The Many Types of Seduction

Seduction refers to the act of when you lead someone astray into an act you weren't intending to do. Most often, when you are leading astray, it concerns chastity related issues.

Although ‘seduction’ often concerns enticement from chastity, you can also use the term referring to leading someone away from their sense of duty, purpose or responsibilities.

Although the term ‘seduction’ has all the connotations of enticement, it also includes flattery, deceit and leading astray. In modern culture, you may be among those who blur the lines between ‘seduction’ and ‘romancing’. Many movies and Hollywood ideals of relationship have confused the terms.

With flattery, the seducer makes their victim feel better about themselves. Words and compliments are used in getting the victim to feel more at ease. When at ease, they are more vulnerable to seduction.

When it comes to understanding seduction, you first need to know when you are being seduced and how that seduction is occurring. There are many ways that you can be seduced or distracted from your purpose. Those seductions often lead you in believing something that isn't what you assumed.

Seductions convey a promise of making something better for you, or delivering something without telling you about the strings attached. The trick of seductions is that they really do not deliver the promise. Some seductions involve the partial delivery of the promise.

The seducer may promise wealth or prestige, or promises of marriage. The victim gives in hoping for the fulfillment of the promise only to find the seducer tricked them.

Let us take an affair for example. When a potential lover comes along and attempts enticing you as a potential cheater, they often lead you to believe many things.

They first get you to believe that you're attractive to them. They also make you believe that they are available for you and that somehow they will make your life better.

They may not have told you about their spouse or diseases that they are infected with or that they are looking to steal from you. Once they have you believing that your life will improve by spending time with them, and that you are special, you’re often hooked.

This kind of seduction often involves the use of flattery and showing an interest in the target. When flattery is combined with the effects of alcohol, the process of seduction is often made easier.

Alcohol lessens the inhibitions. When the inhibitions are lowered, you are often vulnerable to flattery. When that flattery is delivered by someone who is attractive and interested in you, it only seems to be a matter of time. The book, ‘Contact: The First Five Minutes’ addresses many of the non-verbal skills involved in showing interest in the target.

Paying attention to how people attempt seducing you, will provide many valuable insights. Some seducers use trial and error approaches. The experienced ones often have an intuitive sense of what to say, how to say it and the timing involved.

Notice how they used flattery, non-verbal cues, eye contact, and an interest in you along the way. Once you see what they are doing, you can zero in on the techniques that you are most vulnerable to. You will also begin picking up on the process of the seduction.

The seducer often attempts lulling their victim into a passive mode. When your mind is in a passive mode, rather than thinking and problem solving, you are more inclined to follow directions.

Seducers know this. When they can persuade you to shift your mind into a passive state, they know that from that moment on, you are going to be like putty in their hand and follow your suggestions.

When they can promise to deliver something that you want or get you to dream and fantasize about what you want, your mind often shifts to a passive mode. Once in that passive mode, they attempt taking charge.

Besides sexual oriented seductions, there are also intellectual seductions as well. With an intellectual seduction, the seducer often feeds you some items that have surface validity.

They sound believable, so you may choose to accept what they say as being true. Once you have accepted their ‘bait’, they often use emotionally charged items to lead you astray. When the emotions are engaged, you often suspend your thinking mind.

The seducers know that if they can get you to take the bait followed by emotional engagement, they can begin leading you astray. Some of the intellectual seducers use their position of authority to help in persuading you that what they are offering to deliver will improve your life.