"The Silent Whisper" © Rolly A. Chabot
As always I welcome you to my home and while you are here please make yourself a part of it. Feel free to take a seat, help yourself to coffee, tea and of course hot chocolate and what ever snacks you can find. Sorry the pickings are a little slim these days, still battling this silly infection I have. Good thing I can speak this way because the voice is all but gone. My wish is you leave a blessing and take one with you whenever you decide to leave. The Fireside is all ready, please help yourself to a comforter and get comfy. Of course there is always the ever present Quigley, any spelling or grammar errors belong to her...she also doubles as a vacuum so any crumbs are hers. Her reward for all her efforts. Above all know be comfortable here and know that you are loved.
I have noticed a very subtitle and yet obvious change in Social Media this past few years. The trend seems to be heading in a good direction where people are actually reaching out and sharing wit us total strangers after that certain level of trust has been established. I like many I think find this to be a very good platform to just simply say hello and share what ever is on my mind or heart on any particular day.
It was not all that long ago if we wanted to say something to the immediate population we had to either stand on a soap box or go through and editor of a local newspaper. Today we have this amazing platform called the Internet. We are truly blessed to be able to have freedom of speech and we can reach out say hello to anyone, anywhere, at anytime. What a wonderful gift it can be.
Of course there is the ever cautious world we live in as this as well can be a place of the predator, the professional con artist but such is the real world as well. We just need to be ever aware when a red flag appears> Learn to recognize them.
Hopefully you are all settled in... Hugs from Canada
Quigley The Terrible
For those of you who are new this is my Editor, Manager and yes Socialite. Like a piece of gum stuck to your shoe, she follows where ever I lead. The slightest mention of the word "Treat,Truck ride, or her name and she comes to life again. One of her favorite things is to go with Dad to the Taking Box at the drive through. You see that person on the other side has great potential and she is always a big hit at the window.
So everyone this Quigley, Quigley this is everyone. Have no fear there is not one mean bone in her body. Toss a ball all day and you have made a friend. She loves a puzzle to get at her treats. One of her favorites is an old pocket off a pair of cut offs. A great place to hide a treat deep in a buttoned pocket. It the end it will be all slobbered upon and she gets the prize. She is a Havanese breed from Cuba. She was suppose to be a boy dog but as it turned out I lost the choice. The compromise was she was given a boys name. She did not care one bit. It has raised many a good conversation.
Now she is looking for a pet and a crumb so be ready. Now back to why we are here... sorry I get sidetracked easy.
Love from a Distance
Is it possible to come to know another from a distance never once having met another person. I think we see it happening each day here in this community and on many other social networking communities. We see relationships that are formed on many different levels. Can the words we write reach into the others world and have an impact. Can they change the perception they have of themselves. Can long lasting or short term friendships be formed.
They can and they have for many of us. How many reading this can attest to the many long emails and conversations we have had on the phones. I can for one, for some you know me very well for others the friendships are held at a distance. No matter what the form they take they are profound really and we are in an ever changing world of technology that is far reaching.
Many of us feel secure in this world of the Internet. You see it is a world we can turn off and on at our discretion unlike the real world where often we need to face our demands and the demands placed on us. Please do not get me wrong here about who we are really. The point is that we all feel safe here in the community we have formed. We are comfortable with the people we involve ourselves with. Some of you have shared with me the fear you have with meeting real people for the first time out in public. I think we all have the same fear sometimes.
We All Find It Somewhere
My Dad was the greatest mentor I had for communicating with others. No matter where he was he would simply turn and start to talk to people. He was confident and had a smile and a way about him that attracted people.
The key to his success with people I feel was his openness to simply be himself and love unconditionally. There would be times when I would sit and listen for the longest while to him chattering to a total stranger until he sparked an interest in them. Then he would take the conversation and just roll with it.
One thing I have learned over the years is that we all seek love and understanding. See Dad was like the Mother Teresa in so many ways. Often I would see that same person come up to Dad later and carry on a conversation like they had known each other for years. It was a gift he had.
For years I ran from a painful past until I was able to spend much time alone in the wilderness of the far North and face the demons head on and again take control over that which controlled me. It was there I once again got connected and found peace. We all have them, the key is how do we deal with them.
We are Fragile
Journaling and Sharing
I was likely one of the first to get a computer and I found it to be the greatest source of placing some of those past demons to rest. It was a place I could sit and write for hours and sort through the hard stuff as well as the many wonderful things in life.
It is a journey we all need to take in life if we are to grow. Fail to do so and we fall short of the greatest reward in life, getting to know the forgotten self. You see it is what I see happening on social media. We write about what we are passionate about.
How do we write, well that is up to each of us. I like to write from the heart. The grammar and speling may not reach a standard expected but the words I share come from within. It is what I see happening all around us. Share from the heart my friends and grasp the golden ring. Words from the heart will have a flavour of love and be packed with emotion that will warm another.
Above all be sure your words are truthful. Thank you for the visit to my ramblings. I know for many of you this will be nothing new coming from this keyboard, many have heard it before but it is what is on my heart today.
Something wonderful happens deep within when we share a little of ourselves with others. It is like my Dad turning and saying hello. Welcome to the world of the Fireside and of course I thank you for the visit.
I will be starting a new series soon in regards to Landscaping and yard care, some tid bits I have picked up over the years in the industry. After all we are all heading into spring and maybe something I will share will be of help. My background in in Turf Management. Golf Course Design and Construction, Horticulture, Arboriculture and Plant Pathology. So stay tuned and lets see if we can find some humour along the way.
Keep in mind a well kept yard and garden are a preservation of space, even if it means covering your yard in concrete and painting it green... As always know that you are loved. Save up your questions, I am a green guy and love to look at alternatives to chemicals that do far more damage than we know.
© Rolly A. Chabot