own health and life.It is so hard to face the situation but it is life.We learn to love and live and love some more.I am so glad you found a way to make it through your struggles so many people aren't so lucky.Thanx for reading and enlightning me once again.Have a great night.

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      6 years ago from Florida

      DREAM ON...your words hit home with me and brought tears..when I experienced this 5 years ago I thought " temporary" then in the second year wanted a way out..I prayed for the end. This was not me, but an empty shell, then my G-C who had known the B-4 me said..Nann you can change this, we started pretending to take walks,imagination took over.. I started writing to get out my I can use a walker ( excercise 2 hrs each day x7 in pool)I may never be as B4..but I am stronger than before..because I won't accept can't,won't or no..taking care of a loved one is the hardest thing in life for the caregiver..but it's hard for the patient also..I know..

      Thank you for bringing this to attention..awesome job ..bless you...


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