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I am not defined by my titles but it's easy to look at my life so far looking at the different stages I have gone through; daughter, girlfriend, wife and mother.
My father met my mother when he was parking her car in Seattle, Washington. She was going to a party and dressed in all pink; pink dress, gloves, hat, tights and shoes. My dad told me once that it was all about her legs. When she came back to pick up her car they started talking. That was in February by April they were married and are still happily married today. Shortly after getting married in my Grandmothers house my parents moved to California where I was born a year and two months later. I was born in Oakland, but raised in Berkeley, California until I was 10 years old and we moved back to Seattle, Washington. This was a great time in my life as a child I had fun. When I was little because of my parents schedule my father would watch me before and after school. I remember doing things like flying kites in the huge field across the street from our apartment. We would go to the Berkeley Marina and feed the ducks. He would also get me ready for daycare and school. I spent a great deal of time with my father and was a true "daddy's girl". I was a tomboy always playing getting dirty never playing with dolls or playing dress up.
After moving to Seattle things were a little different; my friends and my dad's side of the family were back in California but my mother's family was in Seattle. So I was able to become closer to my maternal grandmother. I loved spending time with my grandmother and cousins mainly because I was the only granddaughter and very spoiled. In high school I was still a tom boy playing sports; basketball, track and other sports, having fun but still not into playing dress up. After high school I moved away for college.
For college I went to the University of California at Santa Barbara where I studied Sociology, originally I went in for accounting but thought that the accounting courses were way too early and liked waking up late to take my classes. Of course my first job out of college was working in an accounting firm and then working for the phone company as a finance analyst. Before my junior year of college I went to a club with my girlfriend, it was a normal night or so I thought. At the time I had just turned 21 years old and at the bar (yeah I know that is not the greatest place to meet but oh well) this handsome guy asked me to dance; I said no immediately being extremely shy. After that our stories differ greatly depending on who you ask. But we ended up dating for the two years remaining in college and then dated on and off after college due to our various locations he in one state and I in another. We had a great time when we were together and I chose him because he had (still does have) a great sense of humor and can have me laughing at a moments notice.
My boyfriend proposed to me on Christmas Eve at the stroke of midnight it was very beautiful and I accepted graciously and excitedly. We were married eight months later and are still happily married some 13 years later. We continued to have fun living in Seattle and even in Denver for a few years before back to Seattle again. We are almost complete opposites when it comes to everything but it works well for us and we were able to come together on one (or three) point.
After being married for five years and immediately after getting my master's degree (MBA) I found out that I was pregnant. It was end of June and call it mothers intuition but I thought I was pregnant because my gums were swollen (don't ask how I put those two things together but it just made sense to me then). My husband went to buy an at-home pregnancy test he came back with four and had me take them all even though they were all positive. After a few days of being excited about being pregnant I began spotting (slightly bleeding) and when I called the doctor they asked that I come in immediately. So I did and had a blood test done to make sure that I was pregnant. The doctors office called me on the morning of the 4th of July (I remember because it was very early and I was thinking shouldn't they have a day off) to tell me that yes I was pregnant but that they wanted me to come back to the office. I did not find out why until I went to my appointment. At the appointment they let me know that my blood level was incredibly high normally at the time my blood was taken it should have been 100 at the most maybe a 400 but mine was well over 10,000, slightly high. So my husband and I were thinking twins. The doctor hooked me up to a sonogram machine to check the heartbeat of the baby and he found the first heartbeat then my husband pointed out a second one and finally there appeared a third one. TRIPLETS?!? I thought I was going to pass out while lying there. I was a mother of an instant family two girls, one boy. It was an exiting time.
Being a mother has been an amazing experience, something that I could have never imagined in my life. As a child I never thought of being married and having children. I was a tomboy I was only interested in playing sports and getting dirty. I was not one of those girls with the Disney dreams (not that there is anything wrong with those dreams and fantasies), but somehow I was living one. Life is not always easy, but there is never ever a dull moment, we are always having fun and learning something new.
Next Phase -
I have no idea what the future has in store for me but I am positive that it will bring many more good things and a few struggles. So far it has been a great ride and has made me the person that I am today. For now I am going to continue to live my life as a daughter, wife, mother, and most importantly as myself. I am not defined by my roles but they certainly make me the person that I am and I would not have it any other way. That's my story and I am sticking to it!!