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The Traditional vs Modern Courtship
It's too hard to the man who court to the woman before the woman accept him. He need to wait for long period of time until the woman accept him.
The traditional courtship, the man experienced hardship to court the woman he love. He need approval to the woman that he court her. After the woman approved him, he needs to proceed to courtship thru "Harana" means group singing with their friends sing the old song using guitar. The the singing group is in front of the woman's house. While he is on singing together with their friends, the woman watching and listen his song at the window of her house. The man also brought the gift for the woman's parent. If the parent and the woman approve the group singing that is the time to enter the woman's house and his gift give to the parent.
The man entertained by the woman at the living room. while the man and woman talking each other, the parent seat near to them and heard it all, no secret all topics heard by the woman's parent. The woman must not show her affection to the man even she full in love with him. The man must show his destiny thru giving more patience in courtship. He need not to give up until the woman accept him. The woman give the challenge to the man by giving long time back and forth to her house almost three month or more until the woman feel the man is sincere. Then, that is the time she accept him and we called them "love bird"
If the "love bird "is ready to get marry, the parent of the man will go to the house of the woman and both their parent talk about when and where the wedding day. what is the preparation. After the wedding day fix, the man continue to go the house of the woman to help the family of the woman to show them that he is independent and ready to have their own family in the future. He continue go to woman's house until the wedding day will come.
The premarital sex not happen because virginity of the woman is only the gift to her husband on the wedding night.
In modern courtship. The man can court the woman anytime and anywhere he want. They went anywhere to different places like beaches, parties etc without knowing by their parent. They don't ask permission to their parent where they will go. The man court to the woman even thru mobile text messages. The woman accept him in a short period of time without any hard work of courtship. It's easy to the woman accept the man without knowing him very well as long as she full in love to the man. We can called " it's easy to get" easy to acceptance.
After they become a "lover" and they will decided to get married, they decide of their own.. When lover finished the wedding plans,that is the time to let to their respective parent know about their plans of getting married. Some others bride get pregnant during on wedding day.
In our Technology today, there are many ways in courtship either thru facebook, whatsapp, messenger, skype, twitter, etc. using any of the social media as long as they can communicate each other anywhere in the world.
Preparation for the group singing in front to the house of the woman as a part of courtship by the man
Man: If you accept me as your boyfriend
I will ask your hands from your parent
I will love you forever and I will make you a princess
In the house where in we live
Woman: I will not accept your love at this moment
If you want you will come back again if you wish
As of now I don't have other feeling
Except a feeling as a friend
Man: How I wish if next time will visit
I hear your big YES
Sooner or later we will be a lover
So that we will have a happy family forever.
Woman: Just pray for your intention
For now I can't give you assurance
I will not give you hope
If next time your love will approve.
At the beach where in the courtship done. The woman accept him immediately on that place without any trials as long as they love each other. The promises done
Man: This place is the witness of our feelings
That I love you and you love me
I will make your all days happy
As long as you are here beside me
Woman: Yes I hope that your love is true
That is why I did not say no to you
I am happy stay beside you
Hoping that your love will be forever
Man: Yes, just trust me to love you forever
As long as I am still breathing
I will do my best that is my promise
To love you forever until the end
Woman: Yes, I believe and feel your love
I stay with you forever that is my promise
With my love for you
To make you happy until the end.